So a few weeks ago TomboyX, a gender neutral and eco-friendly underwear line, reached out to me to collaborate for the holiday. This is my first time ever working with a underwear brand. I was super excited initially. However, I was so afraid to get in front of camera to reveal to the world my body. What I wear and my makeup is my comfort zone. I am comfortable with my clothes on but when I feel it is necessary to take a few of my layers off, I freaked out. Is this the day someone is going to attack me in the comment section? What if I say the wrong thing? Is someone going to noticed that I have a lot of scares on my legs from eczema? You know I have not quite over come all my body insecurities: dry skin, lumps, scars, and my body shape. So I challenge myself with this collaboration. I stripped off a few of layers and got in front of the camera.
Everyone at some point of their lives have felt insecure about how they look. While some are feeling too heavy, their is someone feeling underweight. Or you can be feeling too hairy, or someone doesn’t feel they have enough hair. Omg does the cycle every end? It can feel like it is impossible to get out of. I know for myself body insecurity has been with me since my adolescent, high school, all the way to adulthood.
Society can be quite harsh and unrealistic when it comes to our body. Shade is definitely thrown unfairly on those that are heavy, however what brings me comfort is that society doesn’t have clue. All that is left is acceptance, and self compassion. I am here say that you can rid yourself of all the negative thoughts and insecurities of your body. The key is to learn how to love your body and to accept all other body types too. There is no cookie cutter body shape for everyone. The time is now to embrace yourself. How can I overcome my insecurities? So in this post sis, we are going to learn a three simple way to conquer those uncertainties.
Learn to Love Yourself
You have to let go of all societal ideals on what the “perfect body” is. Society may have spoon feed us through social media, TV, etc, what the “perfect body” is. Let me say this calmly, THERE IS NO SUCH THING OF THE “PERFECT BODY”. So accept yours. I believe standing in front the mirror naked is excellent way to get comfortable with yourself. Focus on saying (or write) 5 things you like about your self. Add a new like everyday. This is self love! You are taking the right step to loving you.
Reversing Negative Body Image
Is it really fair to hold a grudge towards our bodies for the rest of our lives? No, we have to take healthy steps to overcome our insecurities and negative thoughts. Being insecure can open the door for other bad emotions: jealousy, anger, and depression. I believe if you want to change something about yourself, you should only change because YOU want to change. Not for acceptances, or because your being pressured to do so. If you want to improve something physical, start by redeeming your self esteem first. Positive changes will come when you tackle your negative thoughts.
Set Realistic Goals.
Do not set yourself up for unrealistic goals or aspire to look like someone. For example, I weight 200 pounds. By next month I need to weight 120 pounds. Come on now, I am setting myself for failure. This applies to looks, shape, hair, etc. Understand this if you truly want to change, you have to change for YOU only. There is process for everything, you have to be willing and dedicate. So brainstorm want you want to achieve, and get as specific as possible. Whatever it is you are wishing to do make sure you do all your research. Smart planning sis !
Featuring this soft sports bar and boy shorts. Such a cozy set when you need to take a load off. If you want to be comfort check out TomboyX and their other underwear styles.
Boy Short “Chilly Penguin Print”// TomboyX**
Essential Soft Bra “Chilly Penguin Print”// Tomboyx**
Location: My Home
Photographer: Daniela Lisi – Nicole & Daniela Photography | IG: @nicole_daniela_studio or @nicole_daniela_photo |Website: www.NicoleDanielaPhoto.com
Special shout to Daniela. I have work with her a few times and I know something great is going to pop off for her. She has an amazing eye to photography and she is super nice!
Do you struggle with a negative body image? What have you done to try to overcome your insecurities?
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**Bra and Boy shorts was given in collaboration with TomboyX. All opinions are my own.
This is so beautiful. Everyrhing about is true facts. My insecurities are stomach and arms. Oh how I wish I would have taken better xare if my body but I habe started and it may be a little too late to tighten body mass but heck I’m going to keep trying. Love it you are awesome.
Yeah take it one day at time. Change for YOU! Thank you for reading. I really appreciate the love.
I couldn’t love this more! Thank you for inspiring me and spreading so much positvity!
Thank you for the kind words ! I really appreciate it 😊
You’re so welcome!