Single Life Series: Things I Learned About Self While Being Single

Single Life Series: Things I Learned About Self While Being Single

First and foremost, my love life is not remotely interesting. Simply I have been engulf in a see of prospect than turns into to f**k boys. I am no good when it comes to relationships. Frankly, being single sucks at time. I really feel this way when the romantic season approaches.  Valentines is next week.  I already know my timeline is going to jumping, fill of relationship goals hash-tagging , and gifts. Everybody acting really happy on this commercial holiday.  Sometimes, you can’t help but dread being single.  Man, they all make it look so good to be in a relationship. I am saying to myself, “really I want that”.  To be honest, I am starting feel like I will never find that special guy.

Let me keep it all the way 100: I really want to be in relationship with a guy that really cares about me and I care about him. But it is so hard to date now. Man, some of  y’all dudes have been giving me gas! Lol I over it and I am not settling anymore.  Since I have been single I have learned tons of things. What I want and need.  Self love. Knowing what I will not accept. In this post we are going to explore how being single really helped me learn a lot about myself. Hopefully this post can helps us change our perspective on being single.

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Face you make when he says you look pretty for big girl….
  1. Just because it does not work out with someone, does not mean you are a bad person. I have a lot of fall attempts when in comes to being in relationship. They use to leave me asking “what wrong with me”. I had one guy that I was super interested in and it seem like I was always chasing him. I could never get a hold of him. I was wondering if it was something wrong me.  Did I do something wrong? Of course my anxiety was speaking to me loudly saying you should have done this or said less of this. I learn over the course of being single that it is nothing wrong me and I had nothing to do with the reason why he went away. I am just enough. I do not need to do more or less. Any guy that wants me will want to continue to get to know me
  2. No means no! I learn to stand up for myself finally especially to guys.  I know exactly what will not stand.  I finally have set some standard in place
  3. Girlfriends are life savers. Being single you learn that having a good friends in your corner keep you from doing stupid things. I learn so much more about myself when I have discussion with my closest girlfriends. I think I will be a better person for that special someone when the time is right.
  4. Online dating sucks. This is no shade to anyone that enjoy online dating, or who have found their partner online. My experience with it has suck eggs. I felt like everyone on there, that are interested in me, only wants to hook up. Then people lost interest so fast. I rather meet people in person.
  5. Self Discovery- I know what I want.  I have a lot more time to learn myself and work on myself. What I am passionate about?  What I want I want and need? What I wont accept? I value myself so much more, and the way I treat myself will show the my next guy how to treat me
  6. Don’t keep people around just because your lonely- No settling.  I have settle in some trash ass relationship just to spare myself from being lonely. In my opinion, this is when I made some terrible mistakes. Don’t let loneliness cloud your judgement.  Please do not make the mistake for settling for someone that you know deep down they are not right for you. I gave myself time to work on self for that right person.
  7. I suck at communication. I am not good at communication. I blame it on my anxiety. Over thinking and not asking enough questions. Over the time of being single I learned that I need to get better at communication my thoughts.
  8. I am sexy. I don’t not need a man’s validation. When I was younger, the only way I felt beautiful was from a guy telling me I was pretty. Even then it was half ass. Your pretty for a dark skin girl  or pretty for a big girl… WHAT !? The only validation I need is my own. I learned to love & appreciate myself more while being single.
  9. My life does not begin when I find the right person. My life is great right now, it does not start when a man enter it. My life is full for fun, creativity, and great friends and family fill it up. God made me special all on my own. My life will still continue with our without a man present in it.
  10. Maintaining a Relationship is hard. Social media can really trick you out here. Everyone relationship on line looks so good, they only show you want they want you to see. Behind the mask it is hard work and it not always peaches and cream. Being on my own is way easier than being a relationship.

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Special Thanks to  Nicole & Daniela Photography!  They always come through for me!

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With that being said, being single is not all that bad. Stay tuned. We are going to dive in deeper on the next post in “Single Life Series”.

What are you thoughts on being single ? What have your learn as a single person?

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Chapter 2… February Goals

Chapter 2… February Goals

I know I know… February is when you are going to start fresh?! Right?! I have been seeing this meme going around social media where a lot of people are claiming to start there New Years in February.  I guess January was tough. Hmmm, I know for myself January was kinda hard sis. However, I am so thankful for all the goals I was able to cross off my list. All the doors that open up for me. Another birthday I was able to see and celebrate. I made it through, here we are now at the month love. Wow time really has gone by so fast.

February I have a lot to look forward to. It is the first day of BLACK HISTORY MONTH!  To be frank, Black history is celebrated every day. It is a special month because it is a time to acknowledge the history, excellence, and enjoy how far we have come.

On top of celebrating I find it is very important to remember self. I know for me a get a little down in because I am a single woman. Can I not celebrate valentines because I’m single? So, a little self love and self care goes a long way. I try to find ways to keep my spirits up. Of course Valentines Day is right around the corner and I dread seeing all the post on social media. I guess I can share my thoughts on love on the new podcast! Yes I said podcast!! I am thrilled to announce the brand new ”The Gals Club” Podcast ! I am one out four co-host! IMPORTANT: The first episode will premiere on Feb 7th at 7 pm, every Thursday, every week! Going LIVE on Anueyoumedia.com. Also download the SMD Live app to listen as well. Will be up on the Apple Podcast app soon!

Fashion Note

New York Fashion Week is on its way, and I cannot wait to see all the new things that are coming to the runway. (Feb 8- Feb16th) Already the magazines are giving us the inside scoop on Spring fashion. According to February’s issue of Harper’s Bazaar & InStyle magazines that studded bags, ruffles, plaids, neutrals, dark floral prints, etc. I also noticed that acid wash denim might be making a come back! Yess ! If you want me to create a spring fashion cheat sheet, let me know in the comment section!

This years spring/ summer colors, according to Pantone,  different hues of beige, navy, and browns. Neutral shades are definitely in for this spring season. On the colorful side of things neon colors, marigold. magenta, orange, & cobalt blue. You can also get away with pastel colors. Textiles and patterns: Crochet, fishnet, tie dye print, and artisan pieces. The trend that I am loving is animal print. Snakeskin is on my to do fashion list!

I am super excited this month to step outside my comfort zone a bit. Since love is going to all through the air it is only right that I play with some reds, and pinks in my wardrobe. Lastly what has been my go too in my wardrobe has been blazers! I must say the blazers are the power player last month! Keep a watch out for my Instagram… a few of best blazers are going to be making preview or two.

Blog Note

During this month I want to talk about being single coming from a single person perspective. Ha We are going to dive into my love life, and fish through my thoughts. So all next week is for the single folks! Those that are in relationships, of course, Y’all can read it too! We don’t discriminate here. I can’t forget about fashion. I know a few of my readers are going to be doing some special things for valentines day. You I am going to help y’all out… Showing Y’all how to dress for any occasion, up or down. I plan to take myself out, so yeah I am getting dressed up for it! Hmm, feel like a beauty post is coming too! Definitely, planning on patronizing a few black own businesses in the process.

I currently don’t have any brand partnerships or collaboration at the moment. So I have a lot of great content coming to the blog. So stay tuned. Also don’t hesitate to follow me on Instagram and Facebook. I make a lot of great announcement on my social media platforms.

Personal Note/ Goals

I made a lot of changes for the better of self in January. I am keeping the same energy from January and bring it with me this month.

  1. Drink more water
  2. Eat more fruits and vegetables
  3. Save money for airfare for NYC trip
  4. Pay off my dentist bill & my mother back
  5. Continue to keep going with my blogging plans & stay organize
  6. Think positive

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What are you looking forward to in February?

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DIY: Beautiful & Affordable Photo Backdrop

DIY: Beautiful & Affordable Photo Backdrop

Life can definitely have us all spiraling out of control. I know for myself it is hard trying to keep up with everything. Finances, blogging, birthday…. oh snap that right my birthday. So again I waited to the last minute to plan my birthday.

Normally for my birthday I would hang out with friends, go to bar, or go out to eat nothing that really dazzles. Anyway this year I decided to have a party at my apartment.  I thought to myself how cool would it be to have a photo booth at my birthday. Bring my love for taking pictures to the party.  Since I was strapped for cash I decide to find a way to make my money stretch a bit. So I plugged into my creativity and designed my own backdrop and made a makeshift photo booth.


1: What you need!

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2 8ft Door curtains at Party City for $8.99/ea

“Party” Gold Air Filled  Foil Balloon for $5.99

2 Number Gold Air Filled Foil Balloons/ Dollar Tree for $1.. Note: you need at least 1 or 2 numbers

Confetti balloons// Dollar Tree for $1

 

 

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Pair of Big Silly Gold Glasses

Pink Boa

Cheerleader Pom Poms

Note: I got all these props from my local Dollar Castle. If you don’t have a Dollar Castle in your area you can always go to Party City and check out the aisle with all the colorful props.

Tripod & Camera (optional)

Clear Scotch Tape

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2: The SetUp!

IMPORTANT !!: Make sure you find a well lit area. I went with my dining room.

First hang the door curtain one at a time. I decided to place the door curtains on the wall. I tape them both down using a few pieces of scotch tape. Do the same with the next door curtain. (Note: If you want to make the curtain appear more fuller, I would suggest to get 1 more door curtain and put it under the other curtains.)

Once you tape down the door curtains. Then you can add the details to the back drop. First add the foil balloons. Simple use the straw that is included in pouch. These balloons don’t require helium so all you need to do it blow them up on your own. The party balloon comes with a white string. So I inserted the ribbon through the “2” and the “9” and tape it down and let it hang. Simple as that.

Lastly I added my props near by, added some confetti filled balloons and there you have it the finish backdrop.

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3: Setup Camera (Optional)

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If you have a tripod set it up to your desire height. Position it right in the middle of the backdrop. Lastly figure out if you want the pictures to come out vertical or horizontal. Note: If you don’t have a camera then take your phone and get to snapping!

Simple right?! I had so much designing my very own backdrop for my party. Going forward I am going to do this more often for photo shoots at home. This backdrop ran me all together, including the props, $30 bucks! Not bad at all !!

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BLOGIVERSARY: FashionLayn Turns 4 !!

BLOGIVERSARY: FashionLayn Turns 4 !!

FashionLayn turns 4 years old today! BLOGIVERSARY!

I started not to post this. I was kinda feeling like who really cares… But… Skip that! I am going to celebrate my blogging career. Blogging is hard and it deserves to be celebrated.

I have been blogging for 4 years straight now. Omg, I can’t believe it! Thank you to all that have supported my journey! Read a post or two, took my pictures, and kept me motivated. Thank you to those that gave me honest hard feedback… tough to hear but I heard you. Y’all are the real MVPs. I continue to blog for you all. You all make a girl feel so important. I finally have a voice… and I can share it! Thank you for handing me the megaphone to speak my peace.

Now when I initially thought about blogging I knew for sure it was going to be easy. I was going to grow my following fast. Sponsorships were doing to falling in my lap. Collaborating was going to breeze Haha silly Alayna…. I was so wrong. Building a platform is not easy! Over the course of my blogging journey, I have never worked so hard in my life! I learned to work smarter not harder. I learned to grow my audience by interacting and networking… something that was never going to come easily to me. I learned that it’s okay to ask for help. Also, I figured out that if you want something then you have to go get it yourself. Closed mouths don’t get fed. I felt that in my soul. FashionLayn definitely thicken up my skin and really made me better person. So I am going to keep pushing forward. Being creative, and finding ways to help my audience!

Consistency is more important than perfection.

So as I sit here at my parent’s home, scheduling my February content, I am thankful to see another year of passion and growth. Cheers to new opportunities, growth, collaborations, and sponsorship!

Thank you so much for being an amazing audience! Commenting and reading through my sometimes chopping post. Sidenote: I am working on it! Lol I appreciate each and every one of you!

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