STORY TIME|First Time Wearing A Swimsuit in 14 Years | #JustWearTheSuit

STORY TIME|First Time Wearing A Swimsuit in 14 Years | #JustWearTheSuit

#JustWearTheSuit is a hashtag created by Caryl, a body positive blogger of Lipgloss and Crayons. She built a community around a hashtag to encourage everyBODY to get into their swimsuits and celebrate body image and journey.   And boy do I have journey to share y’all

So, I was introduced to #JustWearTheSuit hashtag by a fellow blogger I met at a fashion show, Kendall Rayburn. She is one of the sweetest people to come across. I told her haven’t worn a swimsuit in years. 14 years to be exact!! When she told me about it, I had a big knot in the back of my throat. Saying to myself, ”Can I do this…. You already show your body off in underwear.” Hell with it, I need to face my body insecurities head on and just do it.

Yeahhh, so I finally wore a swimsuit, OKAY! After a long extending period without wearing a swimsuit, I got my beautiful body in one. I am so overjoyed that I did it. Shout out to Carly for forming this amazing hashtag while encouraging us to wear a swimsuit. Also, she letting the world know that everyone can wear a swimsuit and look good! See, conquering fear is not so bad.

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Smiling in Swimsuit from SHEIN

My Story

The last memory I have of being in swimsuit was probably when I was 14. A teenage girl at the Boys & Girls Club going to Red Oaks water park in Metro Detroit. At that time I did not think of myself as beautiful. I let the world convince me that I was not beautiful. I bought into it and folded on myself! I believe I was too big to wear a swimsuit and nobody would want to see my body. I did not want to see my curves. So that was all she wrote and I completely stop wearing a swimsuit.

As a teenager, I was not confident at all. I was this curvy nerd like black girl from the hood who did not know how to fit in. Growing up, you did not want to be label as anything but cool.  Cool didn’t fit me so I became the funny girl. I would talk down and make fun of myself, before any one else could. I guess you can say it hurt less. Anyway, nothing around me made feel like my body was amazing. Music videos only glorified smaller women. Clothing stores never carried anything that was cute for me.  Nothing I saw represented me. During that time I was having a hard time navigating in world that only saw one standard of beauty. I did not fit that mold, no matter how hard I tried to fit in.  On top of my insecurities I DID NOT KNOW HOW TO SWIM. So I stayed away from water parks! If I couldn’t my love for water parks I would wear boxes and shirts that match. This made me look bigger, and body-less Smh, I can remember my boy boxes falling off in the pool exposing my whole butt to the world.

Sidenote: I never learned how to swim. I took free swimming classes when I was 8. However the classes end right in the middle of me learning, with no explanation. So my rule is, as long as my feet can touch the bottom of the pool I am good. SMH 

Anyway it has taking me a long time to get to this point in my life.  14 years and I got my beautiful curvy/ fluffy body in swimsuit. I can say it loudly that I GOT A BANGING BODY! OKAY!! I am showing off and wearing a halter top high waisted bikini from SHEIN. Even adding a bold color like red to make the experience more gratifying for me.  Whew I am doing it sis. It took a lot of hard work and SELF LOVE.  Honestly, I had to get over myself and stop listening to the world. Now, it was not all me! It people like Carly who creates hashtag to encourage! Or Sasha from Flaws of Couture to push to wear swimsuit all summer long! The world doesn’t have a clue what is best for us. THERE IS NOT ONE STANDARD OF BEAUTY. I learn that everyone is beautiful in there own way.  No more trying to fit. Stand out and pave your own lane. We should not tell people what is beautiful and what is not. I became a fashion blogger to embrace my body. My curves are fire okay!

“Life is too short to spend another day at war with yourself.”

-Rita Ghatowey

So like the hashtag says JUST WEAR THE SUIT. We are beautiful just the way we was made. Don’t let anything stop you from being happy and enjoying life. So I encourage you take the swimsuit challenge. Make sure you use the hashtag #JustWearTheSuit. Make sure you check the hashtag and see the other ladies in their suits too! SWIMSUIT all summer long sis! LEAD WITH CONFIDENCES !!!

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Face of Pure Joy

Location: At Home

Photographer: Me, Myself, and I


 Do you say swimsuit or bathing suit? Were you every afraid to put on swimsuit? If so, why were you afraid? Have you conquer your fear? 

Share with me in the comment section. Let’s talk sis

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Dealing With My Scars in True & Co Intimate Apparel

Dealing With My Scars in True & Co Intimate Apparel

This post was done in collaboration with True & Co – but trust, all opinions are my own. #truebody #togetherwearetrue #sponsored

What is something you are insecure about? We all are insecure about something. I have tons of insecurities. Speaking of insecurities, my biggest one has to be my skin.  On the blog today I will be share my painful story about my skin how I am dealing with it as an adult. What so special about this post is that I am collaborating with with True&Co,  an intimate apparel brand.  Their focus is to help women feel comfortable in their skin. Certainly got me out of my comfort zone and made me feel comfortable in my skin. As a grown woman now I learning to walk and be proud in my skin.  I am showing off my resilience and endurance.

My skin trouble started as a little girl. I can remember it being a total problem when I started going to school and summer camp  My body was riddle with small bumps, scaly skin, and dry patches. I had eczema and my skin was super sensitive to everything. For whatever reason, my eczema would flare up in my inner arms, and behind my legs. Coming of age, I could never wear cute costume jewelry growing up. I could only wear 14kt gold. I would get a huge rash on my neck. Sheesh. I had to constantly carry funny smelling cremes and shea butter to counteract the itch.  Living with skin like mine was a constant battle. I can still remember crying telling my mom about how kids use to tease me about my skin. I will never forget at summer camp, this girl was afraid to sit next to me on the bus. She was pointing at my arms in disgust.  “Is that contagious” she said loudly. At that moment I was hurt and embarrass. Why me?

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Featuring the True Body Lift V Neck Racerback Bra in Bronzed | Size: XL

Now I am grown up and I don’t have the flare up like I use to as kid.  However I am still reminded by those little circular scares and patches left behind on my body.  I treat my scars with raw shea butter, coco butter, and self love. To learn other ways to conquer body insecurities, check out this post. Shea butter smooths my skin while the coco butter helps with scaring and hyerpigmentation. If I have a break out my cream is my right hand sis. My scars are me and I refuse to look at them negatively. I am in love with my #truebody

So I teamed up with True&Co and force myself yet again to get in from of the camera bare it all. I am featuring the seamless bras in  and panties from their True Body Collection.  These products claims to be invisible under the clothes and to give you a nice lift.  Let me just say I have never worn a bra and panty set that was sooo comfortable.  The bras gave my girls a nice life while giving me just enough padding. The padding was easy to remove and easy to adjust.

I was sent the True Body Life V Neck Racerback Bra, True Body Scoop Neck Bra, and 2  True Body Hipster in the shades bronzed and mink in size XL. First, I love that they had different colors other than “traditional nudes”. They had shades that compliment different skin tones and complexions  Secondly, they were super seamless.  The bras and panty from True Body Collection will have you believing you have nothing own under your clothes.  Lastly, I love how stylish the bras were. My favorite has to be the V Neck Racerback bra in bronzed. I can really get away with wearing this out in public in the summer time. That is how cute it is!!

The True Body Bras retail from $44 – $58 and size ranges extend to 42DDD/F. In addition True Underwear start at $16 and size ranges XL. NOTE: I do think they need to extend there sizes True Body Underwear. Anyway, I do see myself ordering other bras and set from this collection. It is just that comfortable, OKAY !!

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Featuring the True Body Scoop Neck Bra and Tre Body Hipters in the shade Mink  | Size XL

“Insecurity kills all that is beautiful.”

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Location: My Home


What is something you are insecure about? Have you overcome it? If so, what did you do to get past it ?

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3 Simple Ways to Conquer Your Body Insecurities 

3 Simple Ways to Conquer Your Body Insecurities 

So a few weeks ago TomboyX, a gender neutral and eco-friendly underwear line, reached out to me to collaborate for the holiday.  This is my first time ever working with a underwear brand.  I was super excited initially.  However, I was so afraid to get in front of camera to reveal to the world my body. What I wear and my makeup is my comfort zone.  I am comfortable with my clothes on but when I feel it is necessary to take a few of my layers off, I freaked out. Is this the day someone is going to attack me in the comment section? What if I say the wrong thing? Is someone going to noticed that I have a lot of scares on my legs from eczema? You know I have not quite over come all my body insecurities: dry skin, lumps, scars, and my body shape. So I challenge myself with this collaboration. I stripped off a few of layers and got in front of the camera.

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Everyone at some point of their lives have felt insecure about how they look. While some are feeling too heavy, their is someone feeling underweight.  Or you can be feeling  too hairy, or someone doesn’t feel they have enough hair. Omg does the cycle every end?  It can feel like it is impossible to get out of. I know for myself body insecurity has been with me since my adolescent, high school, all the way to adulthood.

Society can be quite harsh and unrealistic when it comes to our body. Shade is definitely thrown unfairly on those that are heavy, however what brings me comfort is that society doesn’t have clue.  All that is left is acceptance, and self compassion. I am here say that you can rid yourself of all the negative thoughts and insecurities of your body. The key is to learn how to love your body and to accept all other body types too. There is no cookie cutter body shape for everyone. The time is now to embrace yourself. How can I overcome my insecurities? So in this post sis, we are going to learn a three simple way to conquer those uncertainties.

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Learn to Love Yourself

You have to let go of all societal ideals on what the “perfect body” is. Society may have spoon feed us through social media, TV, etc, what the “perfect body” is.  Let me say this calmly, THERE IS NO SUCH THING OF THE “PERFECT BODY”. So accept yours.  I believe standing in front the mirror naked is excellent way to get comfortable with yourself. Focus on saying (or write) 5 things you like about your self. Add a new like everyday. This is self love! You are taking the right step to loving you.

Reversing Negative Body Image

Is it really fair to hold a grudge towards our bodies for the rest of our lives? No, we have to take healthy steps to overcome our insecurities and negative thoughts. Being insecure can open the door for other bad emotions: jealousy, anger, and depression. I believe if you want to change something about yourself, you should only change because YOU want to change. Not for acceptances, or because your being pressured to do so. If you want to improve something physical, start by redeeming your self esteem first. Positive changes will come when you tackle your negative thoughts.

Set Realistic Goals. 

Do not set yourself up for unrealistic goals or aspire to look like someone. For example, I weight 200 pounds. By next month I need to weight 120 pounds. Come on now, I am setting myself for failure. This applies to looks, shape, hair, etc. Understand this if you truly want to change, you have to change for YOU only. There is process for everything, you have to be willing and dedicate.  So brainstorm want you want to achieve, and get as specific as possible. Whatever it is you are wishing to do make sure you do all your research. Smart planning sis !

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Boy Short “Chilly Penguin Print”// TomboyX**

Essential Soft Bra “Chilly Penguin Print”// Tomboyx**


Location: My Home

Photographer: Daniela Lisi – Nicole & Daniela Photography | IG: @nicole_daniela_studio or @nicole_daniela_photo |Website: www.NicoleDanielaPhoto.com 

Special shout to Daniela. I have work with her a few times and I know something great is going to pop off for her. She has an amazing eye to photography and she is super nice!


Do you struggle with a negative body image? What have you done to try to overcome your insecurities? 

Share with me in the comment section. Let me know what I could add to this list.

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**Bra and Boy shorts was given in collaboration with TomboyX. All opinions are my own.

My Body Image Gives Me The Blues Sometimes! How to deal ?

My Body Image Gives Me The Blues Sometimes! How to deal ?

Dealing with body struggles is a tough thing to swallow. It something that everybody has dealt with throughout or some point of their lives. I can really be tough on my body at times. Wishing my stomach was flatter, I wish I didn’t have dimples on my butt, or stretch marks. Wishing my skin was more clearer or my teeth brighter.  All those things that keep me obsessing.

Here come the school stories. I was called “butter ball” in middle school. Also I was the thick girl in high school. Yeah some guys actually called me big mama! Really ! You already know that having meat on your bones was rarely celebrate or in style.  Then I had a bad love triangle thing in college… all the way wrong! So yes the anxiety set in and your trying to do anything and everything to fit in what the world says is normal. Little do you know your now on the road of body image struggles.

Over time I learn to love my body but I don’t love it all time. I can be somewhat critical of myself, and that really gives me the blues something.  How do I deal with my body struggles ?

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The way I looked at my body struggles came from a number of things. Bad breakups, being teased, a lot of negative things that shaped how I feel and see my body. It really hard being a woman trying to find her place in world with it different standards on body image, and beauty. Its hard as hell ! I know a number of us have one or handful things that they want to change about our appearance. So how do we cope with this? How do we not get completly disgusted with our bodies ?

How to Improve Your Body Image ?

  1. Stop being so mean to yourself . We can be our worst critic! Have you noticed that you can list the negative things faster than the positive things. So listen and become more aware to what you are saying to yourself. Remember that no one on this earth is perfect . So if you see yourself being negative… Stop it ! Say I am “fine as hell”! I say  lol that but really give yourself a positive compliment !
  2. Learn and accept your body. I learn to love my body when I started my blog. I become a blogger specifically to improve how I seen and felt about my body. Getting in front of the camera. Taking risk with certain outfit really change how I viewed myself. I started taking more pride in myself
  3. Positive affirmations. Every morning I tell myself how much I love me ! Especially in the mirror. Something I stand in front of the mirror naked and I just give myself positive affirmation shower. I shower myself with self love.
  4. List what your love about yourself. I love to think about this. Every once in awhile I have to remind myself because I get the blues. So I listen all the things I love about me. I love my butt, or my smile! Or how funny I am ! All those things matter.
  5. Get a massage!
  6. Nourish your body. Feed your body right. I never claim to be a fitness guru or anything like that. However I notice when I eat right and really nourish my body I feel good. My image on my body is not distorted based off how I feel. When I feel good internally my image of my body looks good too

“Don’t let your mind bully your body”.

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Sis you are worthy!

Self Worth is key to battling  your negative body image. You are worthy!  What is self worth ? Well the way I understand self worth is being deserving of good things. You are worthy of good health, happiness, success, or whatever you see fit to make you happy. In order to do something about how your perceive body you first have to re-evaluate your worth. If you do not tackle this  or understand how worthy you are you will undermine everything step you take to improve your body image. So work at consistently.  I preach this all the time, take time and learn yourself. Ask yourself serious question about you, what make you tick, what you love ? Accept the good,  bad , and the ugly. Self Love. Have compassion and I think you are on the right path in improving your self worth.


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On The Fashion Tip

Omg this look paired with this location just all came together so beautifully.  I chose to do a classic look for the spring time. My views on my body change so much over time, I love showing off my curves and even my stomach. Look at the belly button peeping through lol. I got this whole outfit….. Give you time to guess!! If you a frequent reader you already know how much I love Forever 21. SO yes the whole outfit is from Forever. I decided to do a classic look however it had a few twist. Normal classic look is consider a nice pair plain denim jeans with a button down woven shirt. Classy right ! I had to push to agenda. Yes a blue and white stripped woven shirt  with twisted hem set the outfit off right. I wore this shirt out and I got a lot of compliments on it and really becoming on the belly.  Now the denim. Spring always bring out the classic denim looks however, my denim are always distressed. I love distressed jeans because of  that extra edginess I need to bring to my look. Lastly to keep this look clean, sharpe , and edgy I had to add my all time favorite sneakers into the mix. Low Top White Converse ! This shoe alone can make a lot of outfits complete !

 Check out the links below to get this look in your closet !  

This whole outfit is less than 110 bucks!

Plus Size Blue & White Stripped Woven Twist Hem Shirt//Forever21// Shop |Similar

Plus Size Distressed Skinny Ankle Jeans// Forever21// Shop

White Converse Chuck Taylor All Star Low Top// Journeys// Shop

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With all that being said sis it never to late to change the way you view your body. Your body is unique and it yours so get out of your own way and love on you. Remember you are worthy and that is the key to help arm yourself from your negative views of your body image. You got the tools so work on this daily. I am right with you sis. No more blues !

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Alayna

 

Location: Belle Isle Park | Detroit, MI

Photographer: Reem Eissa Photography

special shoutout to Reem. she is my new favorite photographer. omg shooting with her is amazing. the location alone was beautiful. i love shooting at the belle isle conservatory because you can get a different look every time.

IG: @reem.eissa.photo

FB:Reem Eissa Photography