Love Letter to my Readers
Happy Valentine’s Day!
I’m going to keep this post simple and straight to the point. Love yourself. I use to dread Valentine’s Day. Nobody special to share it with …. oh and look all the gifts on the timeline.. logs off. I learn over time that I should not be bitter. I can celebrate too. What I take from Valentine’s Day is love. Not love for a lover or a significant other. Simply love for myself. I love me and everything that makes me … me! I have stated countless time before you can’t expect to love someone else when you don’t love yourself. It’s the truth sis ! It not easy. I have bad days sometimes but I don’t let my bad days define Alayna ! So don’t speak down on you. Love you and everything that makes you…you! Had to say it a second time. So slay the day hun ! Love on yourself . Hug yourself . Tell yourself your beautiful ! Change the narrative on yourself ! Speak kind words to yourself! Shower yourself with Valentines today and everyday because you are a gem that can’t be replace.
“The way you speak to yourself matters”.
On the Fashion tip
As always I stick with a casual look. You know me and I have to say how I am feeling on my graphic tees. I swear I going to put this look to rest. Graphic tees are my favorite with a skirt!.
I really want to highlight the mini skirt. The skirt was my favorite piece out of the whole outfit. The plaid print is a step in the right directions for spring. I can’t wait for the weather to break !
Of course to complete the look I had to add my heart crossover to the mix.
Glen Plaid Mini Skirt//Forever21 SHOP NOW
Future is for Girl Graphic Tee// Forever21 SHOP NOW
Heart shape crossover// Forever21 SIMILAR
So with all that being said love yourself. You do not need to wait around to receive love when all you have to do is show yourself some love.
Location: Northville, MI
Special Thanks to Richelle, the photograher, she is amazing ! Always come through for me !
**Feature Photos Credit- Richelle Marie Photography IG: @richellemariephoto
Gift Guide for my Single Ladies for Valentines Day
So Valentines Day is around the corner. I already know the struggle being a single woman I’ve been there. So don’t get in your feelings because you don’t have anyone special to share it with. Please don’t get jealous of the our Twitter and Instagram feed of all the V-day gifts that get posted ladies. I am a firm believer that you do not need to wait for someone to love you to enjoy Valentines Day. Love yourself hunny. Now somebody told me that buying a gift for yourself for Valentines is pretty pathetic. Hmmmmmm so buying myself a gift and loving myself is pathetic.. Don’t get me to speculate. LOL. To my single hunnies and my ladies that are taken if you want to buy yourself something for Valentines Day go for it. Self-Love is the best love. We can’t expect to love somebody fully if we don’t love ourselves first.
1: Thigh High Boots:
If you want to feeel extra sexy get some sexy thigh high boots. I know when I put my thigh highs on…. girl I walk a little taller. I feel like a “bad gyal”. So get you sex appeal on get you pair of thigh high boots and go out and have fun.
These boots are from Forever: Faux Suede Over the Knee Boots/// ShopNow
2: Bouquet of Roses:
Roses scream love! Flowers are feel good for me. I normally don’t get flowers from a lover. So again why wait for flowers to come to you. Go out and buy yourself some flowers and put them in cute vase. If you know me I would take some pictures of the flowers. You know how I feel about flower aesthetics.
Treat yourself with nice bouquet of roses or flowers ladies. I’m on Tiffany Hadish “groupon” kick so if you need a deal on flowers check them out. Order you some flowers and mail them to yourself !
3: Sexy Intimates:
Who said you have to spice up you intimates only when you lover come through. I say get you some sexy lace and feel good now. When a get new panty set, I feel so good and confidence when I look in the mirror.
Ashley Graham Show Stopper Intimates (left)// Nordstrom ShopNow
Leopard Lace Bra and Panty Set (right)// Forever21 ShopNow
I preferred to get all my intimates from Lane Bryant Caciques . Lane Bryant have an awesome select for Valentines Day in addition they have extended sizes. I think a nice lacy set will put you in a nice sexy feel good mood. So yes hunny I got my set ready.
4: Pour Up some Red wine:
To be honest I never enjoyed red wine until I had me a glass of Jam Jar on NYE. SO hooked now. So yes get you nice glass of wine and drink up and enjoy with you friends or by yourself.
5: Sexy in Red Lip:
Put on a red lips and see how sexy you get. A red lip scream a temption. So yeah get you nice red lip. You already know I am going to tell you to go out. However if you not in a going out mood take some selfies. Look into the mirror tell yourself Im a fine ass girl hunny ! Yass
My favorite red I have been sporting ins Smashbox Always On Matte Collection called “Bawse”. I definitely feel bossy in this shade. Of course its black girl friendly
SmashBox “Always On Matte” collection in “Bawse”// Sephora ShopNow
FentyBeauty “Stunna” Lip Paint// Sephora Shop Now
6: Self Care: Bubble Bath
Treat yourself to nice soothing bubble bath. Get you glass of wine and sit bath and relax and let the bubbles take you away.
Darling, don’t forget to gall in love with yourself first !
So yes enjoy your Valentine’s Day with yourself. I told you don’t have to wait for a lover to enjoy the day.
**Feature Photo Credit- Richelle Marie Photography IG: @richellemariephoto
** gif graphics from Giphy.com
O M G January flew by so fast! Like it was just here but… you know the years fly by fast. January was full of excitement. Birthday check ! Blogging check ! Life kinda well it gets a check ! LOL I really say January was super successful for me as blogger More likes, more content, creativity all of that . I am also proud to announce that I join the BLOG WITH KIM MASTERMIND class. Yes I as blogger I am always open to learn more and more to become a better blogger and writer.
February I have a lot to look forward too. It is the first day of BLACK HISTORY MONTH! Black history month is everyday for me however it is a special month and it time to celebrate all the black excellence. So of course going I do some activities in Detroit for Black History Month and talk about black women. Also a little self love and self care this month. Since I am single person I try to find ways to keep my spirits up. Of course Valentines Day is right around the corner and I dread seeing all the post on social media. Look what bae got! Omg goals all that jive that drives me to drink LOL. So instead of feeling upset, I got a bae this time . My bae is me so I’m going to treat me! Maybe I’ll find a date this month who knows. The best part of this month is going to be BLACK PANTHER!! hands down ! I have to do it for the culture. Yes Blank Panther is going to be release on Feb. 16 and I going to go the first day because I going to be with the group of loud talkers and clappers lol. Fashion Week is coming yay !! Excited to see what gonna come down the runway!
be so busy loving your life that you have no time for hate, regret or fear!
I have so many ideas for the blog this month. We still growth phase and I know BLOG with Kim Mastermind class is going to help as a blogger. At the moment no new brand partnerships or collaborations. Hmmm. Maybe I will reach out to my blogger boo Leah, Beauty and the Muse, and get some things poppin. The blog is going to focus on self care and self love. Of course the budget friendly wear I definitely gonna give yall the fashion on the budget. In addition, I want to focus on black women this month. I am black women and I understand and know all the stigma of being a black women. So are gonna cover that sis. Maybe even highlight few black excellence.
For myself I want to take care better care of myself mentally. Eat right for anxiety and health. Wellness is going to be important. Maybe even do a water challenge. Lord know I need to drink more water. Of course I gonna stay focus on finances . YESSS overtime is coming !! I need it.
This month I am a big fan of the graphic tees and solid bottoms ( skirts). So you gonna get a lot of curvy action. I going to play with lots of colors, patterns, and textures. So excited to see what Fashion Week has to offer. Fashion Week in New York is Feb 9 through Feb 16. So I am going to try to recreate some looks. Also, I can’t wait to get some new magazine to get a preview of the Spring Fashion !! Of course we are going to keep everything affordable !
- Continue to grow the blog
- Water drinking challenge
- Building an email list
- Patronize more black business for this month and going forward
- Practice self love
- Apple Cider Vinger. Didn’t work out well for January. Try again February.
- Fenty Beauty Products
- Finish reading The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl by Issa Rae
- Deep clean my apartment ! Starting with my closet
Yes so much to come !
The older I get the more I understand the phrase move in silence. It that phrase let you now that you got moves, things being plan, execution, and big news . All those things that let people know that you got some things brewing. But to often I see people typing the phrase move in silence and not actually abiding by the phrase : moveee in silenceee. You don’t have to tell everybody what you doing sis. Also, too many people typing the phrase and not putting any action to it. Yeah girl she aint doing nothing she said she was doing. Lastly, sharing your big news can put a damper on your mood because of the wrong. “Yea girl how she get job I think I am more qualified then her.” Smh hold your horses sis. LOL sis you don’t have tell everybody everything or that you moving in silence. I feel like if you say something that open the flood gates for bs.
“plot quietly and humbly. manifest fruitfully and abundantly.
Why is it super important to move in silence ?
- It is important to move in silence because in all honesty is you plan fully planned out? Are you ready for the big questions? Are you prepared to execute? If you still in the phrase where you are constructing the idea, I think you should move in silence. Don’t jump the gun. It necessary to keep this to yourself until you have your plan all figure before you execute. Once you got it all figure out you go ahead type in your caption.. “Im moving in silence LOL”
- It is important to move in silence because it open up the flood gates for opinions. V All opinions are not simple or sweet. Some opinions can be critical and leave you feeling a little attack with what you have going. Not excited anymore ? So be aware that you idea might not reach everybody and that is okay. To avoid being so vulnerable keep it to yourself until you ready. Once you understand that you go ahead and type in your caption.. “Im moving in silence. LOL”
- It is important to move in silence because I believe you should and want to protect your creativity. This is similar to number 2 but it true too many opinion can cripple your creativity so I say keep it to yourself. Once you understand your creativity is precious then you can type in your caption, “ I am moving in silence LOL”
- Lastly, It is important to move in silence because you already know the hater gon hate. The envious eyes are upon you when you have good news or big plans. I know you want to tell the world your good news but there are jealous people all around us sis. They just can’t help it they love you but they hoping you fall. To avoid the mood killers keep it to yourself or tell the people that you know are geniunely rooting for you. Understand this people are going to hate whether your doing bad or good. So once that is understood go head and type that phrase.. Im moving in silence. LOL
So yes to all my sister hustling, bossing up, and making moves protect yo shit. Excuse my frankness. But in all seriousness I want yall to succeed and also on your way to success I don’t want you get stifle by talking and not doing or getting tripped up by people. So yes hunny be excited about what you got going on. We don’t have time for the killing of the vibes. So continue to vibe, stay in your line, don’t compare, please don’t hate on each other and grow. Focus sis or your plans and make moves! SHEEESH in silence tho 🙂
move in silence ladies.