How To Set Personal Boundaries as Highly Sensitive Person

Do you know what setting boundaries are? Honestly, boundaries was something I became very familiar with in my mid twenties. It was quiet foreign to me before than until I had to learn how important it is to me to protect my energy.  It was right around the time I become more aware of my anxiety triggers, and learning of being empath & highly sensitive person.  I was also afraid to tell people how feel, or speak up for myself and agree with things to avoid disagree. All signs I was lacking setting personal boundaries. To add, working on my blog, taking pictures, obligations, invitations, and expectations. I was stretched out paper thin. After a long day of working, mood changes, doing for others and making sure and such; I was so drained. As an empath and a highly sensitive person, it is very important to me to guard my energy.  To protect my energy I learned that setting boundaries is very important for my mental health. On today’s post I will share 10 ways on how to set boundaries for empaths and for the highly sensitive. Boundaries are your responsibility. You decide what is and isn’t allowed in your …

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How to Spend Your Time Alone?

I spend a lot of time of alone. I am a natural loner; my daddy, uncles, and grandpa are all loner. I got it honest. On top of it all,  I am a only child so there you have it I spend a lot of time with myself. I am also an ambivert, I like being around people however there are times I need to be left alone. Sometime last year, I was super lonely. I addressed some of the side affects of being a loner, here. Honestly, I was not spending my time alone like I should. I rely on people, and not using that time for self discovery. I had to be mix and I had to be around somebody, even if they were not right for me. Now, I can say that am truly getting use to my own company. On today’s post I am sharing a few ways on how you spend your alone. To add there are a lot of benefits to using your alone time, this is something I am going to share as well. If you want to learn the benefit, please continue on reading this post. Alone by herself she built the …

20 Small Ways to Improve Your Life

Improving your life does not have to be hard. Small changes are very beneficial to improving my life.  A sis is getting older and she can’t be doing the same thing she was doing in her early 20s. It is something that I constantly and consistently work on -Day by day.  It does not have to be super big gesture.  Small steps in the right directions can help with personal development. Forming good habits can lead you into developing a better life for yourself. On today’s post I sharing 20 quick and simple ways to help improve your life. These steps range from stress relievers,  help you become a better “you”, forming better relationships,  and healthier lifestyle. As of lately I noticed that I have been make small changes with what I eat. I have been drinking about 64oz of water everyday, eating oatmeal, and having salad consistently for the past few weeks. I noticed that small changes have been making me feel so much better.  When my gut is happy I am happy. SMALL CHANGES TURN INTO BIG IMPROVEMENTS! Check out the list below to see more. 20 Small Way to Help Improve Your Life Drink plenty of water …

Affirm Yourself: 20 Positive Daily Affirmations

Like myself, some of us are accustomed to thinking negatively, berating ourselves down. “I can’t”, “I won’t”,  and “I’m not”…. Do you even realize how many times you may say this to yourself? I know for myself it goes unnoticed.   I know the more you keep watering these thoughts they will manifest in terrible ways. So my mission for my life is to be positive. I want to grow myself by saying positive things to myself all day every day. Now, I have to be honest saying affirmations and writing them out are kinda foreign to me.  However, I  am all about manifesting and trying to live a stress free positive lifestyle. So I am going to use POSITIVE affirmations  to help me rewire by mindset. “I can”, “I will”, and ‘I am”. On today’s post, I am sharing my 20 favorite affirmations I say to myself to keep my mindset positive.  I have been on positivity wave and of course I am trying to stay with. What are Affirmations? Affirmations are little saying we repeatedly say to ourselves out load or in our thoughts.  They can be positive or negative. In my opinion, everyone’s focus should be on manifesting positive …

10 Simple Ways to Stop Overthinking

So, I can create a whole climatic event/ story in my head, and that is because I am an over thinker. Overthinking is exactly  what is it, thinking too much. I overthink everything and guess you can say that I am addicted to thinking. Positive thoughts or negative thoughts (mostly negative), I think all throughout the day. Worst of it all I have not made any type of action.  The constant ruminating and worrying definitely takes a toll on me mentally. Clearly I am living in my life too much in past and the future. I need to be present today. As a highly sensitive person a strength of mind is deep thinking. My thoughts can translates into some great things. On the contrary, often times we can get bogged down and stuck on unnecessary things because we overthink.  Next thing I know my mood is shot, drained, and sad. On today’s post I will share a 10 simple ways to counteract overthinking everything. “Overthinking will destroy your happiness and your mood. It all make everything worse than it actually is. Take a deep breathe, exhale, and have faith. What’s meant to be will be” Why highly sensitive people over …

Chapter 5: May Plan and Goals

The time is literally flying by. Sheesh I am trying to hold on to all my edges. LOL  This time around last year I was dreading May because I had to get my wisdom teeth extraction. Well now I got so much to look forward to this month. The month of April was a total roller coaster. It was up and down, but I ended up right where I needed to be.  God really was working on me overtime,  and that I am so humble and grateful for.  Yes ladies, let get this month started on the right foot. Fashion Note I don’t have a lot of new trends, fashion alerts to post this month. As a Detroiter, we are still stuck in that in between weather. Not really knowing what to do, or how to be stylish when the weather is bipolar. One minute it is super cold, then not so warm, or then it too hot to handle. LOL  If you want to see a post on how to style yourself during the in between seasons, let me know in the comment section below. FASHION REPORT: According to May’s issue of InStyle Magazine a few style trends and …

Chapter 4: April Plan and Goals

Seriously, the month of March left me completely zapped out. I was working crazy hours at work. Like full on 12 hours days of work. On top of that finding time to take pictures. Post content. Doing so many things at once will have anyone completely drained. Also to mention I got into a minor car accident. Now this post was supposed to go up yesterday but my feelings were still hurt from the accident I had.  I was just not feeling it and it was so important for me to reflect and just relax. Well the March Madness contest at work is over and now I can get a bit of my “normal” back. My head is back in the game and I ready to tackle April on the second day. Fashion Note No new fashion trends to report this month. However, I am came across an interesting article in April’s issue of InStyle Magazine. It is titled “Does My Closet Make Me Look Fat?” by Eric Wilson. Now the title alone is interesting to me. I was looking at my closet yesterday and I came to the conclusion that I need to go on a “shopping diet”. The …

Single Life Series: Love Letter to Self

(Simply take my name and put yours!!) I’m going to keep this post very simple and straight to the point. Love yourself. I really use to dread Valentine’s Day. Nobody special to share it with. Look at all the gifts on the timeline. I have learn over time that I don’t have to be bitter. I can celebrate too. What I take from Valentine’s Day is love. Not love for a lover or a significant other. Simply love for myself. I love me and everything that makes me … me! I have stated countless time before you can’t expect to love someone else when you don’t love yourself. It’s the truth sis ! It not easy. I have bad days, but I don’t let my bad days define Alayna ! So don’t speak down on you.  Love you and everything that makes you…you! Had to say it a second time. So slay the day hun ! Love on yourself . Hug yourself . Tell yourself your beautiful! Know who you are! Change the narrative on yourself ! Speak kind words to yourself! Shower yourself with Valentines today and everyday because you are a gem that can’t be replace. be enough for self …

Single Life Series: 6 Things You Need To Know, If You Don’t Like Being Single

How did we get here? How did being single person turn inside outside.  I am trying to figure it out. Our society put so much emphasis on being in relationship, and finding that special person. It know it has a single person, like myself, dreading it. Some days I day dream being a happy, healthy relationship with a man. Then I come back to reality and I wonder what is going on, why is it taking me so long to find that person. Am I unlovable? Single Life = Negative opinions and thoughts on the single life. How can we change the narrative of being single?  So I started searching and results I found on being single was compelling. Here are six ways that can turn your unhappy thoughts on being single to hopeful, and positive thoughts. Your circumstances will change. I have been single since my senior year of high school. That mean I have been single for 11 years. Real facts! So understand this, it is going to happen for us. We are going to meet that special someone. You need to remain positive and get out of your own head and way and let the universe work. …

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