Striped Denim Jacket

Striped Denim Jacket

Tomorrow is when my vacation…  and I need to get away from all the stressful things that going on in my life. I am so happy and thankful for this time! So it is only right that I post before my trip. Of course I can not leave y’all hanging.

I have been so overwhelmed and I know why… I am super unbalanced lol.  Unbalanced what you talking about sis ?  I am doing to much of one thing and not doing enough of the other.  How am I am going to get it together? Well first I am going to start by taking a well needed vacation. So yes tomorrow I am going to focus on having fun with my girls and be a bit more care free. Simply enjoy my life in my opinion is a good start to living my stress free life. Just like this outfit. Carefree and fun !

This look I am going for is all about the multi-striped denim jacket.  I got a hold of this jacket at Forever21. I was walking around in the store and stumble on this jacket randomly. Now this jacket is on the smaller side of the spectrum. Anyway I tried on a size large in the store and fit really real. Now for my sister with a curvier frame I have linked a couple of denim jackets that are similar with color. Sidenote: if you want to go for oversized look take a look in the mens section.

Anyway I was going for a super fun, colorful, maybe been seen at the carnival look. I paired the denim jacket with the golden yellow pants to match the gold yellow pen stripe in the jacket. I just know this outfit came together so nicely !

Mid Rise Pixie Ankle Pants // Old Navy **old** (Similar)

Multi Color Striped Denim Jacket // Forever21  (Similar) (Similar) (Similar)

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That is a denim of a different color!

-Sounds familiar right ….

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little sidenote…

i am watching a docu-series about 8 people who are plagued with different illness that can not really be explained. they look healthy on the outside but then they have a lot of health challenges.  not all the time does people believe them. some may say it all in there head. so the documentary is called Afflicted and you can catch it on Netflix. anyway it had me thinking about taking simple things for granted.  what if you couldn’t eat, or what if you couldn’t breathe, or everything that you appreciate the most went way.  have you ever just sat back and thought about. well this documentary definitely had me thinking…. like how much we complain about our circumstances in life. life can be so much worst and the simplest thing can be taken away. so we should be grateful for where we at and what we have. if you are not satisfy with something then change it. so take some time and think about all the things that you grateful for. i know that once you sit back and think you will develop a better appreciation for those people or things. 

a few things i am grateful for is …

  1. waking up in the morning
  2. the breathe that i take 
  3. those mother and daughter conversations that i have with my mom 
  4. my job 
  5. that i get to work on something that i am passionate about 
  6. growth
  7. health 

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Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity.  It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, and stranger into a friend

-melody beattie

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Location: Eastern Market

Photographer: Reese | IG: @city.vision.rc | FB: @city.vision.rc

Special shoutout to Reese for taking these bomb pictures. !!


So what are you grateful for ?

I grateful for  a lot things sis. I listed few however I just want to spread some positivity. 

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Side Effects of Being Loner

Side Effects of Being Loner

Let me tell y’all something. I have always been by myself. I am the only child… no siblings. Never had that many friends and the boyfriend department, don’t even ask- he just don’t exist on the this planet.  I can say that I switch back and forth from being introvert and extrovert.  I had to take a step back from the fashion and address some things that have been heavy on my heart. I know I am not alone in this category. I am super lonely and I am trying to figure out how I can get myself out of this hole I made for myself.

A loner is person that chose not to interact with people.  Let me add my spin to it…. I do classify myself as loner however I pick and choose when I want to interact with people.  Some days I do and some days I want to spend time with myself. I come from a long line of people that are loners in my family. My daddy, grandpa, and whole host of uncles that like to be by themselves. I got it honest  However, being a loner has been super heavy on me lately.  I am highly sensitive person and sometimes I need to check out for my health but no one really wants to be alone all the time.  I remember when my grandpa told my mother his feeling about his son, my uncle. He said “that boys need to get married, somebody that can get him a cup coffee or something. Right there my mom knew my grandpa was lonely. He spent so many years being loner that he some regret about it.  Back to me,  so a few days ago, my mom and I were talking  just about anything  like we always do. The next thing I know I  literally broke down in tears telling her how  lonely I was at home.  And how I didn’t know what to do.  When I go home it just me, no pet, no man, not even a friend to come visit. When it like this you have a lot of time to get inside you head, it really makes it hard to get.  The side effects I have appearance lack of motivation, my stress level is through the roof,  and I have been super negative. I am here to say that it not fun being by yourself all the time.  So I here to try to  rid us for being lonely. Friendships and relationships are more like food. We need it !  So lets try to fix this together.

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How to Cope with Loneliness

Don’t get wrong there is some positives from being a loner. Self Dependent, you stick up for yourself, and you know yourself without comparison. I think those are all good things. I think when it comes to being a loner is, are you okay with being alone or not. Also I think you should find a balance with being alone and interacting with people.

If you are like me and your lonely here are few things to help us cope with loneliness.

  1. Identify it: Try not to be in denial about being alone. Being able to see and admit that your lonely. Ask yourself why. Are you afraid to be afraid alone? What are you really looking for ?  Ask yourself the tough questions about loneliness. This is the time to get real honest.  For me when I started feeling alone when one of my closest friend move away. Now I might me being real dramatic however those are my feelings. We use to hang out a lot and she was big part on how me and are other friends stayed together. She is just called away but I we be in denial if I didn’t say miss her company.

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  2. Healthy quick fixes: Loneliness can be so deep that we can find ourselves i  a bad relationship because we want somebody so bad.  Try you hardness not to get so down in the  dump. Talk to a good friend or relative that you know mean well and have a heart to heart. I don’t wanna any of us to get caught up in numbing or pain and issue with drugs, bad relationships, and other ways.  For me I talk to my mom when I am feeling weighed down by a lot of stuff.

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  3. Help someone instead: Take your energy and help someone else out instead. Reach out to them and help through sometimes instead on focusing on other people not there for you. Strengthen your relationship with people!
  4. Get a pet: I have been thinking about getting a pet lately.  From understanding pets can help with your mood especially dogs, I am biased !
  5. Seek help through therapy ! :  If you are really having a hard time coping with being alone then I would suggest to seek out therapist. It is nothing wrong with speaking to someone about all your feelings that you have inside.

The Pain You’ve Been Feeling, Can’t Compare To The Joy That’s Coming.

Romans 8:18

So I am currently working through my loneliness. I talk to my mom and try more harder to reach out to my friends and strengthen our relationship a little more. Little by little I am opening up more and making new friends. So lets see how to bring me out of the dark corner .

What are some ways you cope with being lonely ?

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Location: Belle Isle Park

Photographer: Richelle Marie Photography | IG: @richellemariephoto

 

EveryBody Get Yo Yoga On !

EveryBody Get Yo Yoga On !

FashionLayn Hangs out with Femology Detroit & LuluLemon

Who  knew that simple  breathing, body posture, and meditation can bring you so much good feelings to your life. Yoga is that special thing I need in my life to help me heal.  Long story short. I use to do yoga once week for a few months when I first started working downtown. I would take my yoga class during the lunch time since it was free. Wellness is a big thing where I work at. The perks of my job. Any who I switched to a new position, got really busy and yoga was not apart of my life anymore. SAD !

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So last week Wednesday I was invited to this women only self care event hosted by Femology Detroit and LuluLemon:  Self Love Yoga. It took place right after work for me and it was hosted at Lululemon Detroit on Woodward Ave.  Sidenote: Femology Detroit is a modern business workspace created for women to interact, work, and thrive! founded by Meagan Ward.. shout out to you sis ! Back to the story:    I believe this was calling from GOD.. I am actually so grateful that I attend because I needed to be surrounded by other women and learn how to get center again.  I have been unbalanced for awhile now. So there you have it. When I first arrive I was really nervous because I have been out the yoga game for awhile. And I have bad habit of holding my breath around people… scared that I breathing to hard. Yea… I really got a lot of hang ups. Sidenote:  the yoga teachers were Adria and Rachel. They were some of the world nicest yoga instructor ever.  Please follow them on IG — Social accounts linked below ! 

Anywho I got the hang of it again.  I let go of everything and let my body melt right into my mat. I focused on my breathing. Took full breaths and let my heart and my other organs just relax. I was healing myself ! As women we put so much into other things ! We are planning launch party, managing our careers, and take care of our children…… we forget to take care of ourselves.  So use some of that free time and take care of yourself. If it not yoga just take a few minutes and be silent and just rest.  That is mediation. Sit and and bring your focus back to your breath. 

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Positive Vibrations !

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Hitting that warrior pose !

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Got a chance to hang out with a few other women from the city ! Enjoying Yoga together !

Inside view of Lululemon Detroit !!


 

Special shout out to Meagan founder of Femology for putting together the event ! Thank you Lululemon for hosting and accommodating everyone!

Femology: IG: @femologydetroit

Follow the Yoga instructors and learn a little about their journey

Thank you Rachel and Adria

Adria  IG @adriamoses

Rachel  IG @rachelvurpillat

Thank you Femology Detroit !

 

My lovely readers remember to take care of your of yourself. 

 

Reclaiming Your Confidences

Reclaiming Your Confidences

For the pass few days I have been jamming to Janelle Monae’s album Dirty Computer. I Like That has been on repeat …

 A little crazy, little sexy, little cool
Little rough around the edges but I keep it smooth… and I like that!

This album really speaks about simply being yourself, living your truth, being okay with you are, and making sure you don’t allow anybody to take away what makes you, you ! Yes check out the Emotion Picture.

This album resonate confidences.  Can you believe I lack self confidences? I let fear and what other people told me, dictate how I was going to live my life.  I was going be hip hop dancer but I let other people make me feel like I was too big to dance. I was going to a lot of stuff but the validation for other people stopped me in my tracks. This then turned in to lack of confidences and shot down my self esteem. Then, I would allow people to say and treat me with so much disrespect, I wouldn’t fight back at all. I would just cry and grow numb. Or I use my funny antics to hide the hurt inside. I put up with too much bullshit from people. I did not think I was worthy and it really impacted how I live my life. Would you believe me if I told you, you can reclaim your self esteem/ confidences? I had to put in the work but I did it. I really had to change the way I view myself. and how I think. Seriously I did it and I work on it everyday. Reclaiming my confidences was the backbone behind me starting  my blog FashionLayn. Through my blog I learn to love and appreciate myself. Gain peace with who I am, all the bad and good. I had to live my truth because the truth was busting out.  It all came from within. Your girl is really all that now.

Hell the addiction for approval is a hard thing to put behind.. However, that validation is not enough and it will never be enough, we all need that real love. That self love that I  preach so much on my blog and continuously drill in my head.  You are the key to your confidences. Self love, I believe, can cure you from the approval addiction. So sis… yes I am talking to you beloved it time for you to reclaim your confidences. Lack of confidences is crippling. I think it can put your life on hold.. really it had my life on stand still. I want you reach down deep in yourself and work on this everyday. You are the light and don’t let anybody take your light away from you.

Reclaiming Your Confidences

  1. First and foremost you are worthy ! – the only approval you need is from yourself, nobody else. Be good with you.
  2. Choose to be Happy –  This is tough one for me to grasp. Happiness is truly  a state of mind. Either you choice to wake up and be happy or choose to be sad. Be more intentional.
  3. Believe in yourself: Simple as that, change your mindset and believe that you can do anything that you put your mind too. Don’t let the snakes ruin what you got going on
  4. Find a passion or Be passionate- Blogging found me and now it is my passion. I feel more confident than every since I started and it is one the first thing that I think about. What can I talk about on my blog to uplift the person that is reading.
  5. Be yourself — No more hiding behind the disguise be your authentic self. Now you might have to set back and really get to know yourself again.

(look details: scroll to the bottom and enjoy the pictures) 

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Shop My Look:  

The inspiration around this look was “black hippy”. I just wanted do whatever I wanted to do when I put this look together. Freedom and love was the key to look.  I wanted to be vulnerable and showcase who I am really., the girl who marches to her own beat. Always believe that I was on  another wave length. No matter how much I tried to go along with the flow and dress the way everybody else did, my true colors always resonated. I am the  shy, unique , funny girl that loves her braids, graphics tees and bright colors.  All the things on the outside that I like and love.

 Also who didn’t love ALL THAT, the 90s show on Nickelodeon. I like to think of it as the kid version to SNL.   I want to be on that show so bad because  and I knew I had something in me to knock them dead.  However the dream is in the past and I will not stop dreaming and never stop reaching for my dreams. Hey it maybe a dream deferred. So when I saw this shirt in Forever21 I picked it up with the quickness and did not care that the shirt was too big. I made it work.

Shirt: All That Tie Dye Tee// Forever21 (LINK)

Shorts: Mustard Woven High-Rise Shorts// Forever21 (LINK)


Special Shoutout to Darrien Pope, the Detroit native photographer, on the beautiful pictures You are a true talent. I. These pictures are so breathe taking. Thank you so much for working with and dealing with my silliness. I really appreciate you !

Instagram: @darrienpope |Facebook: @darrienpope |Website: www.darrienpope.com 


So with all that being keep striving! Believe in yourself , be yourself and I know that it all will happen for. Reclaim your confidence!