Self Care

Hmm…. who said you had to be in a relationship with someone to have romance? For myself, I am a single woman and I refuse to sit around and wait for someone to romance me. I am going use my time that I have alone to romance myself. The best love comes from self anyway, Right? Romancing yourself is ones way of taking life into their own hands. You get to know yourself and spend time with all the things that you enjoy and that give pleasure. On today’s post, I am sharing why you should start romancing yourself . In addition, I am sharing a few ways on how you can start romancing yourself. When it comes to romance, we  all expect it to come from our partners,a lover, or significant other. Romances is affection, we need it.  It is in our nature to want to be love. When romance is absent in a relationship it can be dull. So we might seek it out from someone else. Why seek it out from someone else when we can get it from ourselves. What about the relationship with have with ourselves. It is a relationship, and we have to take …

So, I can create a whole climatic event/ story in my head, and that is because I am an over thinker. Overthinking is exactly  what is it, thinking too much. I overthink everything and guess you can say that I am addicted to thinking. Positive thoughts or negative thoughts (mostly negative), I think all throughout the day. Worst of it all I have not made any type of action.  The constant ruminating and worrying definitely takes a toll on me mentally. Clearly I am living in my life too much in past and the future. I need to be present today. As a highly sensitive person a strength of mind is deep thinking. My thoughts can translates into some great things. On the contrary, often times we can get bogged down and stuck on unnecessary things because we overthink.  Next thing I know my mood is shot, drained, and sad. On today’s post I will share a 10 simple ways to counteract overthinking everything. “Overthinking will destroy your happiness and your mood. It all make everything worse than it actually is. Take a deep breathe, exhale, and have faith. What’s meant to be will be” Why highly sensitive people over …

Living a stress free life is really important to me. I love to maintain a certain level of  balance in life. However, my life can get a bit off balance due to finances. One of the main reasons why I am so stressed at times, is of money.  It seems like I don’t have any wiggle room to save. I have gotten into the cycle where I am living paycheck to paycheck. It start off that way but living is hard. Rent cost and other expenses goes up every year.  How can I save anything?  It hard trying to stay afloat with a fixed income. Speaking of staying afloat, my job just rolled out more overtime. Hooray! I am currently working 50 hours a week. Now they added on extra 10 hours. Did I forget to mention that I have been working overtime for 2 months straight. Money Money Money!  I wouldn’t be me if I was not complaining about it. A sis is super burnt out. I was ranting about it on Instagram a day ago. Anyway, a few of my friends and followers help me see the light. I have to trick myself into saving. They gave me …

First and foremost, my love life is not remotely interesting. Simply I have been engulf in a see of prospect than turns into to f**k boys. I am no good when it comes to relationships. Frankly, being single sucks at time. I really feel this way when the romantic season approaches.  Valentines is next week.  I already know my timeline is going to jumping, fill of relationship goals hash-tagging , and gifts. Everybody acting really happy on this commercial holiday.  Sometimes, you can’t help but dread being single.  Man, they all make it look so good to be in a relationship. I am saying to myself, “really I want that”.  To be honest, I am starting feel like I will never find that special guy. Let me keep it all the way 100: I really want to be in relationship with a guy that really cares about me and I care about him. But it is so hard to date now. Man, some of  y’all dudes have been giving me gas! Lol I over it and I am not settling anymore.  Since I have been single I have learned tons of things. What I want and need.  Self love. Knowing …

So I know as of lately my emotions has been all over the place. I made it clear this month in my It’s October !! post that I wanted to focus on healing. Inside and out, especially mentally. So it is time to be still for a moment.   Also, it time for me too really sit back to identify what is making me feel all of these emotions.  With all that being said I had to identify that I was emotionally a mess. I had lost control….. one thing about a person like me losing control scares me.  So this month I put myself under the microscope and really worked hard with getting to core of what my grief was. Check out my story to see if I am in the process of recovering from emotional pains and scars! My Story … First I constantly was worry, and complaining a lot.  I was worry about being successful, money problem, just a lot of things that everyday people are challenge with. I was mental drained. Also I was suffering from the perfectionism complex. I  felt like I  had to be perfect. I really can feel the pressure  I put on myself.  …

Let me tell y’all something. I have always been by myself. I am the only child… no siblings. Never had that many friends and the boyfriend department, don’t even ask- he just don’t exist on the this planet.  I can say that I switch back and forth from being introvert and extrovert.  I had to take a step back from the fashion and address some things that have been heavy on my heart. I know I am not alone in this category. I am super lonely and I am trying to figure out how I can get myself out of this hole I made for myself. A loner is person that chooses not to interact with people.  Let me add my spin to it…. I do classify myself as loner however I pick and choose when I want to interact with people.  Some days I do and some days I want to spend time with myself. I come from a long line of people that are loners in my family. My daddy, grandpa, and whole host of uncles that like to be by themselves. I got it honest  However, being a loner has been super heavy on me lately.  I …

Enjoying the Simple Thing in Life So here is the story and how I got to a happy place from a pineapple. So 5 days prior to all of this happiness in these pictures I learn that I only had few dollars left in my bank account. I was so hurt because I still needed to pay a couple a bills and the due date was right around the corner. I honestly did not know what to do. I called my mom crying on the phone because I knew I messed up ! I was having to much fun and  not watching my money. So my money was official “funny”.  I had to ask my parents for the money … Noooooo!!!  I hate asking my parents for money because I feel like I can’t handle my business without coming to them.  For the past few of days I have been counting  my money… making sure I don’t overdraft my account.  Anywho, I plan to get my financial back together. I been getting great tips for the Broke Millennial book. Also, I plan to create another savings account (nest egg). So when hard time hit I am not drastically impacted.  Let …

FashionLayn Hangs out with Femology Detroit & LuluLemon Who  knew that simple  breathing, body posture, and meditation can bring you so much good feelings to your life. Yoga is that special thing I need in my life to help me heal.  Long story short. I use to do yoga once week for a few months when I first started working downtown. I would take my yoga class during the lunch time since it was free. Wellness is a big thing where I work at. The perks of my job. Any who I switched to a new position, got really busy and yoga was not apart of my life anymore. SAD ! So last week Wednesday I was invited to this women only self care event hosted by Femology Detroit and LuluLemon:  Self Love Yoga. It took place right after work for me and it was hosted at Lululemon Detroit on Woodward Ave.  Sidenote: Femology Detroit is a modern business workspace created for women to interact, work, and thrive! founded by Meagan Ward.. shout out to you sis ! Back to the story:    I believe this was calling from GOD.. I am actually so grateful that I attend because I needed …

For the pass few days I have been jamming to Janelle Monae’s album Dirty Computer. I Like That has been on repeat …  A little crazy, little sexy, little cool Little rough around the edges but I keep it smooth… and I like that! This album really speaks about simply being yourself, living your truth, being okay with you are, and making sure you don’t allow anybody to take away what makes you, you ! Yes check out the Emotion Picture. This album resonate confidences.  Can you believe I lack self confidences? I let fear and what other people told me, dictate how I was going to live my life.  I was going be hip hop dancer but I let other people make me feel like I was too big to dance. I was going to a lot of stuff but the validation for other people stopped me in my tracks. This then turned in to lack of confidences and shot down my self esteem. Then, I would allow people to say and treat me with so much disrespect, I wouldn’t fight back at all. I would just cry and grow numb. Or I use my funny antics to hide the hurt inside. I …