We All Have to Hold Ourselves Accountable !

We All Have to Hold Ourselves Accountable !

5 Ways to Hold yourself Accountable

Accountability: Calling yourself out !

Me: Alayna!

Myself: Huh lol 

Me: Yeah you.. come to the carpet ! We need to talk !

Myself: *sigh* Okay 

Accountability works the other way to you know. You can’t always hold others accountable for what they do… you have start look at yourself and what you do too.

Before I wrote out my goals for March I reflected on the month of February. I noticed that I did not reach any of my personal goals nor was I consistent on my blog. I was thinking and I was coming up with some many excuses as to why I did not achieve my goals or work on my blog enough ! None of it was making sense. As I was pointing  fingers at other things in regards to why I was not being consistent on my blog or reaching my goals… I had three fingers point back at me. It was on me !  I let myself down, I was being lazy, I was not using my time wisely . It was all on me! I had to hold myself accountable for  my actions and choices. Tough pill to swallow right . I realize that it time to take myself serious ! Stop sabotaging myself! I was the reason why my growth was stalling.

think late show GIF by The Late Show With Stephen Colbert
Credit: Giphy: The Late Show With Stephen Colbert


What does the phrase mean “holding yourself accountable” ?

Accountability alone is about holding something responsible. Personal responsibility is holding yourself responsible- not someone else.  I am learning that once you become more aware of yourself, and holding yourself accountable that you will  improve dramatically. So be proactive! You have to change your mindset! If you want something you have to go out there and get it. So if you want to flourish in life, start holding yourself accountable for what you do and say. Be more aware of your actions, responsibilities, and goals. (Those are three ways to hold yourself accountable) I have a understanding if I do this I will see a big improvement in my personal life, and professional life.

5 Ways to Hold Yourself Accountable

  1. Be in the right mindset:  I think if you want to hold yourself accountable that you need to be in a positive state of mind. I like creating goals after reading a book that put me in a good mood. So if I feel inspire then I feel compel to create and  do !
  2. Create a to-do list and honor it !: To hold yourself accountable you have to be a little organize. I prefer to create a to do list! The list has to be on me at all times and I have to actively cross things off. So yes write your goals, or what you want to accomplish on some paper.  Make it accessible and honer that list. Cross things off that accomplish.  Sidenote:  Do not start anything new until you knock the things you want to accomplish first!
  3. Spend your time wisely: Make sure you are using all your time dedicated to what you need to do ! Example: I lose out on  time because I am literally scrolling on Instagram. That could be time I am using to write out my blog post for the next day.  Oh man ! Yes you have become more aware of how you are using your time sis! Make it all count.
  4. Have a person that hold you accountable: Get you a buddy (real friend) that will help hold yourself  accountable. A friend that will make you aware of your actions, and what you are doing. Everybody has that one friend that wants to see them grow, so put them to use !
  5. Stop putting things off: A lot of times I put things off because I am scared. Scared of the outcome ! Fear is a b word. If something that you want to do set some goals and do it ! We all gotta do the work! There are no shortcuts in success !
late night lol GIF by The Rundown with Robin Thede
Credit: Giphy The Rundown with Robin Thede

Go out and be great ! Pull yourself on the carpet and hold your self accountable for your actions and choices, what your responsible for, and your personal goals. I want use to grow sis.

SIDENOTE: The fashion is coming yall !!! I have a couple photoshoots plan and done ! So keep rocking with me!

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The Truth Will Set You Free

The Truth Will Set You Free

Living your truth

What does the phrase living your truth mean ? Are you who you say your are.? Are you you being your authentic self.

Question is who are you before the world told you who to be ?

Living your truth is being your most authentic self in my opinion… that what it means to me. I think it is important to live your truth because who really wants to spend there lives trapped by living up to expectations and definitions. I know we have done it at  some part of our life.  We have lied about who we are and over it time it gets really really easy. Until you wake one day and feel really incomplete ! Or we always seeking validation from others. I say it time to strip down and bare it all.  However it hard and scary !

The Struggle:

As a nation I think we have push the envelop to far. We so desperately want to liked… no way do want to stand out due to fear. Fear that we have seen from our peer that show the world their true selves.  It not always peaches & cream. If our world can judge people just based of color alone then what else can we use to judge one another.

Yes it is struggle being your true authentic self. I know for it really hard because I built up this life because I wanted to be liked and respected by other. Over the years I learn that not everyone is going to like you. So never seek validation for other people.  Stop taking everything so personal .You have to learn to love yourself unconditionally. Be yourself ! No let me tell you I do not have it all together. I struggle with this everyday ! I am me that all I can be at the end

So I ask who where you before the world told you who to be ? Do you feel complete? Do you seek validation ?


So keys to living your truth is:

1: Accept yourself! You can only change this by accepting all the good and the bad things that make up you.

2: Take it day by day.

3: Sit back and define you truth ! Have some alone time and get in tune with yourself.

4: Once you understand your truth then you live your life free, proud, and out loud !

So remember the long you continue to pretend to be someone else or hide behind the lives we build you will never know if you reach your full potential. Oprah said this ! SO let all of your lies, definitions, and expectations slide right off of you and be free

ladylike black girl magic GIF

How you know your living your truth ?

1: You don’t feel the need to seek validation!

2: You feel complete !

3: You know your worth!

4: You do not need to depend on other to make you feel goo !

So this is what I going to work on over the year is being more comfortable with myself. Let it all show and not be afraid to let other see it ! I really hope this helps everyone !


Feature Photo : Photographer: Reem Eissa Photography

IG: @reem.eissa.photo

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Check Please ! How I style my Gingham Pants ?

Check Please ! How I style my Gingham Pants ?

Yes, the spring time is among us and I here for the warm up ! So yes let start off with some prints and bold colors.

My first pair of gingham pants and I love them.  Gingham pants give off  kinda a preppy look ! In the magazine the prep look is really in style for the spring ! It can be dressed up or down and  definitely consider a classic look. You can pair it with a graphic tee, pop of color, bright sweater, another print! I decided to pair my gingham pants with a bold color! I get a lot of love when it comes to mustard yellow ! So yellow it is ! As soon as I saw these pants at Forever 21 I knew I had to have them. Its something different, and outside of my comfort zone. So sis go out and get you some gingham pants and style them up !


Why yellow is apart of my daily wardrobe?

So I was looking through all my Instagram pictures and notice I have a real life relationship with yellow. I find some way to incorporate yellow in my daily fits ! I enjoy yellow because I love how it looks on my skin! It adds a glow and I get a lot of love for you guys when I do !




Plus size Gingham Ankle Pants// Forever21 – (LINK)

Off-The-Shoulder Skimmer Shirt// Charlotte Russe – (LINK)

location: Detroit, Mi

Photographer: My Mom 🙂





have a fantastic day.




The Year of the Woman & Spring Fashion- Its March !

The Year of the Woman & Spring Fashion- Its March !

I made it yall February was definitely a month that really tested my faith, my patience, all of it.  I had a lot of plans last month and really nothing went the way I wanted it to. So many plans things that I wanted to do but it just did not happen…. and it happens. For March I plan to be really on it ! Positive side to February  I’ve been fasting and I have been doing consistently. Drinking more water ! Also an awesome achievement that I will discuss later on in the month… 

March we have so much to look forward too. Like its Women’s History Month! Definitely going to give you Black Girl Magic this month ! This month I want to focus on getting my home together. Cleaning, Organizing, making my space likable again. So this is definitely going to help me with self care. Nutrition is key. I want to literally feel good this month.  Super excited for…………………………..SPRING TIME FASHION! 

timelapse spring GIF
Credit: Giphy


You got your magazines for the spring fashion! I got all my magazines for the spring fashion and I am all the way here for it. I want to be a bit more daring when it comes to fashun! . Yes InStyle, Essence, Harper Bazaar got me all the way right.  I am so ready to try out some new styles that I normally don’t do. Of course I have to stay true to me but spicy things up never hurt anybody.

Mixed Prints, Transparent looks, Bright colors, pastels ! This is what I want to bring to FashionLayn this month. So I am going to be committed to bring this to you girl ! Also, I think I want to splurge a bit this month. In January I talk about in investment pieces.   I want to invest in a nice pair of jeans that I know are going to last me for a while.

Stay tuned I got a lot of stuff I want to offer and lot of growing up I want to do when it comes to fashion sense. I can not wait to show you how I styled these checker pants in the picture!



This month on the blog I really want to focus on spring fashion and it being women’s history month.  So yes womanhood it is…. that going to be the topic of the discuss for the month. So really I need to reach out to my blogger friend and we need to get some collaborations going.  Lol how do my ovaries make you uncomfortable…. LOL no but serious! Since February was so hectic I still plan to highlight black women. In addition, maybe showcase women own business in the city. That always cool to. SO yes that the plan this month and I’m sticking to it.



Personally this month I want to clean up my space. Clean space represents a clear mind and my mind is running all over the place. As I blog more and get more into fashion I learn that having a clean space is key to feeling at home. I haven’t felt like my apartment is my home. So with self care, we are going to discuss cleaning up our shit !  We have to do it sis.  Its one of my goals.

  1. Yes goal one is to clean up my shit.  My shit meaning my home space
  2. Follow through on my actually plan.
  3. Continue my intermittent fast
  4. Continue to patronize black businesses
  5. Apply for a new job.


So yes I have a lot of stuff that I want to accomplish this month when it comes myself, fashion, and the blog. I definitely not going to beat myself this month if I do not accomplish everything I set my mind on but I have to hold myself accountable. However, I learned at the end of February that I need to follow through with my plan. No more shortcuts. So lets stay focus and execute on our plan ladies.

push forward and you will see me in my next post.



Location: Detroit, MI

Photographer: Alayna– ME 🙂