Reclaiming Your Confidences

Reclaiming Your Confidences

For the pass few days I have been jamming to Janelle Monae’s album Dirty Computer. I Like That has been on repeat …

 A little crazy, little sexy, little cool
Little rough around the edges but I keep it smooth… and I like that!

This album really speaks about simply being yourself, living your truth, being okay with you are, and making sure you don’t allow anybody to take away what makes you, you ! Yes check out the Emotion Picture.

This album resonate confidences.  Can you believe I lack self confidences? I let fear and what other people told me, dictate how I was going to live my life.  I was going be hip hop dancer but I let other people make me feel like I was too big to dance. I was going to a lot of stuff but the validation for other people stopped me in my tracks. This then turned in to lack of confidences and shot down my self esteem. Then, I would allow people to say and treat me with so much disrespect, I wouldn’t fight back at all. I would just cry and grow numb. Or I use my funny antics to hide the hurt inside. I put up with too much bullshit from people. I did not think I was worthy and it really impacted how I live my life. Would you believe me if I told you, you can reclaim your self esteem/ confidences? I had to put in the work but I did it. I really had to change the way I view myself. and how I think. Seriously I did it and I work on it everyday. Reclaiming my confidences was the backbone behind me starting  my blog FashionLayn. Through my blog I learn to love and appreciate myself. Gain peace with who I am, all the bad and good. I had to live my truth because the truth was busting out.  It all came from within. Your girl is really all that now.

Hell the addiction for approval is a hard thing to put behind.. However, that validation is not enough and it will never be enough, we all need that real love. That self love that I  preach so much on my blog and continuously drill in my head.  You are the key to your confidences. Self love, I believe, can cure you from the approval addiction. So sis… yes I am talking to you beloved it time for you to reclaim your confidences. Lack of confidences is crippling. I think it can put your life on hold.. really it had my life on stand still. I want you reach down deep in yourself and work on this everyday. You are the light and don’t let anybody take your light away from you.

Reclaiming Your Confidences

  1. First and foremost you are worthy ! – the only approval you need is from yourself, nobody else. Be good with you.
  2. Choose to be Happy –  This is tough one for me to grasp. Happiness is truly  a state of mind. Either you choice to wake up and be happy or choose to be sad. Be more intentional.
  3. Believe in yourself: Simple as that, change your mindset and believe that you can do anything that you put your mind too. Don’t let the snakes ruin what you got going on
  4. Find a passion or Be passionate- Blogging found me and now it is my passion. I feel more confident than every since I started and it is one the first thing that I think about. What can I talk about on my blog to uplift the person that is reading.
  5. Be yourself — No more hiding behind the disguise be your authentic self. Now you might have to set back and really get to know yourself again.

(look details: scroll to the bottom and enjoy the pictures) 

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Shop My Look:  

The inspiration around this look was “black hippy”. I just wanted do whatever I wanted to do when I put this look together. Freedom and love was the key to look.  I wanted to be vulnerable and showcase who I am really., the girl who marches to her own beat. Always believe that I was on  another wave length. No matter how much I tried to go along with the flow and dress the way everybody else did, my true colors always resonated. I am the  shy, unique , funny girl that loves her braids, graphics tees and bright colors.  All the things on the outside that I like and love.

 Also who didn’t love ALL THAT, the 90s show on Nickelodeon. I like to think of it as the kid version to SNL.   I want to be on that show so bad because  and I knew I had something in me to knock them dead.  However the dream is in the past and I will not stop dreaming and never stop reaching for my dreams. Hey it maybe a dream deferred. So when I saw this shirt in Forever21 I picked it up with the quickness and did not care that the shirt was too big. I made it work.

Shirt: All That Tie Dye Tee// Forever21 (LINK)

Shorts: Mustard Woven High-Rise Shorts// Forever21 (LINK)


Special Shoutout to Darrien Pope, the Detroit native photographer, on the beautiful pictures You are a true talent. I. These pictures are so breathe taking. Thank you so much for working with and dealing with my silliness. I really appreciate you !

Instagram: @darrienpope |Facebook: @darrienpope |Website: www.darrienpope.com 


So with all that being keep striving! Believe in yourself , be yourself and I know that it all will happen for. Reclaim your confidence!

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Eloquii Found A New Home in Detroit !

Eloquii Found A New Home in Detroit !

Recap: Detroit Store Opening Party !

Yes, this is not a pop up shop ! This is the real deal. Eloquii finally made a home in Detroit. YES  YES  your girl is super happy. On top of all the excitement  I was invite earlier last week to the Grand Opening Party. Omg did i just get invited ?? Yes sis I was in the building with some many other ladies celebrating Eloquii, our sizes, and style. This is Eloquii’s fourth store,  located inside the Twelve Oaks Malls in Novi (metro Detroit area). So yes Detroit is winning ! The Grand Opening Party was so much fun. It was photo booth, champagne, decadent goodies, and a store full of stylish collections. All the ladies I know had an awesome time.

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Omg Eloquii is in Detroit !

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Getting started … Let the festivities begin !

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Such a fan of the latest New Leaf and Botanist Collection!

Today is perfect for a perfect day.

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All goods from Terri’s Cakes ! The strawberry cupcake was so delicious !

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Doing what I do best shop ! I needed a little retail therapy that week!

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Fitting Room Pictures ! Had to get a picture in front of the Eloquii Detroit Mural !

I tried on this printed shirt dress.  I was so in love with the dress and the print, however it didn’t fit so instead I got the neoprene skirt in the same print ! Still winning ! I can’t wait to style this skirt. Sidenote: I got some more goods.. stay tuned I will showcasing these looks on the blog and instagram )

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Leah V, the creator of Beauty and the Muse  and myself holding up the booth ! Gotta get the pics right !

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#XOQ Photo Booth  with Detroit Candid Co.

Seriously, I never had so much fun. I am really digging going to events now. I was kinda shy and scared but I have been bit by the event bug and I want to go to more. Love being in the building with other blogger, influencers, brands and etc. I really do enjoy the networking experience. That evening was awesome. So all my curvy ladies in Detroit take some time out and visit the new store. You will love it

Location: Twelve Oaks Mall, Novi MI – On Nordstrom side Across from Sephora

Special shoutout to Natalie Shell, she is part of  brand/marketing team member  with Eloquii, she is such amazing spirit ! Thank you so much for talking with me.. 

 

So all my curvy ladies in Detroit take some time out and visit the new store. You will love it !

 

 

Beauty Talk: FashionLayn Must Haves !

Beauty Talk: FashionLayn Must Haves !

Hello Beauties, Yes today we are going to have beauty talk. Lets talk about 10 of my favorite beauty products currently! I was inspire to do this post by InStyle May Magazine! (Sidenote: Zoe Kravitz is on the cover) Annual they have awards for the best beauty buys, judge my panel industries pros. Let me tell you now I am not a pro with it comes to beauty but I am pro in what I like. Basically I like what I like. Also, I been feeling a little insecure about my face after having oral surgery. SO …… beauty talk !

Favorite Skin Care Products

Face soft like a babies bottom – sidenote I have dry skin ! 

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  1.  Shea Moisture Daily Glow Priming Moisturizer: $11.99 at Target
  2.  Mario Badescu Skin Care Facial Spray with Aloe, Herbs, and Rosewater: $7 at Ulta
  3.  Shea Moisture Daily Hydration Overnight Face Oil: $8.99 at Target

These products have been helping combat my hostile dry skin ! I use the Mario Badescu Facial Spray right after I cleanse my face and after I set my makeup. Really you can use it at anytime.  I just love that hydrating and refresh feel it gives to my skin.  Next I use the Shea Moisture Daily Glow Priming Moisturizer to soothe my dry skin. Also it leaves me with are radiant finish! It all about the glow.  Sidenote: A little goes a long way to. This product is kinda universal you can use it with a bare face or use it as a primer before putting on your makeup. I love products that I can use it for more than one thing ! Lastly, I give my skin a boost at night with the Shea Moisture Hydrating Overnight Oil ! Yes I have to feed my face at night and yes I am just that dry.  I hate waking up to tight and dry skin so I coat my face with this oil. To me its feels lightweight and I don’t have worry about it getting everywhere and all on my pillowcases!

Favorite Beat Products

In other words my favorite makeup products for my face  🙂

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  1. Covergirl Queen Collection Bronzer in  Ebony Bronze: $7.99 at Meijers
  2. Nars Powder Blush in Orgasm: $30 at Sephora
  3. Fenty Beauty Pro Filt’r Soft Matte Longwear Foundation (420) $34 at Sephora
  4. MakeUp Revolution Luxury Baking Powder (Banana): $8 at Ulta
  5. MakeUp Revolution Strobe Highlighter (Gold Addict):$6 at Ulta

Now to my favorite favorite part makeup ! Yes makeup. I love doing my makeup and watching makeup tutorials. So these are my current fave makeup products that I have to have. First, Covergirl Queen Bronzer in Ebony Bronze. These is the best warm bronzer to bring back warmth to the face and it the right color for my dark complexion. Yes !! Next, I have to have my NARS blush in the shade Orgasm. This blush definitely makes me have a organism  LOL and it the number 1 bestseller blush in the U.S. This blush looks beautiful on any shade and leaves you with matte and shimmering finish ! Need I say more, Fenty Beauty it’s life. I did a review on this product READ MORE. Absolutely adore this foundation and I have the shade in 420. Next, the best inexpensive setting powder is from Makeup Revolution. II learn about this setting powder from Alissa Ashley, a big youtuber ! Now I love the Laura Mercier however I can not spend money on this product every time.  I do my makeup all the time so Makeup Revolution comes through. I love the finish that it gives to my concealer and it has the right amount of beige I am looking for. no flash back yes ! Lastly, every girl has to have a highlighter to bring out those cheek bones. Another product from Makeup Revolution , the Strobe Highlighter in the shade Gold Addict. I love anything that gives my skin a golden glow. I like to call it the Ghana Glow since a girl DNA shows her family from Ghana haha but anywho I love this highlighter because it goes on like butter .

Favorite Lips Products

Pucker Up yall ! Gloss & Matte 

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  1. Fenty Beauty Mattemoiselle Plush Matte Lipstick (Freckle Fiesta) MATTEMOISELLE, Freckle Fiesta $18.99 at Sephora

2. E.L.F.  X  Alissa Ashley Lip Glosse.l.f. x Alissa Ashley Lip Gloss

These are the lippies that I keep reaching for.  First it the  the Fenty Beauty Mattemoiselle Matte lipstick in the color called Freckle Fiesta. The color is like spicy terra-cotta and I love the way it looks. It different and it brings out my skin.  Lastly… remember when I mention Alissa Ashley. Yes she collaborate with E.L.F. and gave the people this bomb ass lip gloss. It really look good on everyone. I got this as a gift for by birthday from my lovely team lead. So it goes everywhere I go and I never put it down. I am scraping the bottom I need a new one.

 

So these are my top 10 ten products that I pretty much wear everyday of my life. They are my must have and I quick to run to the store when I am running low or run out. If you enjoy this post please like and let me know in the comment.

Also share with me some of your favorite beauty products. What are your must haves ?

Remember beauty is when you can appreciate yourself.

Alayna

Its May !

Its May !

Yes its May the month I been dreading about since April. I schedule my wisdom teeth extraction for May 1st. Thus why this post is going up so late. According to the hat in the picture, I have been off duty ! I had plans to complete the day before my extraction however I was so terrified that I could not wrap my head around typing up a blog post.  With all that being said I faced my fear head on, tooth by tooth! Literally !So yes I have 4 teeth missing and I am in lot of pain. Thank God for Motrins lol.  Since getting my teeth pulled I been a little sad. I think my face looks different… well duh my cheeks are swollen! But I still feel like I don’t look the same.  I miss eating normal whole foods, and chewing lol. Nothing like a wisdom teeth extraction that make you appreciate small things like being able to eat. So to get out my mine off the negative let start brainstorming for the blog. No pain or discomfort last forever !

Fashion Note

On the fashion note this month we are going to keep it simple.  I noticed when I over think fashion and what Fashion trends I want to focus on they don’t get done. So this month I am going to bring something new when it comes to fashion. I have found some more gettin grown looks.

Blog Note

For the month of May I got a lot things going event wise when it comes to the blog. I have been so blessed the follow month that now Fashionlayn has been invited to couple of events from well know blogger and brand. Yes,  this month I am collaborating with a brand that I so excited to work with. I can not wait to show you who it is.  I am so thankful for the many opportunities that have been coming my way for the month of May.  I am learning that persistence is a major key alert. I understand that if I truly love and want something I have to work hard to get and be persistent. No time for slacking off. Yes my lovely readers yall will see of this on the blog ! On another note, when it comes to the blog I have been learning to be more engaging when it comes to social media.

Personal Note/ Goals 

April was kinda stressful in my personal life. Fear is really crutch. When you focus on fear and being scared like it can ruin your whole mood. However, being scared did not stop me for complete my goals last month. I finish reading  The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas. This book is so good that it is turning into a movie. I am more self aware of my actions and what I say… however still a work in progress. Lastly the wisdom teeth are gone and I am drinking more and more water everyday. Yes!!! So for the month of May I want to focus on nutrition, fitting in swimming suit…

  1. Being comfortable in my bare skin.  This month I want to take a picture in a swimsuit. he
  2. Finish reading Children of Blood and Bone by Tomi Adeyemi
  3. Learn how to stand in my mess and ask myself for forgiveness … Iyanla medicine
  4. Taking a break. Knowing when enough is enough. Too much of anything is not good.
  5. Plan out my finances better. So budget better. I am planning to read a book called Broke Millennial  by Erin Lowry to get me out of the check to check cycle.  I want financially stable before I turn 30 !

 

with all that being said stay focus ladies and don’t let pain stand in your way!

push forward

Alayna