STORY TIME|First Time Wearing A Swimsuit in 14 Years | #JustWearTheSuit

STORY TIME|First Time Wearing A Swimsuit in 14 Years | #JustWearTheSuit

#JustWearTheSuit is a hashtag created by Caryl, a body positive blogger of Lipgloss and Crayons. She built a community around a hashtag to encourage everyBODY to get into their swimsuits and celebrate body image and journey.   And boy do I have journey to share y’all

So, I was introduced to #JustWearTheSuit hashtag by a fellow blogger I met at a fashion show, Kendall Rayburn. She is one of the sweetest people to come across. I told her haven’t worn a swimsuit in years. 14 years to be exact!! When she told me about it, I had a big knot in the back of my throat. Saying to myself, ”Can I do this…. You already show your body off in underwear.” Hell with it, I need to face my body insecurities head on and just do it.

Yeahhh, so I finally wore a swimsuit, OKAY! After a long extending period without wearing a swimsuit, I got my beautiful body in one. I am so overjoyed that I did it. Shout out to Carly for forming this amazing hashtag while encouraging us to wear a swimsuit. Also, she letting the world know that everyone can wear a swimsuit and look good! See, conquering fear is not so bad.

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Smiling in Swimsuit from SHEIN

My Story

The last memory I have of being in swimsuit was probably when I was 14. A teenage girl at the Boys & Girls Club going to Red Oaks water park in Metro Detroit. At that time I did not think of myself as beautiful. I let the world convince me that I was not beautiful. I bought into it and folded on myself! I believe I was too big to wear a swimsuit and nobody would want to see my body. I did not want to see my curves. So that was all she wrote and I completely stop wearing a swimsuit.

As a teenager, I was not confident at all. I was this curvy nerd like black girl from the hood who did not know how to fit in. Growing up, you did not want to be label as anything but cool.  Cool didn’t fit me so I became the funny girl. I would talk down and make fun of myself, before any one else could. I guess you can say it hurt less. Anyway, nothing around me made feel like my body was amazing. Music videos only glorified smaller women. Clothing stores never carried anything that was cute for me.  Nothing I saw represented me. During that time I was having a hard time navigating in world that only saw one standard of beauty. I did not fit that mold, no matter how hard I tried to fit in.  On top of my insecurities I DID NOT KNOW HOW TO SWIM. So I stayed away from water parks! If I couldn’t my love for water parks I would wear boxes and shirts that match. This made me look bigger, and body-less Smh, I can remember my boy boxes falling off in the pool exposing my whole butt to the world.

Sidenote: I never learned how to swim. I took free swimming classes when I was 8. However the classes end right in the middle of me learning, with no explanation. So my rule is, as long as my feet can touch the bottom of the pool I am good. SMH 

Anyway it has taking me a long time to get to this point in my life.  14 years and I got my beautiful curvy/ fluffy body in swimsuit. I can say it loudly that I GOT A BANGING BODY! OKAY!! I am showing off and wearing a halter top high waisted bikini from SHEIN. Even adding a bold color like red to make the experience more gratifying for me.  Whew I am doing it sis. It took a lot of hard work and SELF LOVE.  Honestly, I had to get over myself and stop listening to the world. Now, it was not all me! It people like Carly who creates hashtag to encourage! Or Sasha from Flaws of Couture to push to wear swimsuit all summer long! The world doesn’t have a clue what is best for us. THERE IS NOT ONE STANDARD OF BEAUTY. I learn that everyone is beautiful in there own way.  No more trying to fit. Stand out and pave your own lane. We should not tell people what is beautiful and what is not. I became a fashion blogger to embrace my body. My curves are fire okay!

“Life is too short to spend another day at war with yourself.”

-Rita Ghatowey

So like the hashtag says JUST WEAR THE SUIT. We are beautiful just the way we was made. Don’t let anything stop you from being happy and enjoying life. So I encourage you take the swimsuit challenge. Make sure you use the hashtag #JustWearTheSuit. Make sure you check the hashtag and see the other ladies in their suits too! SWIMSUIT all summer long sis! LEAD WITH CONFIDENCES !!!

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Face of Pure Joy

Location: At Home

Photographer: Me, Myself, and I


 Do you say swimsuit or bathing suit? Were you every afraid to put on swimsuit? If so, why were you afraid? Have you conquer your fear? 

Share with me in the comment section. Let’s talk sis

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3 Simple Ways to Conquer Your Body Insecurities 

3 Simple Ways to Conquer Your Body Insecurities 

So a few weeks ago TomboyX, a gender neutral and eco-friendly underwear line, reached out to me to collaborate for the holiday.  This is my first time ever working with a underwear brand.  I was super excited initially.  However, I was so afraid to get in front of camera to reveal to the world my body. What I wear and my makeup is my comfort zone.  I am comfortable with my clothes on but when I feel it is necessary to take a few of my layers off, I freaked out. Is this the day someone is going to attack me in the comment section? What if I say the wrong thing? Is someone going to noticed that I have a lot of scares on my legs from eczema? You know I have not quite over come all my body insecurities: dry skin, lumps, scars, and my body shape. So I challenge myself with this collaboration. I stripped off a few of layers and got in front of the camera.

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Everyone at some point of their lives have felt insecure about how they look. While some are feeling too heavy, their is someone feeling underweight.  Or you can be feeling  too hairy, or someone doesn’t feel they have enough hair. Omg does the cycle every end?  It can feel like it is impossible to get out of. I know for myself body insecurity has been with me since my adolescent, high school, all the way to adulthood.

Society can be quite harsh and unrealistic when it comes to our body. Shade is definitely thrown unfairly on those that are heavy, however what brings me comfort is that society doesn’t have clue.  All that is left is acceptance, and self compassion. I am here say that you can rid yourself of all the negative thoughts and insecurities of your body. The key is to learn how to love your body and to accept all other body types too. There is no cookie cutter body shape for everyone. The time is now to embrace yourself. How can I overcome my insecurities? So in this post sis, we are going to learn a three simple way to conquer those uncertainties.

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Learn to Love Yourself

You have to let go of all societal ideals on what the “perfect body” is. Society may have spoon feed us through social media, TV, etc, what the “perfect body” is.  Let me say this calmly, THERE IS NO SUCH THING OF THE “PERFECT BODY”. So accept yours.  I believe standing in front the mirror naked is excellent way to get comfortable with yourself. Focus on saying (or write) 5 things you like about your self. Add a new like everyday. This is self love! You are taking the right step to loving you.

Reversing Negative Body Image

Is it really fair to hold a grudge towards our bodies for the rest of our lives? No, we have to take healthy steps to overcome our insecurities and negative thoughts. Being insecure can open the door for other bad emotions: jealousy, anger, and depression. I believe if you want to change something about yourself, you should only change because YOU want to change. Not for acceptances, or because your being pressured to do so. If you want to improve something physical, start by redeeming your self esteem first. Positive changes will come when you tackle your negative thoughts.

Set Realistic Goals. 

Do not set yourself up for unrealistic goals or aspire to look like someone. For example, I weight 200 pounds. By next month I need to weight 120 pounds. Come on now, I am setting myself for failure. This applies to looks, shape, hair, etc. Understand this if you truly want to change, you have to change for YOU only. There is process for everything, you have to be willing and dedicate.  So brainstorm want you want to achieve, and get as specific as possible. Whatever it is you are wishing to do make sure you do all your research. Smart planning sis !

7Y6A8459Featuring this soft sports bar and boy shorts.  Such a cozy set when you need to take a load off. If you want to be comfort check out  TomboyX and their other underwear styles.

Boy Short “Chilly Penguin Print”// TomboyX**

Essential Soft Bra “Chilly Penguin Print”// Tomboyx**


Location: My Home

Photographer: Daniela Lisi – Nicole & Daniela Photography | IG: @nicole_daniela_studio or @nicole_daniela_photo |Website: www.NicoleDanielaPhoto.com 

Special shout to Daniela. I have work with her a few times and I know something great is going to pop off for her. She has an amazing eye to photography and she is super nice!


Do you struggle with a negative body image? What have you done to try to overcome your insecurities? 

Share with me in the comment section. Let me know what I could add to this list.

Thank you so much for reading and don’t hesitate to like, comment and subscribe to my blog. Let me know what you wanna see in the future on the blog ! I am here for y’all! 🙂

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**Bra and Boy shorts was given in collaboration with TomboyX. All opinions are my own.