Top 10 Things I Hate About Blogging

Top 10 Things I Hate About Blogging

You know… being a fashion/lifestyle blogger and an influencer sucks at time for me. Being an online entrepreneur is hard to maintain. I love it, but I really don’t know why I do it? Why do I put myself through the stress?  I have to think of content, schedule content, plan photo shoots, drive, be active on all my social media accounts, and so much more. It can get really stressful at times.  I reached my breaking point in my career after I had 4 photo shoots planned last weekend (2 on Saturday and 2 on Sunday– back to back).  Let me be honest, my feeling have been building up after 4 years into. I started noticing how people change and sometimes you don’t get the recognition. I went to Instagram and unleashed my feeling. I even got some of y’all involved in conversation.  I did not notice how many bloggers were feeling the same way. So in today’s post I want to talk about the things that are never really discussed in blogging. The cons of blogging. Today I am listing  my top 10 things that I hate about blogging.

The Cons of Blogging

(Disclaimer: This is only my opinion)

1. Creative Depression

Creating content is fun, but what happens when you run out of things to create and talk about? Constantly creating can leave a blogger exhausted. I hate this!  I have to remind myself that it is okay to not have a clue. II stop putting so much pressure. When I apply to much pressure I become uninspired and then my blog suffers.  So now I focus on scheduling out my content. Also I look at old post that responded well and expand on that. I also get my audience involved. You guys give me some great ideas.

2. No One Cares About You

Trying to get people to pay attention is super hard. You have to put a lot of hard work into tailoring your blog for your audience.  I have to constantly remind myself….Its not about you sis. You are a problem solvers! If you are not trying to help solve a problem for your audience then in all honestly they don’t care!  This is something that I struggle with all the time. Somethings I want to go to my blog and type out my feelings, however I have to remember that this blog is not for me anymore.

3. Endless War With Algorithms

I don’t know about you but trying to get head of the algorithms on Instagram is an endless war. It always changing.. sometimes for the good, but it seems like it always for the worst. Currently, not everyone that follows me can see my post. That results in less likes and engagement. As a blogger it is important for us to get our audience to engage with us. Likes are great but engagement is so much more important. The more people engage with your post the better it will perform. Being on Instagram is like a job now and I hate it!

4. Free Content

As a blogger of 4 years I have noticed that endless amount of brands reaching out and asking for free content. Now let me be clear I am not totally against “free content”. However, it becomes annoying when they give you all these guidelines with no compensation. Post this here and put that there. I hate that!

5. You Can’t Sit With Us.

Being a blogger can be a lonely field to be in.  So it is very important to me to try to find some like-minded bloggers. I noticed that some people really don’t deal with you unless they can gain something from you. Also, if you don’t have the numbers to match then you can’t sit with us. No clout no love.  Yes the blogging community can be “cliqued up” and this bothers me so much. It really nothing that I can do with that. I try to align myself with bloggers that really want to build a relationship with me.

6. Being Overlooked

I swear I see the see the same faces over and over on social media. Let me be clear there are some blogger that work very hard to get to where they are at and I am not trying to shade them. Not at all! However, it is very discouraging when you feel like you are being overlook based off followers. Can you give the small bloggers a chance?! Can you take a chance on me. Just know this… the right brand and business with align with you. Keep going those brands will notice us.

7. No “Real” Support

Simply people only support when it is benefiting them.  Those individual will do so much. Help you here and help you there. Soon as you say no…. where are they? Also, there a lot of dry haters. They really don’t want to see you succeed. I really hate this. As blogger you have keep your eyes open to this.

8. My Time Matters Too!

Blogging is a business. I might not sell an actual product but I provide a service to my audience… I am a problem solver. In addition, as a blogger we work with brands that have us on a time schedule as well. People forget that blogging is a business and that our  time matters too. Time is money! So when you respond late or show up late it affects what we got going. I am here to say that I want people to take bloggers more serious. I pride myself on being timely. I show up on time and respond with sense of urgency. It gets quite annoy when others do not do the same.

9. Taking Pictures 

People think that blogging is so much fun when it comes to taking pictures. Do you know what we go through to get that photo? Do you know what the weather was like when I took this picture? It not always glitz and glamour. A lot of times we are doing this all by ourselves. We don’t have a team behind us. The only team that I have is my momma.

10. Blogging Success Does Not Come Fast

Blogging success may come fast for some blogger but not for everyone. Not every blogger make money in the first go round. This is such a hard and long process. You definitely will feel like your words are falling on deaf ears. But I hear to say just keep pushing forward. Over the course of time you will succeed.

“Blogging” is tough, but so are you !

I love being a blogger and I will not stop just because a few things I hate. I will not let any of these things stop me for being all that I can be as a blogger. You should not let the things that annoy you stop you from being great.

Photographer: Malaika Hilson | Instagram: @malaikahilson

Location: Downtown Detroit

If you are blogger what is something you hate about blogging?  If you are an online entrepreneur what annoys you the most ?

Join the conversation and share with me your thoughts in the comment section.

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Bye Bye 2018: My Small Reflection

Bye Bye 2018: My Small Reflection

We are right on the cusp of 2018.  I felt compel to write a brief reflection today. I have to be all the way 100, I am so thankful that 2018 is near the end. For me it has been up and down roller coaster. Maybe even a love/hate relationship. I think that sounds better. HAHA.

2018 I had so many highlights. I can really say it was the year of doors being open for me. I was given the opportunity to collaborate with some many brands. Collaborating with Forever 21 was one of the greatest accomplishment that I faced as bloggers.  I still get chills when I think about. Also, collaborating with TomboyX help me feel more confident to bare it all with their super comfortable underwear. 2018 also allow me to network and meet so many wonderful folks.  Going to all the Femology Detroit events really reassure my confidences.  Lastly, I was given the opportunity to collaborate with amazing photographers in city. I am so thankful for them all because they make the quality on my blog that much better.

On another note, 2018 would not be complete if I did not learn a few lesson. Accountability, self awareness, and reflection were major lessons. I learn that I had to pull myself on the carpet. Unravel all my layers and look within. It was time out for playing the blame game all the time.  Can you believe I almost cancel my blog? Yeah it got really rough for brief period. I almost quit because someone told me my writing was not good. All my ears heard that I suck. During this time I also had to learn that others opinion are not the gospel. So I really going to allow someone to silence me? Even thought the lessons were tough I am grateful that GOD allow me to see clearly. I am thankful that I have great friends and family that were able to help me get through some of my worst time this year.

New Year,

New Feels,

New Chances.

Same Dreams

Fresh Start.

I want to say to you…. Thank you so much for being apart of my 2018 journey.  From reading my post to keeping up with my social media.  Shout out to you! Thank you so much for supporting me! You are the reason why I keep getting in front of the camera, and pushing the buttons on the keyboardI am so appreciative of it all. Y’all are the reason why I push forward. Just to let you know you can expect amazing content and more giveaways in the 2019. (Sidenote: Be on the lookout for the YouTube Channel).

So as I walk into the New Years… I am more organized, wiser, and stronger. I am up for the challenge. I am prepared to pop flavor and drip sauce everywhere. Time to Snatch Edges! LOL

2019 is the year of elevation !

Dress: Glitter Mesh Frill Detail Bodycon// PrettyLittleThings

What are you looking forward to in the 2019 ?

Share with me in the comment section. Let me know what I could add to this list.

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Getting Older!… My mind say yes.. But my body say nooo!

Getting Older!… My mind say yes.. But my body say nooo!

Aye it my birthday!! So freakin awesome !! I am officially 28 years old today.  I am so thankful to be allowed to see another year. Another year to do what I love, to be with my family and friends.  Team Aquarius ! Over the past year I learn a lot about myself. Learn how to cope with my anxiety, learning that its not all about me. I make it a point to get better each year with age. So this is Chapter 28, the pre 30 crisis. Lol  the year of when you start lying about your age. Maybe your under pressure with getting you life together. Or when you body start breaking down. I know its you! The one that getting sleepy in the club before midnight. LOL  Embracing the struggle. I going face getting older head on ! 

You are never to old to set another goal or to dream a new dream !! – C.S Lewis

So on todays blog post I thought I could introduce myself. I feel like my reader to should know I bit more about me.  SO why not give you 28 Random things about me !! I’m letting yall in



28 Random Things About Me

  1. I am the only child.

  2. Born in raised in Detroit. I absolutely love how the city is coming along. Even tho gentrification is in full affect  

  3. I am the biggest cry baby know to man. I cry when I am happy, sad, and mad. I really can’t help
  4. I am a super goofy girl. I always being silly. I love to laugh and make people laugh.
  5. My name was supposed to be DeAnna but mom though people was going to pronounce it wrong. So she change my name to Alayna. Little do she know Alayna mispronounce then ever. Lol thank mommy  ( A-LAY-NA) 🙂
  6. My favorite quote of all time: Coco Chanel: “Beauty Begins the Moment you Decide to be yourself”. This quote is something I wish I saw when I was younger. Absolutely needed this quote to confirm to my younger self that it is okay to be yourself. I struggle with for a long time.

  7. I have five tattoos and I want to get more.

  8. I obessed with black men that have huge beards. LOL OMG they are so sexy.

  9. My favorite food is french fries. FRIES OVER GUYS

  10. If I could live anywhere I would pick Atlanta, Georgia.  You thought I was going to say somewhere out of the country.
  11. The only books are read are biographies, African American culture studies , and self care books.
  12. Psalms 23 is my favorite bible chapter because I find comfort everytime I read it


  13. Hayet Rida, Rochelle of Beauticurve, Kelly Augustine, and Essie Golden are my favorite fashion bloggers.

  14. I started blogging because I had a low self esteem for years. I was looking for myself. I found myself and voice through my blog

  15. R&B and Soul music does something to my soul. I can listen to R&B/ soul all day every day.

  16. J. Cole is my husband. lol my husband in my head.

  17. I try to shot my shoot in this guy DMs. I had crush oh in when  I was in middle school. I still waiting on his response lol. Im holding on lol

  18. I threw the first pitch at Detroit Tigers Baseball Game when I was 16  years old. My name was on Jumbotron.

  19. I wish I grew up in the hip hop 90s age. Instead I was born in the 90s but that is cool too!! 🙂

  20. My name is Alayna and I am addicted to Fruit Snacks !
  21. If I could be any animal I would love to be a zebra. Zebras are so unique, and they stand out. Just like me !
  22. I think cantaloupe and honey dew is nastiest fruit ever.
  23. I admire Michelle Obama. When they go low we go high !

  24. I am afraid of large bodies of water.
  25. Number 3 is my favorite number
  26. When I 5 years old  I wanted to be police officer and a doctor at the same time. Ambitious I know !
  27. Then when I was like 13 I wanted to be a fashion designer. And this is still something I want to do as a fashion blogger. If I ever get the chance I want to have my own fashion line 🙂

  28. Year 28 is going to best yet to come.  I know something awesome and big is going to happen for me. Opportunities



As fashion blogger I love to play with vibrant colors. So this time I played with primary colors.  Red, Blues and Yellows.  Those are consider primary colors according to color wheel. Yeah yeah I have to bring my art education to the for front lol.

I really want to highlight the sweater. I got 1x on the sweater however I need a 2x because my chest took up most of the shirt. So peep the stomach… it was showing. So I will tell everyone if you like the sweater get it one size bigger.

I got the sweater… Come on you should already know the deal:  forever 21

Sweater: Plus Size Fuzzy Ribbed Knit Sweater// Forever21 (LINK)

Shoes: Esprit Halona Lace Up Combat Booties (LINK)

Bag: Faux Croc Box (Similar)


So hopeful you all was able to understand me the girl behind the blog . Laugh a little and hopeful you were all able to feel my energy on my birthday.

Thank you all for reading. Please like and share this blog post. Also follow me on my social media accounts. I am the same girl .

**Photo Credit- Richelle Marie Photography IG: @richellemariephoto