inspiration

Everyone wants to live a life that is uniquely theirs and loving it! I know that is something I want for myself. To live a life that I love, doing things I love.  When I was younger I had my life completely plan out differently. I knew I was going to go art school. I was going to be married with a child and have a successful career as an art director by age of 25.  I believe this to be true for me because I was following my parent’s model (what they laid out for me) & societal pressures. To be honest, I put a lot of pressure on myself on what society thinks of womanhood.  To be right type of black woman, you have to be smart, save yourself for right on, be modest, fix your hair, go to school, don’t be so aggressive…. The list goes on. I figured out now,  that I can choose my own path. I do not have to follow a particular path to satisfy my parents or society. I am my own person! All my parent’s had to do was raise me up. Simply society is all over the place, they don’t …

Love Letter to my Readers  Happy Valentine’s Day! I’m going to keep this post simple and straight to the point. Love yourself. I use to dread Valentine’s Day. Nobody special to share it with …. oh and look all the gifts on the timeline.. logs off. I learn over time that I should not be bitter. I can celebrate too. What I take from Valentine’s Day is love. Not love for a lover or a significant other. Simply love for myself. I love me and everything that makes me … me! I have stated countless time before you can’t expect to love someone else when you don’t love yourself. It’s the  truth sis ! It not easy. I have bad days sometimes but I don’t let my bad days define Alayna ! So don’t speak down on you.  Love you and everything that makes you…you! Had to say it a second time. So slay the day hun ! Love on yourself . Hug yourself . Tell yourself your beautiful ! Change the narrative on yourself ! Speak kind words to yourself! Shower yourself with Valentines today and everyday because you are a gem that can’t be replace. “The way you speak …

How do I define my personal style ? Lol if you coming to me for the answer I don’t have it. But I found a great site that can help you do it yourself, easy ! Listen I believe we all have an idea of what our personal style is but how do we put it into words. Really define it ! IDK ! All I know is that I am not your typical fashionista. I wear what I want to wear. I let my creativity take over when it comes to my personal style. Keep reading…..   Anywho,  I found myself on google trying to figure it out.  There are so many ways to define your style and the most helpful one I came across was Style Bee.  The story: I am a frequent listener to podcasts they help me generate my topic in today’s millennial time. So while I was listening to Gettin’ Grown by Jade and Keia,  the topic of discussion was Personal Style. They provided Style Bee’s link in their description box of course I clicked it. “Define Your Style in 5 Easy Step”.So I am gonna let you take the wheel and visit StyleBee site …

The older I get the more I understand the phrase move in silence. It that phrase let you now that you got moves, things being plan, execution, and big news .  All those things that let people know that you got some things brewing. But to often I see people typing the phrase move in silence and not actually abiding by the phrase : moveee in silenceee.  You don’t have to tell everybody what you doing sis. Also, too many people typing the phrase and not putting any action to it.   Yeah girl she aint doing nothing she said she was doing.  Lastly, sharing your big news can put a damper on your mood because of the wrong. “Yea girl how she get job I think I am more qualified then her.” Smh  hold your horses sis. LOL sis you don’t have tell everybody everything or that you moving in silence. I feel like if you say  something that open the flood gates for bs. “plot quietly and humbly.  manifest fruitfully and abundantly. Why is it super important to move in silence ? It is important to move in silence because in all honesty is you plan fully planned …

SIS we don’t have time for fear…..  It really time to Confront it!!! Michelle Obama said so gracefully at the Worldwide Developers Conference 2017… “ If we let [fear] consume us, then we don’t move. If we allow fear to define one another, then we go down a very dark path. But [fear is] there. It’s an emotion that we all feel, it just can’t consume you. I really grasp, just yesterday, how fear really stifles me. I believe that I have a bunch of talent that I have not use because I let fear and doubt plague me. So how do I deal with fear ? Let me tell yall my story. So yesterday, I faced my fear head on.  I was ask to speak to college girls at my alma mater, Oakland University about spicing up your wardrobe, and fashion on a budget. OMG I was happy and filled with panic at the same time. My first speaking engagement as a blogger. I almost said no because immediately I started to doubt myself. I though I did not have what it takes to speak in front of people. What was I going to say? What am I going …

I just took DNA test turns out 100% that bitch, even when I’m crying crazy… Yeah I got boy problems, thats human in me… Bling Bling, then I solve’em that the goddess in me/// LIZZO – Truth Hurts. Yess I have been playing this song non stop. (Take a Listen)  Yeah I’m not sure what the lyric has anything do with self care or what I am about to post. However, I consider this song apart of my self care regimen. Music is the answer to most of my problems.  Those lyrics can explain most of the time exactly how I am feeling. Besides music makes me feel good. Anywho, I was scrolling down my timeline on Insta and I came across a question: How will you take better care of yourself this year ?  It got me thinking girl…  Hmm of course eating healthy.. its always on my agenda. Beside eating what can I do to make myself feel so much better.  I learn over the years that before you can do anything else you have to take care of yourself first. You will think that it is common sense… but really we do more for other people more than …