Single Life Series: 6 Things You Need To Know, If You Don’t Like Being Single

Single Life Series: 6 Things You Need To Know, If You Don’t Like Being Single

How did we get here? How did being single person turn inside outside.  I am trying to figure it out. Our society put so much emphasis on being in relationship, and finding that special person. It know it has a single person, like myself, dreading it. Some days I day dream being a happy, healthy relationship with a man. Then I come back to reality and I wonder what is going on, why is it taking me so long to find that person. Am I unlovable?

Single Life = Negative opinions and thoughts on the single life. How can we change the narrative of being single?  So I started searching and results I found on being single was compelling. Here are six ways that can turn your unhappy thoughts on being single to hopeful, and positive thoughts.

  1. Your circumstances will change. I have been single since my senior year of high school. That mean I have been single for 11 years. Real facts! So understand this, it is going to happen for us. We are going to meet that special someone. You need to remain positive and get out of your own head and way and let the universe work.
  2. Your worthy so keep your standards high. Please people keep your standards high when your single, or whenever. Now I am not saying to keep them so high no one can reach them. One thing that I learn as a single person is that you can not let your loneliness cloud your judgement. So many people date and settle for the wrong people because they are lonely. I’ve done it. So you have to ask yourself why do you hate being alone? Once you figure that out your mindset should start to shift. You will start saying to yourself they are stupid if they don’t want to be around me. Don’t chase anyone. Remember you are the sh*t and anyone that wants to be around you will. So DO NOT settle for anything just because you are afraid of being alone.
  3. Time to get to know & work on yourself. While your single you are given time to get to know yourself. I built a blog, and have tons of things with my life. So now I do not have time to cry over spilled milk. I have respect, love, and value for myself while being single. I ultimatly think this time that GOD has given to me to get loser with myself and make me right for the special someone that he is taking time to make for me. If you are single this is not a time to draw away from yourself, it is time to get closer and self discovery.
  4. Understand that patiences is key. Remember I told you, I have been single for 11 years. Small bumps on the road but hey, I don’t claim them because they only last for 2 months or less. Getting to that right person take a while, but understand that Beyonce was not successful star over night. She worked for year and took time to perfect her craft. So that special person, it make themselves right just for you… they don’t know that. Be patient… that special person will come soon.
  5. Love yourself the way you want your partner to treat you. Self love people! How do you expect someone to love you if you can’t love yourself. Treat yourself kind and with respect first. Be that model so your partner will know. Self love is key, I can’t stress that enough.
  6. Enjoy your own company. Learn to enjoy being around yourself. This was something I really had to work on getting comfortable. For a long time I hate being by myself.

Single Tip…
STOP thinking YOU are unlovable and you’ll never will be married. Here’s the TRUTH about YOU! YOU are SO amazing it took extra time to create your mate. Relax! Trust God’s timing! He hasn’t forgotten you. He just wasn’t ready to share you yet !

Feature Photo: Photographer: Richelle Marie Photography  IG: @richellemariephoto


So, how are you feeling about being single? 

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Thank you so much for reading and don’t hesitate to like, comment and subscribe to my blog.  I hope this blog post can help you change your mindset and find value in being single. I know these tips have help me of the course of time. I found self love and make time everyday to work on myself. Let me know what you wanna see in the future on the blog ! I am here for y’all!

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The Year of the Woman & Spring Fashion- Its March !

The Year of the Woman & Spring Fashion- Its March !

I made it yall February was definitely a month that really tested my faith, my patience, all of it.  I had a lot of plans last month and really nothing went the way I wanted it to. So many plans things that I wanted to do but it just did not happen…. and it happens. For March I plan to be really on it ! Positive side to February  I’ve been fasting and I have been doing consistently. Drinking more water ! Also an awesome achievement that I will discuss later on in the month… 

March we have so much to look forward too. Like its Women’s History Month! Definitely going to give you Black Girl Magic this month ! This month I want to focus on getting my home together. Cleaning, Organizing, making my space likable again. So this is definitely going to help me with self care. Nutrition is key. I want to literally feel good this month.  Super excited for…………………………..SPRING TIME FASHION! 

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FASHION NOTE

You got your magazines for the spring fashion! I got all my magazines for the spring fashion and I am all the way here for it. I want to be a bit more daring when it comes to fashun! . Yes InStyle, Essence, Harper Bazaar got me all the way right.  I am so ready to try out some new styles that I normally don’t do. Of course I have to stay true to me but spicy things up never hurt anybody.

Mixed Prints, Transparent looks, Bright colors, pastels ! This is what I want to bring to FashionLayn this month. So I am going to be committed to bring this to you girl ! Also, I think I want to splurge a bit this month. In January I talk about in investment pieces.   I want to invest in a nice pair of jeans that I know are going to last me for a while.

Stay tuned I got a lot of stuff I want to offer and lot of growing up I want to do when it comes to fashion sense. I can not wait to show you how I styled these checker pants in the picture!

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BLOG NOTE:

This month on the blog I really want to focus on spring fashion and it being women’s history month.  So yes womanhood it is…. that going to be the topic of the discuss for the month. So really I need to reach out to my blogger friend and we need to get some collaborations going.  Lol how do my ovaries make you uncomfortable…. LOL no but serious! Since February was so hectic I still plan to highlight black women. In addition, maybe showcase women own business in the city. That always cool to. SO yes that the plan this month and I’m sticking to it.

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PERSONAL NOTE/ GOALS

Personally this month I want to clean up my space. Clean space represents a clear mind and my mind is running all over the place. As I blog more and get more into fashion I learn that having a clean space is key to feeling at home. I haven’t felt like my apartment is my home. So with self care, we are going to discuss cleaning up our shit !  We have to do it sis.  Its one of my goals.

  1. Yes goal one is to clean up my shit.  My shit meaning my home space
  2. Follow through on my actually plan.
  3. Continue my intermittent fast
  4. Continue to patronize black businesses
  5. Apply for a new job.

 

So yes I have a lot of stuff that I want to accomplish this month when it comes myself, fashion, and the blog. I definitely not going to beat myself this month if I do not accomplish everything I set my mind on but I have to hold myself accountable. However, I learned at the end of February that I need to follow through with my plan. No more shortcuts. So lets stay focus and execute on our plan ladies.

push forward and you will see me in my next post.

 

Alayna

Location: Detroit, MI

Photographer: Alayna– ME 🙂