Forever 21

Man this heat wave this week … OMG it was super hot! When it is hot like this outside I do not want any extra clothes making me even more hot. You know that irritating sticky feel you get, or that feeling you feel dirty as soon as you step outside. Yeah that kinda of hot.  Less clothes… gotta pull out a sun dress.  With that being said I found a cute little button down sundress.  I guess you can say I am trying to knock some of the last few trends of the summer before we get fully geared up for fall attire in the store. The heat index is somewhere between OMG and WTH  Any who I got this striped button down dress from Forever21.  The shell of the dress is made out of cotton with full rayon lining,  so I believe the material will help keep you cool. This dress is definitely outside my comfort zone. If you know me, I am body con dress lover. I love anything that hugs my curves. So having a dress that does not  hug me was different, but in a good way.  I normally do not do dresses like this …

Dealing with body struggles is a tough thing to swallow. It something that everybody has dealt with throughout or some point of their lives. I can really be tough on my body at times. Wishing my stomach was flatter, I wish I didn’t have dimples on my butt, or stretch marks. Wishing my skin was more clearer or my teeth brighter.  All those things that keep me obsessing. Here come the school stories. I was called “butter ball” in middle school. Also I was the thick girl in high school. Yeah some guys actually called me big mama! Really ! You already know that having meat on your bones was rarely celebrate or in style.  Then I had a bad love triangle thing in college… all the way wrong! So yes the anxiety set in and your trying to do anything and everything to fit in what the world says is normal. Little do you know your now on the road of body image struggles. Over time I learn to love my body but I don’t love it all time. I can be somewhat critical of myself, and that really gives me the blues something.  How do I deal with …

Love Letter to my Readers  Happy Valentine’s Day! I’m going to keep this post simple and straight to the point. Love yourself. I use to dread Valentine’s Day. Nobody special to share it with …. oh and look all the gifts on the timeline.. logs off. I learn over time that I should not be bitter. I can celebrate too. What I take from Valentine’s Day is love. Not love for a lover or a significant other. Simply love for myself. I love me and everything that makes me … me! I have stated countless time before you can’t expect to love someone else when you don’t love yourself. It’s the  truth sis ! It not easy. I have bad days sometimes but I don’t let my bad days define Alayna ! So don’t speak down on you.  Love you and everything that makes you…you! Had to say it a second time. So slay the day hun ! Love on yourself . Hug yourself . Tell yourself your beautiful ! Change the narrative on yourself ! Speak kind words to yourself! Shower yourself with Valentines today and everyday because you are a gem that can’t be replace. “The way you speak …

Gift Guide for my Single Ladies for Valentines Day So Valentines Day is around the corner.   I already know the struggle being a single woman I’ve been there. So don’t get in your feelings because you don’t have anyone special to share it with. Please don’t get jealous of the our Twitter and Instagram feed of all the V-day gifts that get posted ladies.  I am a firm believer that you do not need to wait for someone to love you to enjoy Valentines Day. Love yourself hunny. Now  somebody told me that buying a gift for yourself  for Valentines is  pretty pathetic. Hmmmmmm so buying myself a gift and loving myself is pathetic.. Don’t get me to speculate. LOL. To my single hunnies and my ladies that are taken if you want to buy yourself something for Valentines Day go for it.  Self-Love is the best love. We can’t expect to love somebody fully if we don’t love ourselves first. 1: Thigh High Boots: If you want to feeel extra sexy get some sexy thigh high boots. I know when I put my thigh highs on…. girl I walk a little taller. I feel like a “bad gyal”. …

Aye it my birthday!! So freakin awesome !! I am officially 28 years old today.  I am so thankful to be allowed to see another year. Another year to do what I love, to be with my family and friends.  Team Aquarius ! Over the past year I learn a lot about myself. Learn how to cope with my anxiety, learning that its not all about me. I make it a point to get better each year with age. So this is Chapter 28, the pre 30 crisis. Lol  the year of when you start lying about your age. Maybe your under pressure with getting you life together. Or when you body start breaking down. I know its you! The one that getting sleepy in the club before midnight. LOL  Embracing the struggle. I going face getting older head on !  You are never to old to set another goal or to dream a new dream !! – C.S Lewis So on todays blog post I thought I could introduce myself. I feel like my reader to should know I bit more about me.  SO why not give you 28 Random things about me !! I’m letting yall in   …

Its is that time again. It’s Founder’s Day !!! It that day all the ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated  celebrate the day that our beautiful organization was established.   Alpha Kappa Alpha has been servicing for 110 years in counting. My organization was founded on January 15, 1908 by 20 awesome women. We have been going strong ever since then. AKA found a way to uplift woman in time that black woman had no voice, no power! AKA is more than just group or what you heard  or what you seen on instagram.  AKA is always striving to service the people in the community, education, and sisterhood. Also it is Rev.Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr birthday!. You should know because you have the day off So it just a great day all around. It also a big day of service. That what AKAs do, we provide SERVICE TO ALL MANKIND! .. ITS A Serious Matter ! I am way pass my college years but this was one of the best things that I could have done.  It is almost 6 years that I have belong. My sorority has taught me so much like  how to have my sisters back and …

ITS BEGINNING TO LOOK A LOT LIKE CHRISTMAS… EVERYWHEREEEE YOUUU GOOOOO !!! LOL AND DAMN I AM SO OVER THE HOLIDAYS … Sounds like a big contradiction. Happy Holidays everyone! We are in  the last stretch y’all and I am so ready for this year to be over with. I am so over this year I believe I have gotten all that I needed out of it, and yess the last quarter of this year romped my ass. Lets keep it real all the things  that I had under control earlier on this year has knock me down hard.  Face plank.  2 weeks before Christmas and I still have not gotten a single thing for my family and my job constantly ask for us to donate to every cause.  I’ve been broke and I’m still broke, my blood pressure is bs, my anxiety will never leave me alone., and Sallie Mae can get these hands lol Why !!!!!  breathe !!!  No more giving up all of my energy. Whatever happened over this past year, be thankful for where it brought you. Where you are is where you’re meant to be. – Mandy Hale So 2018 is the year of the …

Who are you before you started doing whatever to impress that crowd? Who were you before he got all up in your head? Do you even remember who you are ?  Girl I know the struggle I’m trying to put all my pieces back together. Lost in the sauce I’ve been there. When they say be yourself its easier said then done. I am here to say it possible. That what I am currently doing. I’m finding myself again. Reason why I was so lost because I taught myself at a young age how to be like other people. Since I was young girl I wanted to be in the “in” crowd. With the popular girls, being the girl that all the guys liked. I really just wanted everyone to like me. My fashion sense always changed and my mind set was all over the place. No matter how hard I tried I was still that weird, awkward, cute, silly, crazy girl that I tried to hide. However all the constant change and trying to stay up on everything left me so confuse. Who am I ? Lord I don’t know. Can you answer it confidently?  Im trying to find …