Reclaiming Your Confidences

For the pass few days I have been jamming to Janelle Monae’s album Dirty Computer. I Like That has been on repeat …

A little crazy, little sexy, little cool
Little rough around the edges but I keep it smooth… and I like that!

This album really speaks about simply being yourself, living your truth, being okay with you are, and making sure you don’t allow anybody to take away what makes you, you ! Yes check out the Emotion Picture.

This album resonate confidences. Can you believe I lack self confidences? I let fear and what other people told me, dictate how I was going to live my life. I was going be hip hop dancer but I let other people make me feel like I was too big to dance. I was going to a lot of stuff but the validation for other people stopped me in my tracks. This then turned in to lack of confidences and shot down my self esteem. Then, I would allow people to say and treat me with so much disrespect, I wouldn’t fight back at all. I would just cry and grow numb. Or I use my funny antics to hide the hurt inside. I put up with too much bullshit from people. I did not think I was worthy and it really impacted how I live my life. Would you believe me if I told you, you can reclaim your self esteem/ confidences? I had to put in the work but I did it. I really had to change the way I view myself. and how I think. Seriously I did it and I work on it everyday. Reclaiming my confidences was the backbone behind me starting my blog FashionLayn. Through my blog I learn to love and appreciate myself. Gain peace with who I am, all the bad and good. I had to live my truth because the truth was busting out. It all came from within. Your girl is really all that now.

Hell the addiction for approval is a hard thing to put behind.. However, that validation is not enough and it will never be enough, we all need that real love. That self love that I preach so much on my blog and continuously drill in my head. You are the key to your confidences. Self love, I believe, can cure you from the approval addiction. So sis… yes I am talking to you beloved it time for you to reclaim your confidences. Lack of confidences is crippling. I think it can put your life on hold.. really it had my life on stand still. I want you reach down deep in yourself and work on this everyday. You are the light and don’t let anybody take your light away from you.

Reclaiming Your Confidences

First and foremost you are worthy ! – the only approval you need is from yourself, nobody else. Be good with you.
Choose to be Happy – This is tough one for me to grasp. Happiness is truly a state of mind. Either you choice to wake up and be happy or choose to be sad. Be more intentional.
Believe in yourself: Simple as that, change your mindset and believe that you can do anything that you put your mind too. Don’t let the snakes ruin what you got going on
Find a passion or Be passionate- Blogging found me and now it is my passion. I feel more confident than every since I started and it is one the first thing that I think about. What can I talk about on my blog to uplift the person that is reading.
Be yourself — No more hiding behind the disguise be your authentic self. Now you might have to set back and really get to know yourself again.

(look details: scroll to the bottom and enjoy the pictures)

Shop My Look:

The inspiration around this look was “black hippy”. I just wanted do whatever I wanted to do when I put this look together. Freedom and love was the key to look. I wanted to be vulnerable and showcase who I am really., the girl who marches to her own beat. Always believe that I was on another wave length. No matter how much I tried to go along with the flow and dress the way everybody else did, my true colors always resonated. I am the shy, unique , funny girl that loves her braids, graphics tees and bright colors. All the things on the outside that I like and love.

Also who didn’t love ALL THAT, the 90s show on Nickelodeon. I like to think of it as the kid version to SNL. I want to be on that show so bad because and I knew I had something in me to knock them dead. However the dream is in the past and I will not stop dreaming and never stop reaching for my dreams. Hey it maybe a dream deferred. So when I saw this shirt in Forever21 I picked it up with the quickness and did not care that the shirt was too big. I made it work.

Shirt: All That Tie Dye Tee// Forever21 (LINK)

Shorts: Mustard Woven High-Rise Shorts// Forever21 (LINK)

Special Shoutout to Darrien Pope, the Detroit native photographer, on the beautiful pictures You are a true talent. I. These pictures are so breathe taking. Thank you so much for working with and dealing with my silliness. I really appreciate you !

Instagram: @darrienpope |Facebook: @darrienpope |Website: www.darrienpope.com

So with all that being keep striving! Believe in yourself , be yourself and I know that it all will happen for. Reclaim your confidence!