We don’t have time for fear….. Confront it 

SIS we don’t have time for fear…..  It really time to Confront it!!! Michelle Obama said so gracefully at the Worldwide Developers Conference 2017… “ If we let [fear] consume us, then we don’t move. If we allow fear to define one another, then we go down a very dark path. But [fear is] there. It’s an emotion that we all feel, it just can’t consume you. I really grasp, just yesterday, how fear really stifles me. I believe that I have a bunch of talent that I have not use because I let fear and doubt plague me. So how do I deal with fear ? Let me tell yall my story. So yesterday, I faced my fear head on.  I was ask to speak to college girls at my alma mater, Oakland University about spicing up your wardrobe, and fashion on a budget. OMG I was happy and filled with panic at the same time. My first speaking engagement as a blogger. I almost said no because immediately I started to doubt myself. I though I did not have what it takes to speak in front of people. What was I going to say? What am I going …

SISTERHOOD… It is What we all Need !

Its is that time again. It’s Founder’s Day !!! It that day all the ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated  celebrate the day that our beautiful organization was established.   Alpha Kappa Alpha has been servicing for 110 years in counting. My organization was founded on January 15, 1908 by 20 awesome women. We have been going strong ever since then. AKA found a way to uplift woman in time that black woman had no voice, no power! AKA is more than just group or what you heard  or what you seen on instagram.  AKA is always striving to service the people in the community, education, and sisterhood. Also it is Rev.Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr birthday!. You should know because you have the day off So it just a great day all around. It also a big day of service. That what AKAs do, we provide SERVICE TO ALL MANKIND! .. ITS A Serious Matter ! I am way pass my college years but this was one of the best things that I could have done.  It is almost 6 years that I have belong. My sorority has taught me so much like  how to have my sisters back and …

I See You Struggling Sis … Tell Me About It

I just took DNA test turns out 100% that bitch, even when I’m crying crazy… Yeah I got boy problems, thats human in me… Bling Bling, then I solve’em that the goddess in me/// LIZZO – Truth Hurts. Yess I have been playing this song non stop. (Take a Listen)  Yeah I’m not sure what the lyric has anything do with self care or what I am about to post. However, I consider this song apart of my self care regimen. Music is the answer to most of my problems.  Those lyrics can explain most of the time exactly how I am feeling. Besides music makes me feel good. Anywho, I was scrolling down my timeline on Insta and I came across a question: How will you take better care of yourself this year ?  It got me thinking girl…  Hmm of course eating healthy.. its always on my agenda. Beside eating what can I do to make myself feel so much better.  I learn over the years that before you can do anything else you have to take care of yourself first. You will think that it is common sense… but really we do more for other people more than …

Burr…. Its Cold… Its January !!

I SAIDDDDD BURRRRRR ITS COLD IN HERE… I SAY IT MUST ME SOME CLOVERS IN THE ATMOSPHERE…… “BRING IT OWN” LOL yea the arctic blast is killing me. Subzero temps geez it really cold and it murder on my skin. Welp we made it y’all !! My Lord we made it to the New Years and it such a blessing.  The last few months has been so hard but it time to put the past behind us. Be present and think forward. Lol I want to really want to say “its the new year new me phrase”…. but I’m not gonna be cliche lol. I am going to put action to all the things I say. I really get to start over and make some things right.  January is my favorite month especially for my blog. It my BIRTHDAY MONTH, not only that but its my BLOGIVERSARY, and I get to celebrate my SORORITY… of course so much more!! I have a lot of new ideas that have been brewing and they are going to be put into action.  This is call phase GROWTH for the blog. ( Last year was consistency… this year is growth).   Guess you can …

I’m Over it !!

ITS BEGINNING TO LOOK A LOT LIKE CHRISTMAS… EVERYWHEREEEE YOUUU GOOOOO !!! LOL AND DAMN I AM SO OVER THE HOLIDAYS … Sounds like a big contradiction. Happy Holidays everyone! We are in  the last stretch y’all and I am so ready for this year to be over with. I am so over this year I believe I have gotten all that I needed out of it, and yess the last quarter of this year romped my ass. Lets keep it real all the things  that I had under control earlier on this year has knock me down hard.  Face plank.  2 weeks before Christmas and I still have not gotten a single thing for my family and my job constantly ask for us to donate to every cause.  I’ve been broke and I’m still broke, my blood pressure is bs, my anxiety will never leave me alone., and Sallie Mae can get these hands lol Why !!!!!  breathe !!!  No more giving up all of my energy. Whatever happened over this past year, be thankful for where it brought you. Where you are is where you’re meant to be. – Mandy Hale So 2018 is the year of the …

Detroit Hustles Harder

So the weekend after last I was in Eastern Market taking a few pictures. I ran across Detroit Hustles Harder Store. I heard a lot about this brand however I never stumble upon the store. I know I know… How can you be a Detroit Native and not know where the Detroit stores are. “I don’t have the answer sway”. All I know is that I finally stumble upon this hidden gem.  I love the feel of the store. It had a industrial/ hipster feel to it. I love how cozy the shop made me feel. I love city like anything ! When I enter into the store is was party going on in their. It wasn’t really a party, it was bunch of ladies that seem to be out of town turnin up. They has a little champagne and they spending some money ! They were going  live on Facebook and Instagram. I was little afraid to go into because I thought it was private party. However, I had my sidekick… mommy… and she enter in the store with out hesitation. LOL My momma is G ! What does Detroit Hustles  Harder means to me? As a Detroit Native …

Romancing Yourself

Learning How to Romance Myself Hey!! Its fall y’all and you already know what that means,  cuffing season is in full effect. When the weather cools down people tend to snuggle up with somebody,  However, cuffing season has miss me this year.  I haven’t been on a date in years.  LOL yeah I know WHAT !!!  I have had quite a few prospects however people go ghost, it fizzles out, or whatever. It just doesn’t happen for me. Why must we feel sad or upset because we all alone?  I will tell you, some people do not find comfort with being alone and I am one of them.  But who says we have to be alone? And who says we have to have a partner to be happy? Do we really need to put all that in one persons hand? So the solution is Romance yourself! Do not wait around for someone to come to sweep you off your feet. Sweep your own self and romancing.  So today, I will be giving some tips on what you can do to spark the romance in your life by yourself. Romancing yourself is a time that you get to learn yourself, and spend …

Sensitive to the Bone

Omg she is so sensitive? Don’t cry because people are going to think you are weak?  Just get over it !!You need to get tougher skin? Why are you so anxious ? LOL you look frazzle. I have heard it all. This weekend my emotions were on over drive due to my lady time. Everything was under my skin, and have been dub the name bipolar Alayna. In addition, I was told that I don’t say certain things to you because I know you can’ take it.  **Side eye** That it I can take it anymore. LOL I can take it anymore I am so tired of it all. I tired of people looking at me funny because I am breaking down in tears because your tone is off. I do not like when people laugh at me because I am becoming anxious in a large crowd.  I know some people just do not understand it so I am going to explain it the best way I can. My goal is to get you all to understand how people like me feel and to drop the stigma of having emotions equal weakness. Sidenote: it is a lot of articles about …