6 Tips For Emotional Healing

So I know as of lately my emotions has been all over the place. I made it clear this month in my It’s October !! post that I wanted to focus on healing. Inside and out, especially mentally. So it is time to be still for a moment.   Also, it time for me too really sit back to identify what is making me feel all of these emotions.  With all that being said I had to identify that I was emotionally a mess. I had lost control….. one thing about a person like me losing control scares me.  So this month I put myself under the microscope and really worked hard with getting to core of what my grief was. Check out my story to see if I am in the process of recovering from emotional pains and scars! My Story … First I constantly was worry, and complaining a lot.  I was worry about being successful, money problem, just a lot of things that everyday people are challenge with. I was mental drained. Also I was suffering from the perfectionism complex. I  felt like I  had to be perfect. I really can feel the pressure  I put on myself.  …

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Striped Denim Jacket

Tomorrow is when my vacation…  and I need to get away from all the stressful things that going on in my life. I am so happy and thankful for this time! So it is only right that I post before my trip. Of course I can not leave y’all hanging. I have been so overwhelmed and I know why… I am super unbalanced lol.  Unbalanced what you talking about sis ?  I am doing to much of one thing and not doing enough of the other.  How am I am going to get it together? Well first I am going to start by taking a well needed vacation. So yes tomorrow I am going to focus on having fun with my girls and be a bit more care free. Simply enjoy my life in my opinion is a good start to living my stress free life. Just like this outfit. Carefree and fun ! This look I am going for is all about the multi-striped denim jacket.  I got a hold of this jacket at Forever21. I was walking around in the store and stumble on this jacket randomly. Now this jacket is on the smaller side of the spectrum. Anyway …

Side Effects of Being Loner

Let me tell y’all something. I have always been by myself. I am the only child… no siblings. Never had that many friends and the boyfriend department, don’t even ask- he just don’t exist on the this planet.  I can say that I switch back and forth from being introvert and extrovert.  I had to take a step back from the fashion and address some things that have been heavy on my heart. I know I am not alone in this category. I am super lonely and I am trying to figure out how I can get myself out of this hole I made for myself. A loner is person that chose not to interact with people.  Let me add my spin to it…. I do classify myself as loner however I pick and choose when I want to interact with people.  Some days I do and some days I want to spend time with myself. I come from a long line of people that are loners in my family. My daddy, grandpa, and whole host of uncles that like to be by themselves. I got it honest  However, being a loner has been super heavy on me lately.  I …

EveryBody Get Yo Yoga On !

FashionLayn Hangs out with Femology Detroit & LuluLemon Who  knew that simple  breathing, body posture, and meditation can bring you so much good feelings to your life. Yoga is that special thing I need in my life to help me heal.  Long story short. I use to do yoga once week for a few months when I first started working downtown. I would take my yoga class during the lunch time since it was free. Wellness is a big thing where I work at. The perks of my job. Any who I switched to a new position, got really busy and yoga was not apart of my life anymore. SAD ! So last week Wednesday I was invited to this women only self care event hosted by Femology Detroit and LuluLemon:  Self Love Yoga. It took place right after work for me and it was hosted at Lululemon Detroit on Woodward Ave.  Sidenote: Femology Detroit is a modern business workspace created for women to interact, work, and thrive! founded by Meagan Ward.. shout out to you sis ! Back to the story:    I believe this was calling from GOD.. I am actually so grateful that I attend because I needed …

Reclaiming Your Confidences

For the pass few days I have been jamming to Janelle Monae’s album Dirty Computer. I Like That has been on repeat …  A little crazy, little sexy, little cool Little rough around the edges but I keep it smooth… and I like that! This album really speaks about simply being yourself, living your truth, being okay with you are, and making sure you don’t allow anybody to take away what makes you, you ! Yes check out the Emotion Picture. This album resonate confidences.  Can you believe I lack self confidences? I let fear and what other people told me, dictate how I was going to live my life.  I was going be hip hop dancer but I let other people make me feel like I was too big to dance. I was going to a lot of stuff but the validation for other people stopped me in my tracks. This then turned in to lack of confidences and shot down my self esteem. Then, I would allow people to say and treat me with so much disrespect, I wouldn’t fight back at all. I would just cry and grow numb. Or I use my funny antics to hide the hurt inside. I …

Girls Trip is the Best Medicine

“We’re going to be staying up late, drinking, making memories that we can laugh about for the rest of our lives, because that’s what a girls trip is for.” -Dina aka Tiffany Haddish “Girls Trip” Yes hunny I couldn’t stay it any better. I am coming back from a bomb ass trip ! Excuse my language but I have to be really honest about how I am feeling. I just got back from Washington DC… the nations capitol. This trip was one of the best experience that I had so far.  Now I did not get a chance to check out the monuments and all the others stuff but I had a another chance to bond with my girls… my sister ! #tripsandrisk We have been traveling together for a few years. Greek picnics, Atlanta, Toronto… and now DC. I really needed this trip because  I was really burnt out at work. The same thing everyday is so tiresome and you really start to lose it…. lose your sanity and the essence that make you a fun person. I really looked back at my life and I am like I really not enjoying it like I should. I am 28 …

All That Color… Its April !

Wow its the day after Easter. Can you believe it was Easter Sunday, April Fools Day, and rent is due all at the same time. Wow !! Last month went my way I can say. I was organize and I noticed how many things I say that accomplish. I learn that accountability is important when it comes to being a blogger and just real life stuff ! So yes,  I knocked all my personal goals out the park last month and I am excited to keep this momentum going in April.  In April Sexual Assault Awareness Month, this something we really need to focus on. Also make sure we address with all women and men, especially with our women of color. So its definitely going to be address on the blog. Lastly the fashun.. oh how I love fashion. I want to take it a step further on with my look. Fashion Note My wardrobe consist of denim jeans, graphic tees, black jeggings, and dresses!  Thats really it, my staples to my everyday looks. However I still feel like I am dressing like Alayna the college student. It is time to grow. Again, I keep stressing how much I want …

My Body Image Gives Me The Blues Sometimes! How to deal ?

Dealing with body struggles is a tough thing to swallow. It something that everybody has dealt with throughout or some point of their lives. I can really be tough on my body at times. Wishing my stomach was flatter, I wish I didn’t have dimples on my butt, or stretch marks. Wishing my skin was more clearer or my teeth brighter.  All those things that keep me obsessing. Here come the school stories. I was called “butter ball” in middle school. Also I was the thick girl in high school. Yeah some guys actually called me big mama! Really ! You already know that having meat on your bones was rarely celebrate or in style.  Then I had a bad love triangle thing in college… all the way wrong! So yes the anxiety set in and your trying to do anything and everything to fit in what the world says is normal. Little do you know your now on the road of body image struggles. Over time I learn to love my body but I don’t love it all time. I can be somewhat critical of myself, and that really gives me the blues something.  How do I deal with …

We All Have to Hold Ourselves Accountable !

5 Ways to Hold Yourself Accountable Accountability: Calling yourself out ! Me: Alayna! Myself: Huh lol  Me: Yeah you.. come to the carpet ! We need to talk ! Myself: *sigh* Okay  Accountability works the other way to you know. You can’t always hold others accountable for what they do… you have start look at yourself and what you do too. Before I wrote out my goals for March I reflected on the month of February. I noticed that I did not reach any of my personal goals nor was I consistent on my blog. I was thinking and I was coming up with some many excuses as to why I did not achieve my goals or work on my blog enough ! None of it was making sense. As I was pointing  fingers at other things in regards to why I was not being consistent on my blog or reaching my goals… I had three fingers point back at me. It was on me !  I let myself down, I was being lazy, I was not using my time wisely . It was all on me! I had to hold myself accountable for  my actions and choices. Tough pill …

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