Side Effects of Being Loner

Let me tell y’all something. I have always been by myself. I am the only child… no siblings. Never had that many friends and the boyfriend department, don’t even ask- he just don’t exist on the this planet.  I can say that I switch back and forth from being introvert and extrovert.  I had to take a step back from the fashion and address some things that have been heavy on my heart. I know I am not alone in this category. I am super lonely and I am trying to figure out how I can get myself out of this hole I made for myself. A loner is person that chooses not to interact with people.  Let me add my spin to it…. I do classify myself as loner however I pick and choose when I want to interact with people.  Some days I do and some days I want to spend time with myself. I come from a long line of people that are loners in my family. My daddy, grandpa, and whole host of uncles that like to be by themselves. I got it honest  However, being a loner has been super heavy on me lately.  I …

All That Color… Its April !

Wow its the day after Easter. Can you believe it was Easter Sunday, April Fools Day, and rent is due all at the same time. Wow !! Last month went my way I can say. I was organize and I noticed how many things I say that accomplish. I learn that accountability is important when it comes to being a blogger and just real life stuff ! So yes,  I knocked all my personal goals out the park last month and I am excited to keep this momentum going in April.  In April Sexual Assault Awareness Month, this something we really need to focus on. Also make sure we address with all women and men, especially with our women of color. So its definitely going to be address on the blog. Lastly the fashun.. oh how I love fashion. I want to take it a step further on with my look. Fashion Note My wardrobe consist of denim jeans, graphic tees, black jeggings, and dresses!  Thats really it, my staples to my everyday looks. However I still feel like I am dressing like Alayna the college student. It is time to grow. Again, I keep stressing how much I want …

The Truth Will Set You Free

Living your truth What does the phrase living your truth mean ? Are you who you say your are.? Are you you being your authentic self. Question is who are you before the world told you who to be ? Living your truth is being your most authentic self in my opinion… that what it means to me. I think it is important to live your truth because who really wants to spend there lives trapped by living up to expectations and definitions. I know we have done it at  some part of our life.  We have lied about who we are and over it time it gets really really easy. Until you wake one day and feel really incomplete ! Or we always seeking validation from others. I say it time to strip down and bare it all.  However it hard and scary ! The Struggle: As a nation I think we have push the envelop to far. We so desperately want to liked… no way do want to stand out due to fear. Fear that we have seen from our peer that show the world their true selves.  It not always peaches & cream. If our world can …

Weekend Getaway: How to Pack for a Winter Weekend Getaway?

It’s a road trip time ! Time to escape from the cold weather… NOT.!!.. I am going to another cold city. Chicago ! . Chic town, my home away from home. No this is not a romantic getaway but it a GIRLS TRIP!! I am so happy to get away for a minute. Over the weekend we have a tremendous amount of snow. On the last day dealing with the snow,I had to go to work. Here comes the bad news. The car port that shields my car from the weather, fell on top of my car. It was pinned by a huge carport. So I need this get away smh to cope with this bad news.  ISH certainly does happens ! Let get on topic ! How to Pack for a Weekend Trip…… IN THE WINTER ?! So how do you pack for the winter? It sounds like a chore! Not gonna lie to you! Packing is a chore. I know I know. We over pack! We forget! So much to pack for a 1 trip. However I enjoy packing! So I am going to give yall some tips and trick and maybe even a checklist. Who knows just keep …

Do it for Love or Do for the Culture… It’s February!

O M G January flew by so fast! Like it was just here but… you know the years fly by fast. January was full of excitement. Birthday check ! Blogging check ! Life kinda well it gets a  check ! LOL I really say January was super successful for me as blogger More likes, more content, creativity all of that . I am also proud to announce that I join the BLOG WITH KIM MASTERMIND class. Yes I as blogger I am always open to learn more and more to become a better blogger and writer. February I have a lot to look forward too. It is the first day of BLACK HISTORY MONTH!  Black history month is everyday for me however it is a special month and it time to celebrate all the black excellence.  So of course going I do some activities in Detroit for Black History Month and talk about black women. Also a little self love and self care this month.  Since I am single person I try to find ways to keep my spirits up. Of course Valentines Day is right around the corner and I dread seeing all the post on social media. Look what …

Move in Silence Like Lasagna

The older I get the more I understand the phrase move in silence. It that phrase let you now that you got moves, things being plan, execution, and big news .  All those things that let people know that you got some things brewing. But to often I see people typing the phrase move in silence and not actually abiding by the phrase : moveee in silenceee.  You don’t have to tell everybody what you doing sis. Also, too many people typing the phrase and not putting any action to it.   Yeah girl she aint doing nothing she said she was doing.  Lastly, sharing your big news can put a damper on your mood because of the wrong. “Yea girl how she get job I think I am more qualified then her.” Smh  hold your horses sis. LOL sis you don’t have tell everybody everything or that you moving in silence. I feel like if you say  something that open the flood gates for bs. “plot quietly and humbly.  manifest fruitfully and abundantly. Why is it super important to move in silence ? It is important to move in silence because in all honesty is you plan fully planned …

So I’m Just to Cooool for You… “Right”!

I stay in the Friend Zone… Living Single in 2018s kinda of world I’m glad I got my girls !!! LOL . Listen to me …I have been curved, I have been friend zoned. I have been confused. I have been without a label. Simply I have no idea where my love life is gonna go. SO I am Living Single 🙂  BARE WITH ME… THIS IS ONE MY POST THAT IS OFF TOPIC BUT I FEEL LIKE MY LADIES THAT HAVE A HARD TIME DATING NEED TO KNOW THIS.. SPECIAL SHARE I am so over trying to date in this day in age. It so hard ! But I am not gonna give up. I have always been the girl who tried to be down with the guys. I am also super shy.  I would watch sports, play video games all those things to impress the guys.  Dating is a nervous thing for me so I have a tendency of hiding my true feelings,  and my excitement.  I want to show I am really chill. Also I always wait for the guys to take lead. So with all that being said I had to start looking back at myself and see …

We don’t have time for fear….. Confront it 

SIS we don’t have time for fear…..  It really time to Confront it!!! Michelle Obama said so gracefully at the Worldwide Developers Conference 2017… “ If we let [fear] consume us, then we don’t move. If we allow fear to define one another, then we go down a very dark path. But [fear is] there. It’s an emotion that we all feel, it just can’t consume you. I really grasp, just yesterday, how fear really stifles me. I believe that I have a bunch of talent that I have not use because I let fear and doubt plague me. So how do I deal with fear ? Let me tell yall my story. So yesterday, I faced my fear head on.  I was ask to speak to college girls at my alma mater, Oakland University about spicing up your wardrobe, and fashion on a budget. OMG I was happy and filled with panic at the same time. My first speaking engagement as a blogger. I almost said no because immediately I started to doubt myself. I though I did not have what it takes to speak in front of people. What was I going to say? What am I going …

SISTERHOOD… It is What we all Need !

Its is that time again. It’s Founder’s Day !!! It that day all the ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated  celebrate the day that our beautiful organization was established.   Alpha Kappa Alpha has been servicing for 110 years in counting. My organization was founded on January 15, 1908 by 20 awesome women. We have been going strong ever since then. AKA found a way to uplift woman in time that black woman had no voice, no power! AKA is more than just group or what you heard  or what you seen on instagram.  AKA is always striving to service the people in the community, education, and sisterhood. Also it is Rev.Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr birthday!. You should know because you have the day off So it just a great day all around. It also a big day of service. That what AKAs do, we provide SERVICE TO ALL MANKIND! .. ITS A Serious Matter ! I am way pass my college years but this was one of the best things that I could have done.  It is almost 6 years that I have belong. My sorority has taught me so much like  how to have my sisters back and …

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