DROPPIN’ GEMS: Doubt Kills Dreams

Have you heard the phrase… “Doubt kills more dream than failure ever will” ? Yeah I came across this quote on Pinterest and it really got me thinking about self doubt and how easy we can fall to it. Doubt can make you lack confidence in your abilities to accomplish something.  It hold you back from doing great things.  We all were given potential to do something great with our lives. However we still doubt ourselves. Why do you doubt ourselves in the first place ? Fear that we can’t sustain. Habitual doubter – It’s habit – sidenote: it take 21 days to break a habit. We lack the skills or the experiences Not putting the past behind us We believe what others day Surround by people who doubt themselves Comfort Zone/ Complacent All these things can make you doubt yourself. Doubt your potential and then it can kill your dream ! So listen we do not have time for the dream killing or the dream killers. Doubt definitely kills dreams more than failure. Doubt will have you thinking all negative thought on why something can not happen for you. Listen: Believe in yourself… Im going to say it again. …

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Girls Trip is the Best Medicine

“We’re going to be staying up late, drinking, making memories that we can laugh about for the rest of our lives, because that’s what a girls trip is for.” -Dina aka Tiffany Haddish “Girls Trip” Yes hunny I couldn’t stay it any better. I am coming back from a bomb ass trip ! Excuse my language but I have to be really honest about how I am feeling. I just got back from Washington DC… the nations capitol. This trip was one of the best experience that I had so far.  Now I did not get a chance to check out the monuments and all the others stuff but I had a another chance to bond with my girls… my sister ! #tripsandrisk We have been traveling together for a few years. Greek picnics, Atlanta, Toronto… and now DC. I really needed this trip because  I was really burnt out at work. The same thing everyday is so tiresome and you really start to lose it…. lose your sanity and the essence that make you a fun person. I really looked back at my life and I am like I really not enjoying it like I should. I am 28 …

We All Have to Hold Ourselves Accountable !

5 Ways to Hold Yourself Accountable Accountability: Calling yourself out ! Me: Alayna! Myself: Huh lol  Me: Yeah you.. come to the carpet ! We need to talk ! Myself: *sigh* Okay  Accountability works the other way to you know. You can’t always hold others accountable for what they do… you have start look at yourself and what you do too. Before I wrote out my goals for March I reflected on the month of February. I noticed that I did not reach any of my personal goals nor was I consistent on my blog. I was thinking and I was coming up with some many excuses as to why I did not achieve my goals or work on my blog enough ! None of it was making sense. As I was pointing  fingers at other things in regards to why I was not being consistent on my blog or reaching my goals… I had three fingers point back at me. It was on me !  I let myself down, I was being lazy, I was not using my time wisely . It was all on me! I had to hold myself accountable for  my actions and choices. Tough pill …

The Truth Will Set You Free

Living your truth What does the phrase living your truth mean ? Are you who you say your are.? Are you you being your authentic self. Question is who are you before the world told you who to be ? Living your truth is being your most authentic self in my opinion… that what it means to me. I think it is important to live your truth because who really wants to spend there lives trapped by living up to expectations and definitions. I know we have done it at  some part of our life.  We have lied about who we are and over it time it gets really really easy. Until you wake one day and feel really incomplete ! Or we always seeking validation from others. I say it time to strip down and bare it all.  However it hard and scary ! The Struggle: As a nation I think we have push the envelop to far. We so desperately want to liked… no way do want to stand out due to fear. Fear that we have seen from our peer that show the world their true selves.  It not always peaches & cream. If our world can …

You Better Slay with yo Single Self

Love Letter to my Readers  Happy Valentine’s Day! I’m going to keep this post simple and straight to the point. Love yourself. I use to dread Valentine’s Day. Nobody special to share it with …. oh and look all the gifts on the timeline.. logs off. I learn over time that I should not be bitter. I can celebrate too. What I take from Valentine’s Day is love. Not love for a lover or a significant other. Simply love for myself. I love me and everything that makes me … me! I have stated countless time before you can’t expect to love someone else when you don’t love yourself. It’s the  truth sis ! It not easy. I have bad days sometimes but I don’t let my bad days define Alayna ! So don’t speak down on you.  Love you and everything that makes you…you! Had to say it a second time. So slay the day hun ! Love on yourself . Hug yourself . Tell yourself your beautiful ! Change the narrative on yourself ! Speak kind words to yourself! Shower yourself with Valentines today and everyday because you are a gem that can’t be replace. “The way you speak …

6 Valentines Day Gifts to Myself

Gift Guide for my Single Ladies for Valentines Day So Valentines Day is around the corner.   I already know the struggle being a single woman I’ve been there. So don’t get in your feelings because you don’t have anyone special to share it with. Please don’t get jealous of the our Twitter and Instagram feed of all the V-day gifts that get posted ladies.  I am a firm believer that you do not need to wait for someone to love you to enjoy Valentines Day. Love yourself hunny. Now  somebody told me that buying a gift for yourself  for Valentines is  pretty pathetic. Hmmmmmm so buying myself a gift and loving myself is pathetic.. Don’t get me to speculate. LOL. To my single hunnies and my ladies that are taken if you want to buy yourself something for Valentines Day go for it.  Self-Love is the best love. We can’t expect to love somebody fully if we don’t love ourselves first. 1: Thigh High Boots: If you want to feeel extra sexy get some sexy thigh high boots. I know when I put my thigh highs on…. girl I walk a little taller. I feel like a “bad gyal”. …

I See You Struggling Sis … Tell Me About It

I just took DNA test turns out 100% that bitch, even when I’m crying crazy… Yeah I got boy problems, thats human in me… Bling Bling, then I solve’em that the goddess in me/// LIZZO – Truth Hurts. Yess I have been playing this song non stop. (Take a Listen)  Yeah I’m not sure what the lyric has anything do with self care or what I am about to post. However, I consider this song apart of my self care regimen. Music is the answer to most of my problems.  Those lyrics can explain most of the time exactly how I am feeling. Besides music makes me feel good. Anywho, I was scrolling down my timeline on Insta and I came across a question: How will you take better care of yourself this year ?  It got me thinking girl…  Hmm of course eating healthy.. its always on my agenda. Beside eating what can I do to make myself feel so much better.  I learn over the years that before you can do anything else you have to take care of yourself first. You will think that it is common sense… but really we do more for other people more than …

Burr…. Its Cold… Its January !!

I SAIDDDDD BURRRRRR ITS COLD IN HERE… I SAY IT MUST ME SOME CLOVERS IN THE ATMOSPHERE…… “BRING IT OWN” LOL yea the arctic blast is killing me. Subzero temps geez it really cold and it murder on my skin. Welp we made it y’all !! My Lord we made it to the New Years and it such a blessing.  The last few months has been so hard but it time to put the past behind us. Be present and think forward. Lol I want to really want to say “its the new year new me phrase”…. but I’m not gonna be cliche lol. I am going to put action to all the things I say. I really get to start over and make some things right.  January is my favorite month especially for my blog. It my BIRTHDAY MONTH, not only that but its my BLOGIVERSARY, and I get to celebrate my SORORITY… of course so much more!! I have a lot of new ideas that have been brewing and they are going to be put into action.  This is call phase GROWTH for the blog. ( Last year was consistency… this year is growth).   Guess you can …

My Feel Good Playlist

My answer to helping you put your worries and issues aside is to listen to a “feel good playlist”. I have been noticing that I have been less in control of my life. My anxiety has my life shambles right now. As I am reflecting on the fact that I loss a bit of control of my life, I decided to take some of my control back. So what I do is listen to some music to cure my blues. I  am firm believer that music was made to assimilate and that it can cure a lot of things. Right now is curing my in the dump feeling. This playlist goes from r&b , alternative, and pop and I guarantee it will make you feel good. If you don’t like my musical selection than I challenge you to put all the music you love into a playlist. I prefer to listen to music that positive message, an up beat feel good groove, or something that makes me dance like a craze 3 year old kids. Lol its a feel good groove that helps me let go and let God!  Play when your having the blues, a bad day, or simple …

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