Self Care

FashionLayn Hangs out with Femology Detroit & LuluLemon Who  knew that simple  breathing, body posture, and meditation can bring you so much good feelings to your life. Yoga is that special thing I need in my life to help me heal.  Long story short. I use to do yoga once week for a few months when I first started working downtown. I would take my yoga class during the lunch time since it was free. Wellness is a big thing where I work at. The perks of my job. Any who I switched to a new position, got really busy and yoga was not apart of my life anymore. SAD ! So last week Wednesday I was invited to this women only self care event hosted by Femology Detroit and LuluLemon:  Self Love Yoga. It took place right after work for me and it was hosted at Lululemon Detroit on Woodward Ave.  Sidenote: Femology Detroit is a modern business workspace created for women to interact, work, and thrive! founded by Meagan Ward.. shout out to you sis ! Back to the story:    I believe this was calling from GOD.. I am actually so grateful that I attend because I needed …

For the pass few days I have been jamming to Janelle Monae’s album Dirty Computer. I Like That has been on repeat …  A little crazy, little sexy, little cool Little rough around the edges but I keep it smooth… and I like that! This album really speaks about simply being yourself, living your truth, being okay with you are, and making sure you don’t allow anybody to take away what makes you, you ! Yes check out the Emotion Picture. This album resonate confidences.  Can you believe I lack self confidences? I let fear and what other people told me, dictate how I was going to live my life.  I was going be hip hop dancer but I let other people make me feel like I was too big to dance. I was going to a lot of stuff but the validation for other people stopped me in my tracks. This then turned in to lack of confidences and shot down my self esteem. Then, I would allow people to say and treat me with so much disrespect, I wouldn’t fight back at all. I would just cry and grow numb. Or I use my funny antics to hide the hurt inside. I …

Have you heard the phrase… “Doubt kills more dream than failure ever will” ? Yeah I came across this quote on Pinterest and it really got me thinking about self doubt and how easy we can fall to it. Doubt can make you lack confidence in your abilities to accomplish something.  It hold you back from doing great things.  We all were given potential to do something great with our lives. However we still doubt ourselves. Why do you doubt ourselves in the first place ? Fear that we can’t sustain. Habitual doubter – It’s habit – sidenote: it take 21 days to break a habit. We lack the skills or the experiences Not putting the past behind us We believe what others day Surround by people who doubt themselves Comfort Zone/ Complacent All these things can make you doubt yourself. Doubt your potential and then it can kill your dream ! So listen we do not have time for the dream killing or the dream killers. Doubt definitely kills dreams more than failure. Doubt will have you thinking all negative thought on why something can not happen for you. Listen: Believe in yourself… Im going to say it again. …

“We’re going to be staying up late, drinking, making memories that we can laugh about for the rest of our lives, because that’s what a girls trip is for.” -Dina aka Tiffany Haddish “Girls Trip” Yes hunny I couldn’t stay it any better. I am coming back from a bomb ass trip ! Excuse my language but I have to be really honest about how I am feeling. I just got back from Washington DC… the nations capitol. This trip was one of the best experience that I had so far.  Now I did not get a chance to check out the monuments and all the others stuff but I had a another chance to bond with my girls… my sister ! #tripsandrisk We have been traveling together for a few years. Greek picnics, Atlanta, Toronto… and now DC. I really needed this trip because  I was really burnt out at work. The same thing everyday is so tiresome and you really start to lose it…. lose your sanity and the essence that make you a fun person. I really looked back at my life and I am like I really not enjoying it like I should. I am 28 …

5 Ways to Hold Yourself Accountable Accountability: Calling yourself out ! Me: Alayna! Myself: Huh lol  Me: Yeah you.. come to the carpet ! We need to talk ! Myself: *sigh* Okay  Accountability works the other way to you know. You can’t always hold others accountable for what they do… you have start look at yourself and what you do too. Before I wrote out my goals for March I reflected on the month of February. I noticed that I did not reach any of my personal goals nor was I consistent on my blog. I was thinking and I was coming up with some many excuses as to why I did not achieve my goals or work on my blog enough ! None of it was making sense. As I was pointing  fingers at other things in regards to why I was not being consistent on my blog or reaching my goals… I had three fingers point back at me. It was on me !  I let myself down, I was being lazy, I was not using my time wisely . It was all on me! I had to hold myself accountable for  my actions and choices. Tough pill …

Living your truth What does the phrase living your truth mean ? Are you who you say your are.? Are you you being your authentic self. Question is who are you before the world told you who to be ? Living your truth is being your most authentic self in my opinion… that what it means to me. I think it is important to live your truth because who really wants to spend there lives trapped by living up to expectations and definitions. I know we have done it at  some part of our life.  We have lied about who we are and over it time it gets really really easy. Until you wake one day and feel really incomplete ! Or we always seeking validation from others. I say it time to strip down and bare it all.  However it hard and scary ! The Struggle: As a nation I think we have push the envelop to far. We so desperately want to liked… no way do want to stand out due to fear. Fear that we have seen from our peer that show the world their true selves.  It not always peaches & cream. If our world can …

Love Letter to my Readers  Happy Valentine’s Day! I’m going to keep this post simple and straight to the point. Love yourself. I use to dread Valentine’s Day. Nobody special to share it with …. oh and look all the gifts on the timeline.. logs off. I learn over time that I should not be bitter. I can celebrate too. What I take from Valentine’s Day is love. Not love for a lover or a significant other. Simply love for myself. I love me and everything that makes me … me! I have stated countless time before you can’t expect to love someone else when you don’t love yourself. It’s the  truth sis ! It not easy. I have bad days sometimes but I don’t let my bad days define Alayna ! So don’t speak down on you.  Love you and everything that makes you…you! Had to say it a second time. So slay the day hun ! Love on yourself . Hug yourself . Tell yourself your beautiful ! Change the narrative on yourself ! Speak kind words to yourself! Shower yourself with Valentines today and everyday because you are a gem that can’t be replace. “The way you speak …

Gift Guide for my Single Ladies for Valentines Day So Valentines Day is around the corner.   I already know the struggle being a single woman I’ve been there. So don’t get in your feelings because you don’t have anyone special to share it with. Please don’t get jealous of the our Twitter and Instagram feed of all the V-day gifts that get posted ladies.  I am a firm believer that you do not need to wait for someone to love you to enjoy Valentines Day. Love yourself hunny. Now  somebody told me that buying a gift for yourself  for Valentines is  pretty pathetic. Hmmmmmm so buying myself a gift and loving myself is pathetic.. Don’t get me to speculate. LOL. To my single hunnies and my ladies that are taken if you want to buy yourself something for Valentines Day go for it.  Self-Love is the best love. We can’t expect to love somebody fully if we don’t love ourselves first. 1: Thigh High Boots: If you want to feeel extra sexy get some sexy thigh high boots. I know when I put my thigh highs on…. girl I walk a little taller. I feel like a “bad gyal”. …

I just took DNA test turns out 100% that bitch, even when I’m crying crazy… Yeah I got boy problems, thats human in me… Bling Bling, then I solve’em that the goddess in me/// LIZZO – Truth Hurts. Yess I have been playing this song non stop. (Take a Listen)  Yeah I’m not sure what the lyric has anything do with self care or what I am about to post. However, I consider this song apart of my self care regimen. Music is the answer to most of my problems.  Those lyrics can explain most of the time exactly how I am feeling. Besides music makes me feel good. Anywho, I was scrolling down my timeline on Insta and I came across a question: How will you take better care of yourself this year ?  It got me thinking girl…  Hmm of course eating healthy.. its always on my agenda. Beside eating what can I do to make myself feel so much better.  I learn over the years that before you can do anything else you have to take care of yourself first. You will think that it is common sense… but really we do more for other people more than …