Turning 29: Lessons I Learned in My Twenties

Turning 29: Lessons I Learned in My Twenties

So today is my 29th birthday… I am so thankful to see another birthday.  I have one more year to the BIG 3-0. To be really honest, I am kinda scared of getting older.  Simply I am afraid of the unknown and becoming irrelevant.  I recently was saying this in a previous post, simply discussing my plans as a 29 years old and so forth. To change my thoughts on the fear, I decided it would be best to focus and admire my growth. Growth in life is key. I am not the same girl I use to be, and I am so thankful. Instead of getting hyped up for about premature thoughts on getting older…. I am going to embrace my life, my age, and admire my growth! To admire my growth here are 29 things I have learned in my 20s.

  1. You can’t pour from an empty glass: I learned in order to be my best self, I have to make sure I take time to take care of myself. While working and blogging I learn that I had to invest more time for self and mental care. So every day now I take 10 minutes or more for me.
  2. Love Yourself! It’s really hard but it is necessary. Tell myself every day that I love myself. I learned to be honest with myself.
  3. Holding myself accountable:  You have to pull yourself on the carpet sometimes.
  4. Embrace Failure: Failure is apart of life and if you are truly passionate about something don’t stop just because you failed. Try again and do better with what you know now.
  5. “Listen” first:  Listen before you react!
  6. Know that God has you at all time: Simple as that! Don’t ever doubt that.
  7. One person opinion is not the gospel: Their opinion is their opinion. They are allowed to think freely. It doesn’t mean it is warranted.
  8. Everything does not require a reaction: I learned to be precious with my energy.
  9. Never stop dreaming – no matter your age: Dreaming does not have an age limit.
  10. Small Steps = Big Changes
  11. Everyone’s feelings matter: It is not all about you and your feelings.
  12. Saving money is important. The earlier you start the better
  13. You are enough: Simple as that. I am enough and I do not need to do anything more. I am great the way GOD made me.
  14. Invest in experiences: I learn that traveling is self care. So instead of feeling up my world with materials thing… invest in the traveling experiences
  15. Negative people don’t have room at your table: I have no more patience for toxic people. So I removed myself and distance myself from people that do not mean me well.
  16. Believe in yourself:  I learn to take myself more seriously. You have to believe in yourself.
  17. Maintaining any relationships requires both parties involved: Friendships, Relationships… Whatever it is should not be one side. Everyone has to bring something to the table.
  18. Eliminate credit card debit
  19. Comparison is the thief of joy: This is the truth. Stay in your lane and don’t worry about what someone else is doing. I have to tell myself this so many times over the course of my twenties. You can’t compare apples to oranges.
  20. Practice Gratitude every day: Be thankful for everything. Big or small, Good or bad.
  21. You do not have to tolerate everything just to say you have someone: Leave the f-boys alone. I learn that you do not have to put up with anything just to keep some one in your life. Especially the f-boys. Let them go and flourish
  22. You do not have to be alone: Being alone is a choice in my opinion. I don’t have to be alone if I do not want to.
  23. Who you know get you through the door faster than what you know
  24. If the world says no go through the back door: Do not take no as the final answer.
  25. Skincare over makeup: To have flawless makeup you have to start with a skin care routine. Do not sleep with your makeup!
  26. Stand for something fall for anything
  27. Eat the right food to feel good for the inside out
  28. Learn to let go: You have to make amends with your past. I learn that I cannot let my past mistakes dictate me. Let them go and let it flow!
  29. Embrace your family -look past there flaws: I have a lot of resentment when it comes to some of my family members. They have hurt me so in past I found it hard to let go of that hurt. Family members are humans. They are not perfect so forgive them and look past the flaws and embrace them.

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Photographer: Daniela Lisi & Nicole Gafa – Nicole & Daniela Photography |IG: @nicole_daniela_studio or @nicole_daniela_photo |

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Turning 29: How I Am Spending My Last Year of My Twenties

Turning 29: How I Am Spending My Last Year of My Twenties

On Thursday I will be celebrating my 29th birthday. I can not believe how fast time as gone by. It is really the last birthday of my 20s. I have to be really frank, I feel some time of way.  I am dreading my 30s.

So my fears towards getting older are becoming irrelevant and uncool. Little kids are actually calling me ancient- Can you believe that?! I am very fearful of becoming irrelevant- like I don’t matter anymore to society.  I also dread my 30s because I feel like I am losing time, fear of not being accomplished.  I had my life planned out a certain, clearly life had other plans for me. So I am feeling insecure about a lot of things. Not being successful. No husband. Stilling renting. Just a lot of things I thought would have been different. Also I put this burden on my back that I am too old to do certain things. Like learn a new language, or to swim. Anyway I have subscribed to the negatives stereotypes of becoming older.  I am challenging myself to break out of chains that I put upon myself.

Living Life does not stop at the end of your twenties. You are never too old to do anything- nor is it to late to do anything you set your mind too. My 30s are going to better! I know more and have learn so many things from my twenties. Learning that time does not wait for anyone I am prepared to start living my life to the fullest. Being more braver ! So I plan to spend my last year of my 20s really enjoying life. I refuse to get hung up on things I can’t control. “You live long enough, you are going to get older”..  I can hear my mother. I am going to celebrate life! My purpose going forward is live my to the fullest. Best yet to come

How I Am Spending My Last Year of My 20s 

So I am not going to put myself under pressure to do things by a certain time.  This  list is simply to do things that I always wanted to do. I am pushing myself to live my life fully! Also I want to be able to say by this time next year that I able to take some risk, be bit more braver, and to live- not just exist.

30 Ways To Spend The Last Year of My 20s (1)

 

Featured Photo: Photographer: Daniela Lisi – Nicole & Daniela Photography | IG: @nicole_daniela_studio or @nicole_daniela_photo |Website: www.NicoleDanielaPhoto.com 


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Chapter 1… January Goals

Chapter 1… January Goals

Let keep it real…I already know you are currently scrolling through you timeline, and this is all you see….”New Year, New Me”. Am I right? When you step into the new year you get to wipe the slate clean. It is a new you. For me instead of speaking in the universe  I decided that I am going to just do it, let the work speak for itself.  I am going to do the work and and let the results show for themselves.

All I have to say I am super motivated this year.  Quality work, better content, SIMPLY JUST DOING BETTER. If you reading this and you know me personally, I have been calling this year “The Year of Elevation”. Vision board done!  I am in full swing of bossing myself up, and TAKING MYSELF SERIOUSLY.  Yes so lets get into it… its about to go down so here what to come to FashionLayn!

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Walking into the New Year.. snatching edges and dripping sauce!

Fashion Note

As of lately I have been living and breathing like fashion blogger. Digesting ALL fashion blogging content, while embracing myself in the process. If I am going to be bomb fashion blogger.. I have and need to take myself more seriously. So what I have been doing is styling myself and waking differently. A friend was telling me everywhere she goes she has to shut things down in the fashion sense. That is purpose when she goes to events. Like Tupac said All eyes all on me!  So with that being sad the fashion game is going all the way up. I want to be seen and approached when I walk through the door.

On another note, according to January issue of InStyle magazine the theme is Winter Outerwear, Chunky Sweaters/Varsity, Over sized blazers, and Cool Booties. January is going to be really chill, literally! So that what I am going to be giving y’all some cool way to style yourself for the winter! Maybe we can get a head start on the spring fashion

Blog Note

Like the cover says on Instyle “Start 2019 Like A Boss”.  That is exactly what my plans. January is by far my favorite month. My birthday is coming up, blog anniversary, and founders day (sorority).  We are definitely going to focus on fashion and how to style ourselves in the winter. You are already know I am a budget friendly girl. I currently don’t have any brand partnerships or collaboration at the moment. So I have a lot of great content coming to the blog. So stay tuned. Also don’t hesitate to follow me on Instagram and Facebook. I make a lot of great announcement on those platforms

Personal Note/ Goals

Lastly, I can not forget about myself. I have a lot of self improvements I want to make. I noticed in 2018 that I had a lot of work to do. If I am not at 100 then how do I expect for everything else to work out. So here is a glimpse of my goals for the month of January.

  1. Drink more water
  2. Finish up “Becoming” By Michelle Obama. I was supposed to be done with this book in January however I became very busy at the end
  3. Get my license and registration renew
  4. Finalize my birthday plans
  5. Lastly follow through with all my blog plans and stay organize

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Bye Bye 2018: My Small Reflection

Bye Bye 2018: My Small Reflection

We are right on the cusp of 2018.  I felt compel to write a brief reflection today. I have to be all the way 100, I am so thankful that 2018 is near the end. For me it has been up and down roller coaster. Maybe even a love/hate relationship. I think that sounds better. HAHA.

2018 I had so many highlights. I can really say it was the year of doors being open for me. I was given the opportunity to collaborate with some many brands. Collaborating with Forever 21 was one of the greatest accomplishment that I faced as bloggers.  I still get chills when I think about. Also, collaborating with TomboyX help me feel more confident to bare it all with their super comfortable underwear. 2018 also allow me to network and meet so many wonderful folks.  Going to all the Femology Detroit events really reassure my confidences.  Lastly, I was given the opportunity to collaborate with amazing photographers in city. I am so thankful for them all because they make the quality on my blog that much better.

On another note, 2018 would not be complete if I did not learn a few lesson. Accountability, self awareness, and reflection were major lessons. I learn that I had to pull myself on the carpet. Unravel all my layers and look within. It was time out for playing the blame game all the time.  Can you believe I almost cancel my blog? Yeah it got really rough for brief period. I almost quit because someone told me my writing was not good. All my ears heard that I suck. During this time I also had to learn that others opinion are not the gospel. So I really going to allow someone to silence me? Even thought the lessons were tough I am grateful that GOD allow me to see clearly. I am thankful that I have great friends and family that were able to help me get through some of my worst time this year.

New Year,

New Feels,

New Chances.

Same Dreams

Fresh Start.

I want to say to you…. Thank you so much for being apart of my 2018 journey.  From reading my post to keeping up with my social media.  Shout out to you! Thank you so much for supporting me! You are the reason why I keep getting in front of the camera, and pushing the buttons on the keyboardI am so appreciative of it all. Y’all are the reason why I push forward. Just to let you know you can expect amazing content and more giveaways in the 2019. (Sidenote: Be on the lookout for the YouTube Channel).

So as I walk into the New Years… I am more organized, wiser, and stronger. I am up for the challenge. I am prepared to pop flavor and drip sauce everywhere. Time to Snatch Edges! LOL

2019 is the year of elevation !

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What are you looking forward to in the 2019 ?

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