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Dear Diary… I Struggle With Self Advocacy for Myself

Dear Diary… I want to welcome you all my diary. Where I will share all of my personal thoughts and things that I struggle. Self Advocacy is personal skillset that I struggle with all of my life. I can only remember a handful of times that I actually stood up for myself. Most of the time I avoid confrontation and anything causing me to feel uncomfortable. Anyway I was reintroduce to the topic of self advocacy in therapy. For the past few months my mental wellness journey has uncover a lot of things. One being that I rarely ever stand up for myself… In other words, why do I struggle with self advocacy/ standing up for myself In today’s diary post, I am going to share my thoughts of self advocacy and why at times it was hard for me. Self advocacy is the act of standing up for oneself, or views or interest. I like to think of it as standing up for your wants and needs. LifeTime Struggle With Self Advocacy As far as I can remember standing up for myself was always a hard thing for me to do. I am people pleaser so I always wanted …

First of July

Happy July everyone. This year has been flying by so fast. At this point I am just holding on to my head. I hope you all had an amazing time last month. I hope you stay hydrated, and stayed out of negative self talk, and anxiety and depression. If that is okay, you still rock anyway! Anyway, I am feeling super excited and I am really looking forward to July. So let’s get into this blog. In today’s post I am keeping brief; I am reflecting and sharing my personal goals for the month of July! Related: First of June PERSONAL NOTE/ GOALS LETS REFLECT FIRST, MADE A LOT OF CHANGES LAST MONTH 🙂 The past month I have been month I have been really working through my mental health. Being more aware of my triggers, working with affirming myself, and working through my anxiety. Yesterday I was so thankful that therapy is available for me and that I can afford it. I definitely understand that it not for everyone and that is not accessible resources at time. I want to talk about advocating for yourself. This is something that has been the hardest thing for me to do. I plan …

First of May

The first Monday in May. It feels pretty good to be back on my blog. So what has been going on with me? Why did I not post all April ? Well, April was such a rough month for me. I started off so hopeful and then……. I was battling with my anxiety, bout of depression, and stress. It was all taking a toll on my mental and physical. I felt nausea, tired, cranky, and scared. Also, I cried almost everyday. I felt so defeated. Simply, I just couldn’t post. My mind was mess. So I told myself its okay and I took a break. Honestly, I felt so guilty for abandoning the things I love to do. So, I used that time to write out affirmations, pray & meditate, and lastly journaling. All not quick solution but they definitely help me understand where all the stress was coming from. Also stress was the main reason why felt sick to my stomach. My body was under stress and it was telling me that I need to slow down and get center again. I also had understand that I could not control everything. I was letting fear paralyze and swallow me …

First of April

Happy Thursday! Yess it is the first day of April. Ahh so great to walk into a new month. New month, new goals, and new intentions. Man this year is really flying lol. Can you believe it ? Anyway I looking forward to having a stable month. I want to have a good month, and really focus on what I can control and surrender to the things I can’t. Listen, yall it is going to be great month. I am manifesting this!. In today’s post, I am reflecting, sharing my personal goals, latest fashion style & trends, and a brief blog note. Let’s get into ! Related:  First of March  Personal Note/ Goals LETS REFLECT FIRST, MADE A LOT OF CHANGES LAST MONTH 🙂 First and foremost, I am really looking forward this month, however my goal is not put so much pressure on myself to accomplish everything. I had so many plans but of course LIFE happens. I was so bummed out that I could not get to the things that I want to do. So, instead I give myself grace and find joy with all the things that I did accomplish. Last month I did a lot, and …

First of March

Happy Monday! Ahh so great to walk into a new month. New month, new goals, and new intentions. I am happy to be where I am at now. The month of February was a great month for reflection and some well needed self discovery. Also I was such a chef. I made tons of meals for myself. I think I love to cook. Now it wouldn’t be LIFE if I did not have any issues. I had some winter blues in regards to be stagnant. Feeling like everyone is moving but me. Besides that February was an amazing month. How was it for you? Anyway, I am looking forward to another great month. March is Women’s History Month and another month to celebrate. Celebrate bein a women, especially being Black Woman!. Listen,yall it is going to be great month. I am manifesting this!. In today’s post, I am reflectin, sharing my personal goals, latest fashion style & trends, and a brief blog note. Let’s get into ! Related: First of February  Personal Note / Goals lets reflect first, made a lot of changes last month 🙂 Yay it feels so good to walk into March. I have been really focusing …

First of February

Happy Monday! Oh wee I am so happy to be out of January. Was it just me or was January the longest month ever? From developing a dairy allergy to having a amazing birthday. January was overwhelming but a lot of good came out of it. Anyway, I am looking forward to having a better time in February. Black History Month and celebrating love! It going to be lit-putting it into the universe. Manifesting! In today’s post, I am reflecting, sharing my personal goals, latest fashion style & trends, and a brief blog note. Lets get into it! Related : First of Janaury… Personal Note/Goals Trying something different… let’s reflect first! Yess, I made it to February. I am so glad to be out of January. I have definitely been on a rough roller coaster. If you follow me on Instagram, click here, I shared on my stories that I develop an allergy to dairy. I am lactose intolerant. Nooo! At the beginning of this year, rapidly I started off getting really sick after eating one of my favorite foods. Cheese bread. I thought maybe it was just bad order. So, maybe I should avoid getting food deliver. Next I …

First of January

Welcome 2021! Yes it feels really good to be in a New Year. Taking it one day at a time. I am so happy to return to blogging. To be honest, I was extremely exhausted from just trying to survive last year, that I decided to put my pencil down. The goal for me to seek clarity and rest. Thus, I got it and I’m back! 2020 was definitely a tough year to get through. Instead of dwelling on what is going on, I am walking into this New Year full of gratitude. I am looking forward to January being an awesome month! On today’s post I am reflecting, sharing my personal goals, latest fashion style & trends, and a brief blog note for the month of January. Lets get into it! Fashion Note Fashion in 2021 is going to look the same as last year, at least for me. As I continue my work from home journey my attention on clothes is focus on comfort. My goal is improve how I wear my sweats and loungewear. Things on the fashion tip you want to keep a eye out on matching sets, such as colorful prints, sporty activewear, mini skirt …

November First…

Happy November good people! Wow the time has flew so fast. On the contrary, I honestly can say I am looking forward to the holidays these year. It may be a new experience but at this point I have made it this far. I refuse to let anything steal my joy. On today’s post I am reflecting, sharing my personal goals, latest fashion style & trends, and a brief blog note for the month of  November. Lets get into it! Overall, for the month of November I want to focus on not taking everything so seriously. I need to enjoy my life and embrace the holiday with open arm. Thus, I look forward to living more, enjoying all the good, and not staying in the bad too long. What are you looking forward to this month? Related: October First… Fashion Note To switch gears lets get into fashion! For the month of November, is getting colder and time to focus some of mu attention on affordable outerwear. Shearling, long maxi jackets, and sporty outerwear is on the fall-to winter radar. I really want to find an affordable Shearling Coat. All the things I am super excited to style. On the …

October First…

Is it me or is this year getting crazier and crazier the closer we get to the end? The time is going by so fast but it seems like the year is becoming more bizarre. Well, I am hoping that the fourth quarter of the year, brings us bit more peace. On today’s post I am reflecting, sharing my personal goals, latest fashion style & trends, and a brief blog note for the month of  October. Lets get into it! I have mention it so many time before, but this year has definitely been an emotional one. We are dealing with a lot however, I am praying that this month can bring us some joy, and laughter. Even though, we are still socially distancing we can still have fun and enjoy our lives. Take a load off, and stop being so serious. Overall, for the month of October I want to focus on not taking everything so seriously. I need to enjoy my life. Life is so fragile, and I have to remind myself constantly that we only get one, so live it up. Thus, I look forward to living more, enjoying all the good, and not staying in the …

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