It is less than 12 days left til Christmas. If I am struggling then I know someone else is struggling too. It hard trying to give the perfect gift. I here to say you do not have to sweat the small stuff. I thought I would create a gift guide for hardworking woman, your mom, boss woman, girlfriend, or sis. What do you get for women that give so much of herself to others. How can you give back to her? Women have been working nonstop this year. So it was only right to provide a gift guide for you. In addition, all the gifts listed are $25 and under. Super affordable-No to overspending. I hope this will help you find the perfect gift for that hardworking Boss Babe in your life.
Becoming by Michelle Obama $19.50// Barnes & Noble: For the woman that need some inspiration? Our former First Lady is laying it all out there in her new memoir. There are lessons to be learn and inspiration in each memory she tells. This is a must have in your book collection .
“Not Your Bag” Luggage Tag $2.90// Forever 21: A lady on the go? Make sure you get that boss babe on your list a cute luggage tag on for travel bag. Guarantee nobody will touch her luggage, lol.
Morphe 9C Jewel Crew Eyeshadow Palette $12// Ulta: For the lady that is always looks fierce. Here is a simple eyeshadow palette from Morphe. Gift this item to the makeup lovers on your list.
20oz Stainless Steel Portable Hydration Bottle $9// Target: Hydration is key. Make sure the ladies stay hydrated during this cold, dry winter.
LED Light-Up Phone Ring for Selfies $5// Five Below: This gift is perfect for the influencer boss babe. This is for the girl that has to say ready with the selfie game. It gives off the perfect lighting, easy to use and store away.
Passport and Visa Holder $10// Target: How about cute, and fun holder for your passport and visa. That travel girl will definitely love this.
We are in the home-stretch now, right at the end of the year. We have less than 31 days to the New Years. Time has flown and I do not know where it went. It always seems like as soon as we enter into December, time is on auto speed. Wooah! Can we all just say 2018 was super crazy? 2018 has been on an up and down roller coaster. One moment I was having a good time and everything was going great for me. Then the next thing I know it was a total shit show. (Side note: Excuse my language…. I had no other words to use to express how I feel about the lows)
December is always a love-hate time for me. I love that it is near the end where I can start over and reinvent, however I feel like I am under a lot of pressure. Some times it take me out of the holiday cheer, I do not like that at all. Instead of being caught up in the rat race of hectic behavior, I decided I am going to focus on calm. Calmly, I am going to take all the things on my to do list for the month of December one day at a time. I refuse to stress myself out. Whatever gets done, it gets done! And if it doesn’t , then it doesn’t. Simply this month is going to full of joy, excitement, glitz , glam, and celebration.
Speaking of celebration, I have a lot of Holiday event on my schedule. I know you are wondering what to wear? Pop the champagne, December is the time for glitz and glamour. Velvet, sequins, faux fur, and more! I got my hands on the December’s issue of InStyle Magazine, Jennifer Lopez is serving looks on the cover. What I got from the issue, that the drama is dial up. At the the holiday party sis, we should come to slay with poppy reds, emerald green, gold applique, and dark velvets. This month I am going to being giving y’all all the tea on how I style myself without spending all my money. I am still doing a lot of shopping for the holiday. If you want to stay update with my fashion post this month, feel free and subscribed to my blog. It can be located on the right hand under the search engine.
On another note, ever since I started going to local events, blogging has been booming for me. I am so thankful for the many opportunities that have came my way. I am super excited or the opportunities I have in December. Recently, I was invited to participate in NYE Glamour photo shoot. I wish I had a GIF of my face when I got the email. Total shock and happiness. I haven’t taken the pictures yet, but I already know it going to be so lit. Photo shoots are fun, however hanging with my Femology Family is funnier. This month Femology is putting on another event for the New Years. You already know I going to blog about it, maybe I might take a courage pill and start vlogging! I just know that it is going to be another banger.
Personal Note/ Goals:
Lastly, on a personal note I had a revelation. I came to conclusion, while talking to friends, that I am going to stop doing things that leads me to stress out. For example, remembering to stick to my budget. When I do not stick my budget overspend, which causes me stress out because I can’t do what I need to do. To maintain my happiness, I am going to stop putting myself in stressful situations, and to protect my energy.
Stay organize- create to-do list, and maintain my planner.
Drink more water!!
Finalize my ideas for YouTube
Finish reading Becoming, by Michelle Obama
Create another savings account for traveling.
What are you looking forward to this month?
Share with me in the comment section. Let me know what I could add to this list.
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There is literally 2 months/9 weeks left in 2018. So we have to make the last few days left count. November is one of my favorite months because of Thanksgiving. I can’t wait to eat my mom’s home cooking. Dressing (aka stuffing), Collard Greens, Chicken, and Sweet Potato pie. Omg my mouth is watering right now. Another reason why I love this month is because I really get to focus hard on gratitude. Now yes we are supposed to be thankful everyday, but this month really help put things into perspective for me. I have a lot to be thankful in general however this month I have a whole lot to be thankful for. So with that being said what is to come to FashionLayn this month?
So on the fashion tip In Style Magazine spills all the tea on the latest fashion styles and trends. According to In Style Mag, November edition, trend report is military/utilitarian outfit, all red or blue outfit, leopard booties, of course plaid, and over sized cardigan. This month I still want to focus on bright colors, and mixed prints. You already know the holiday is around the corner and the velvet, and the real glitz and glam looks are on the rise.
October was by far a great month for me as a blogger. I have so much to be thankful. I had the opportunity to work with an awesome photographer. I took some amazing portrait pictures. I can’t wait to create more magic with her. The best part by far was working with Forever21. Omg it was so exciting and I was thankful that I was given the opportunity as a small blogger/ influencer. As a blogger I always express how important it is to network. So I keep showing up to events and talking to people. I attended 5 events this month. I can really say I learned so much at these events. Going to so many events have really lit a fire under, I am so inspire to improve my blog. I have been brainstorming everyday so be on the look out.
On another note, I going to be apart of this amazing campaign this month. Femology Detroit, an innovative workspace dedicated for woman, is putting on a campaign that recognized 100 Female Blogger Detroit. I am one of them, so I can’t wait to share this with you all. If you want to stay up on what happening with FashionLayn please make sure you subscribe to my blog, and follow me on Instagram and Facebook.
Personal Note/ Goals
Lastly, on a personal note I have been really feeling good. Actually I feel great! I have been taking the must needed time to get myself together mentally. I have been praying, reading, and taking all the necessary steps to keep my mental health intact. I can not complain. Again, this month I want to focus my being thankful.
To continue writing in my Gratitude journal- This has be really helping me find comfort in what I have. Being thankful for little things
Start saving money for and iMac
Brainstorm ideas for Youtube and other endeavors
Drink more water
Eat less meat- I want to low-key become an vegetarian. So let me start doing my research for substitutes
What are you looking forward to this month?
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So I know as of lately my emotions has been all over the place. I made it clear this month in myIt’s October !! post that I wanted to focus on healing. Inside and out, especially mentally. So it is time to be still for a moment. Also, it time for me too really sit back to identify what is making me feel all of these emotions. With all that being said I had to identify that I was emotionally a mess. I had lost control….. one thing about a person like me losing control scares me. So this month I put myself under the microscope and really worked hard with getting to core of what my grief was. Check out my story to see if I am in the process of recovering from emotional pains and scars!
My Story …
First I constantly was worry, and complaining a lot. I was worry about being successful, money problem, just a lot of things that everyday people are challenge with. I was mental drained. Also I was suffering from the perfectionism complex. I felt like I had to be perfect. I really can feel the pressure I put on myself. All my family and friends looking at me, using me as the model. I put so much pressure on myself to the point I stated to rebel. My rebellious state put me in the worst predicament ever in my life. I was force to make some hard decisions during that time. After coming though that tough time, I found myself ridden with some much guilt, shame, and sadness. I felt like a failure.. I was literally crying all the time. (At that point, I made the decision to talk to somebody… I talked to my mom, also I was in the process of finding a therapist) This was the first time I realize I was not on it. I made a huge mistake and I was not alright. I was so busy trying to be perfect that I believe that I could never make a mistake of that magnitude. I had to face reality that I was not perfect. I was not excused from making mistakes.
So with that being said I believe that GOD put me through it to learn that I was not perfect. I will make mistakes and just because I made of mistake does not make unworthy of love. He understand that all his children are human, and we all make mistake. I had learned to stop condemning myself . In order to heal you have to first self examine, ask for forgiveness and go on with life. Now I am not trying to take get to heavily spiritually, I wanted to share with you all my story on how I am learning how to heal myself emotionally. Honestly, this journey of healing is something I have to practice day by day. I truly understand that in order to heal I have to trust the process and learn to accept myself. Also, to stop being my worst enemy, and how to still love myself past all the mistakes that I made and will make in life. Let me be clear … I am still healing and I will probably be healing for a while however, for the first time I don’t feel like I have to be perfect !
Identify Emotional Pain
Emotional pain can really make it hard for anyone to live their best life. It really can take a hold of you and really cause a mess. I think it is important to try to identify it however, emotional pain can be hard to identify in my opinion. I realize on my own that I was holding to a lot of grief from my past. Even some close friends told me that I needed let go of thing that was “life span” ago. Seriously, it was a lot of things were on my shoulders. It was really wearing away at me. That type of pain can really hinder anyone from living their life and manifest some terrible things physically. I know for me I continue to replay the past. I kept thinking about my issues over and over, those thought only made me more sad, and piled on more grief. So with that being said I am tired physically of carrying all this stuff around. So I had to really practice the art of “letting go“.
Tips for Healing Emotionally
let go of all the baggage that you carrying. it’s too heavy
forgiveness is key
accept who you are and make peace with yourself
stop ruminating – stop harboring over the hurt, past, and the grief
turn lemons into lemonade – turn your failure into something positive
Importantly: Remember if you need to talk to therapist to hep you navigate be all means put this post down and do what you need to do to start the healing process
Other ways to help mental wellness…
I am optimist, my mommy taught me how to look on the bright side of things. I have faith and hope that I am always going to make it through anything that is challenging, thankful I do !
Supportive people in your corner
Expressing gratitude: Having a gratitude journal has being really helping me. Every night I write down what I am thankful for. I go to bed with joy in my heart, and really helps with putting all my things into perspective
Mindfulness: Presently and actively appreciating were you are at in life.
Disclaimer: I want to make it clear and I am not licences individual or therapist. These are just my personal thoughts.Importantly: Remember if you need to talk to therapist to help you navigate through it all; Pleas put this post down and do what you need to do to start your healing process.
“Until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed. You are going to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex; But eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the words, Stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories and make peace with them. “
Special shout to Daniela. She is one of the sweetest person I every met. She is so honest and I really appreciate people like her. We literally had a whole conversation while taking these pictures. I really appreciate and love days like this.
Location: Nicole & Daniela Studio
Why I was inspired…
I love to tell my story because I feel like it can ignite the fire in someone to do something about what they are going through. It was really important for me to get my smile back so I turn my grief into a post to help myself, to learn, and to hopefully help someone else. I hope this find you well
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