August has to be the busiest month for me personally. I have my vacation already booked to Atlanta ! On The Run Tour II and everything else under the sun. I am so ready for this vacation. I need a break from it all. That brings me to the subject of “de-stressing” . While I am on vacation I plan to leave every behind that has been bothering me or holding back to the side and focus on having another fun filled trip in ATL ! This month we are going to focus de-stress our lives while bring dope fashions to blog!
Can you smell Fall.. nah I can’t lol. I am having to much fun enjoying the summer. However, you know the fall fashions pieces are going to start showing up in the stores. I am ready for the deep, bold colors. So how can we bring bit of fall fashion while we still soaking up the summer sun? Well I am going to test this out this month. I want to try out more brands like Pretty Little Things, Shein, and SimplyBe.
Launch of the self care planner is here. It will be launch in the middle of this month. I have been saying for a couple of months about launching it. Well its coming ! Last I had so much fun going to different events. I want to focus this month on going to more events and networking with other bloggers in city. Femology Blogger Bash was so much for. I did not realize how big our community of bloggers and influencers were in the city. Lastly I want to get really serious about reaching out brands. I have been terrified but I keep telling myself that close months dont get feed. So I have to focus on putting myself out there!
PERSONAL NOTE/ GOALS
Last month I really successful with achieving my goals and now I want to put in some effort in keeping myself calm and less stress.
Blog 3 times a week consistently
Focus on stress free lifestyle
Bring my lunch to work 5 days a week
Reach out to brands and pitch ideas
Focus on living life to the fullest
Calmness is the Cradle of Power.
So what are you going to bring calmness and less stress to your life ?
Let me tell y’all something. I have always been by myself. I am the only child… no siblings. Never had that many friends and the boyfriend department, don’t even ask- he just don’t exist on the this planet. I can say that I switch back and forth from being introvert and extrovert. I had to take a step back from the fashion and address some things that have been heavy on my heart. I know I am not alone in this category. I am super lonely and I am trying to figure out how I can get myself out of this hole I made for myself.
A loner is person that chose not to interact with people. Let me add my spin to it…. I do classify myself as loner however I pick and choose when I want to interact with people. Some days I do and some days I want to spend time with myself. I come from a long line of people that are loners in my family. My daddy, grandpa, and whole host of uncles that like to be by themselves. I got it honest However, being a loner has been super heavy on me lately. I am highly sensitive person and sometimes I need to check out for my health but no one really wants to be alone all the time. I remember when my grandpa told my mother his feeling about his son, my uncle. He said “that boys need to get married, somebody that can get him a cup coffee or something. Right there my mom knew my grandpa was lonely. He spent so many years being loner that he some regret about it. Back to me, so a few days ago, my mom and I were talking just about anything like we always do. The next thing I know I literally broke down in tears telling her how lonely I was at home. And how I didn’t know what to do. When I go home it just me, no pet, no man, not even a friend to come visit. When it like this you have a lot of time to get inside you head, it really makes it hard to get. The side effects I have appearance lack of motivation, my stress level is through the roof, and I have been super negative. I am here to say that it not fun being by yourself all the time. So I here to try to rid us for being lonely. Friendships and relationships are more like food. We need it ! So lets try to fix this together.
How to Cope with Loneliness
Don’t get wrong there is some positives from being a loner. Self Dependent, you stick up for yourself, and you know yourself without comparison. I think those are all good things. I think when it comes to being a loner is, are you okay with being alone or not. Also I think you should find a balance with being alone and interacting with people.
If you are like me and your lonely here are few things to help us cope with loneliness.
Identify it: Try not to be in denial about being alone. Being able to see and admit that your lonely. Ask yourself why. Are you afraid to be afraid alone? What are you really looking for ? Ask yourself the tough questions about loneliness. This is the time to get real honest. For me when I started feeling alone when one of my closest friend move away. Now I might me being real dramatic however those are my feelings. We use to hang out a lot and she was big part on how me and are other friends stayed together. She is just called away but I we be in denial if I didn’t say miss her company.
Healthy quick fixes: Loneliness can be so deep that we can find ourselves i a bad relationship because we want somebody so bad. Try you hardness not to get so down in the dump. Talk to a good friend or relative that you know mean well and have a heart to heart. I don’t wanna any of us to get caught up in numbing or pain and issue with drugs, bad relationships, and other ways. For me I talk to my mom when I am feeling weighed down by a lot of stuff.
Help someone instead: Take your energy and help someone else out instead. Reach out to them and help through sometimes instead on focusing on other people not there for you. Strengthen your relationship with people!
Get a pet: I have been thinking about getting a pet lately. From understanding pets can help with your mood especially dogs, I am biased !
Seek help through therapy ! : If you are really having a hard time coping with being alone then I would suggest to seek out therapist. It is nothing wrong with speaking to someone about all your feelings that you have inside.
The Pain You’ve Been Feeling, Can’t Compare To The Joy That’s Coming.
So I am currently working through my loneliness. I talk to my mom and try more harder to reach out to my friends and strengthen our relationship a little more. Little by little I am opening up more and making new friends. So lets see how to bring me out of the dark corner .
What are some ways you cope with being lonely ?
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Just like this month issue of Essence.. “Take Back Your Joy.” I was super inspired by the tune of magazine. Black women celebrating ways they found happiness and joy in there life and I think I need to focus my concentration. I need more joy, peace, and smiles. When I think of the month of July, I see celebration and happiness.
This month I want to still focus on bring lots and lots of color. I still want to get into a bathing suit before we switch are attention to fall clothing.. You know it coming. Also I want to try out 2 different brands that I never brought to the blog. Shein and Pretty Little Things.com. These online stores have plus size items that I heard a lot of good things about . I am so ready to try these stores !
This month I want to still focus on being a student. Focus my attention on learning more about blogging and bettering my platform. I also want to launch of few self care templates this month. So stay tuned for self care templates they are coming this month for sure !! Lastly I am really excited for this event coming this month. Femology Detroit is having a event for bloggers ! Can’t wait to take pictures and network with people. Lol the business cards are packed !
Personal Note/ Goals
Last month I really successful with achieving my goals. I create that extra savings account that I was telling yall about.
Schedule my wellness screening. Detox with lemon and ginger
Focus on joy and happiness! And finding ways to keep my joy
Bring my lunch to work 5 days a week
Read Chimamanda Ngozi Aich book called Americanah
Finish This Will be My Undoing by Morgan Jerkins. So far this book is compiled by 6 essays that deal with being black , a women, colorism, and race ! Super easy to read. I am on essay 3 !
Live Beyond “What if.” Find Joy In “What is.”
So yes the focus is joy this month. Finding and keeping our joy.
Wow can you believe it ! The months are going by so fast. May has been a great month for Fashionlayn. I got a chance to hang out with Eloquii and celebrate the new store opening at Twelve Oaks Mall. In addition, I went to a few other events. I got a chance to try on high end clothes with 11 Honore and Jadore Detroit, and I got center with Femology and Lululemon. I had a blast this month. Networking with other women and brands really put me in a better mind state. I feel more confident now to reach out to brand. Also I feel like Fashionlayn is finally making a small dent. So it is time to get the ball rolling. Its June and I am catching up. I got a lot of things to look forward to this month. More events, collaborations, and goals that need to be met. This month I am taking care of business. Focus and dive in deep into my creativity.
This month is all about color. Yes it is Pride Month and I want to focus on all the colors of the rainbow when it comes to my fashion style. I want to incorporate more color into my wardrobe. If you follow my Instagram.. you should if your not… my closet lately has been made out of yellow and sometimes black. When I get hooked on a color I ride the wave too long. Yellow is my color. Anywho I want to get more solid colors and prints into my collections. On another note.. this month is all about swimwear. I want to take a few picture in my swimsuit. So this is the mood getting myself in a few more swimsuit
For the blog I want to focus on being a expert on what love. Fashion, self care, and Detroit. This month for the blog I have a planned blog collaboration with Leah V, the creator of Beauty and the Muse. So excited and every time we link we always create magic. Also on the blog I want to think about ways to create my email list. So stay tuned I have some cool things coming to Fashionlayn. Lastly, I am going to be go getter instead of waiting for brands to come to me. No matter how small I am as blogger/ influencers I am going to put myself out there somebody will bite.
Personal Note/ Goals
Now for this month I did a lot of great things for blog however personally I made a few mistakes when it came to my finances. So this month I want to focus on getting my savings together and start budgeting again for personal accounts and blog.
Holding myself accountable
Reach out to 2 brands for possible collaboration
Open another Savings account and create a nest egg
Finish book: “The Coldest Winter Ever” by Sistah Souljah