Chapter 3… March Goals

Chapter 3… March Goals

It is that time again, a new month… time to start fresh. I always feel so much joy when a new month starts. February went very well. I met a lot of great people,  stuck to my blog goals, and finally I was able to participate in group photo shoot. Call this Cardi B growth! I got the ball rolling and cross thing off my to-do list.  Honestly, I feel like February was the month were a lot of doors open up for me. So thankful!!

So yes it is March and I am ready to get this party started right. Yes more daylight and sunny days !! Good mood approved.  I like to say that March is the month for women.  International Women Days is on it way, so I feel it right that this month we focus on well-being for the working women. More self-care, more fashion tips… all those good things that have us at out best. I stress time and time again,  that women do so much for other people however we have nothing left for ourselves. So we need to change that. How can we be more whole? Overall I just want us sis, to be better.

On the flip side, I am thrilled to announce the brand new ”The Gals Club” Podcast! We have been doing so well that I have to share it on my platform.  I am 1 out 4 co-host and we go live every Thursday at 7pm. If you want to listen to the last 4 episodes you can check us out on Anueyoumedia.com.  In addition download the SMD Live app to listen as well. You also can click the The Gals Club avatar on the right had side of my website, underneath the Quote of the Week!

Fashion Note

I love March because the stores start swapping out winter clothes for spring fashions. Yes honey, put away all your dark colors. It time to trade them in for bright neon colors, or dusty pastels & neutrals, yellows, and different hues of pink. I am all for it. Finally the magazines are giving the full tea on Spring time fashion. According to March issue of Harper Bazaar & Instyle magazines the spring fashion styles to keep an eye on are pleated midi skirts, beyond basic trench coats, tie dye, belted purses,  statement pendents,  and straw bags.

To spruce up your spring fashion get confident with playing with different textiles and textures. Crochet, fish net, fringes, and cascading ruffles were all up and down the New York Fashion Week runway! If you are a trendy girl then you might like the  minimalist safari cargo looks , short and sweet dresses,  or saved by the bell themes. All on the trend report according to Instyle Mag.

For myself I want to play with bright neon color, and light dusty pastel color. I am not sure how I am going to do but it doing to be done. Just keep an eye on my different social media platforms. Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter I always showcase a lot of outfits first on those platforms.

Blog Note

Like I was saying before. I have dubbed March for the ladies.  This month I want to focus tailor my focus on the well-being for woman. Making sure we treat ourselves kind, living a stress free life, being intentional and happy. So this month is for you sis!

I am so excited announce that I am a new brand ambassador for Not Sorry Apparel. I was so happy when they reached out to me letting me know that my application was accepted. So keep an eye out, I will definitely share more about the brand.  Also I have a lot a great content planned for this month ladies. I am so excited to share!

Personal Note/ Goal

February was a great vibe however I want to elevate! I want to come out at the end even better. So this month I want to focus on calm. I have remember to speak to myself and tell me that I am okay. My anxiety makes me so anxious something to the point that I am super squirrelly. So I have to remind myself to CALM down! Mediate and vibrate on high frequency. If I am not at my best then everything around me,  falls.  So my personal goals are:

  1. Keep Calm
  2. Drink more water
  3. Building more relationships Reach out and nurture those relationships
  4. Continue to keep going with blogging plans & stay organize
  5. Deep clean my apartment
  6. Think positive

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What are you looking forward too in March? What fashion styles are you here for? What trends do you want to go away?

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Single Life Series: 6 Things You Need To Know, If You Don’t Like Being Single

Single Life Series: 6 Things You Need To Know, If You Don’t Like Being Single

How did we get here? How did being single person turn inside outside.  I am trying to figure it out. Our society put so much emphasis on being in relationship, and finding that special person. It know it has a single person, like myself, dreading it. Some days I day dream being a happy, healthy relationship with a man. Then I come back to reality and I wonder what is going on, why is it taking me so long to find that person. Am I unlovable?

Single Life = Negative opinions and thoughts on the single life. How can we change the narrative of being single?  So I started searching and results I found on being single was compelling. Here are six ways that can turn your unhappy thoughts on being single to hopeful, and positive thoughts.

  1. Your circumstances will change. I have been single since my senior year of high school. That mean I have been single for 11 years. Real facts! So understand this, it is going to happen for us. We are going to meet that special someone. You need to remain positive and get out of your own head and way and let the universe work.
  2. Your worthy so keep your standards high. Please people keep your standards high when your single, or whenever. Now I am not saying to keep them so high no one can reach them. One thing that I learn as a single person is that you can not let your loneliness cloud your judgement. So many people date and settle for the wrong people because they are lonely. I’ve done it. So you have to ask yourself why do you hate being alone? Once you figure that out your mindset should start to shift. You will start saying to yourself they are stupid if they don’t want to be around me. Don’t chase anyone. Remember you are the sh*t and anyone that wants to be around you will. So DO NOT settle for anything just because you are afraid of being alone.
  3. Time to get to know & work on yourself. While your single you are given time to get to know yourself. I built a blog, and have tons of things with my life. So now I do not have time to cry over spilled milk. I have respect, love, and value for myself while being single. I ultimatly think this time that GOD has given to me to get loser with myself and make me right for the special someone that he is taking time to make for me. If you are single this is not a time to draw away from yourself, it is time to get closer and self discovery.
  4. Understand that patiences is key. Remember I told you, I have been single for 11 years. Small bumps on the road but hey, I don’t claim them because they only last for 2 months or less. Getting to that right person take a while, but understand that Beyonce was not successful star over night. She worked for year and took time to perfect her craft. So that special person, it make themselves right just for you… they don’t know that. Be patient… that special person will come soon.
  5. Love yourself the way you want your partner to treat you. Self love people! How do you expect someone to love you if you can’t love yourself. Treat yourself kind and with respect first. Be that model so your partner will know. Self love is key, I can’t stress that enough.
  6. Enjoy your own company. Learn to enjoy being around yourself. This was something I really had to work on getting comfortable. For a long time I hate being by myself.

Single Tip…
STOP thinking YOU are unlovable and you’ll never will be married. Here’s the TRUTH about YOU! YOU are SO amazing it took extra time to create your mate. Relax! Trust God’s timing! He hasn’t forgotten you. He just wasn’t ready to share you yet !

Feature Photo: Photographer: Richelle Marie Photography  IG: @richellemariephoto


So, how are you feeling about being single? 

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Thank you so much for reading and don’t hesitate to like, comment and subscribe to my blog.  I hope this blog post can help you change your mindset and find value in being single. I know these tips have help me of the course of time. I found self love and make time everyday to work on myself. Let me know what you wanna see in the future on the blog ! I am here for y’all!

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Single Life Series: Things I Learned About Self While Being Single

Single Life Series: Things I Learned About Self While Being Single

First and foremost, my love life is not remotely interesting. Simply I have been engulf in a see of prospect than turns into to f**k boys. I am no good when it comes to relationships. Frankly, being single sucks at time. I really feel this way when the romantic season approaches.  Valentines is next week.  I already know my timeline is going to jumping, fill of relationship goals hash-tagging , and gifts. Everybody acting really happy on this commercial holiday.  Sometimes, you can’t help but dread being single.  Man, they all make it look so good to be in a relationship. I am saying to myself, “really I want that”.  To be honest, I am starting feel like I will never find that special guy.

Let me keep it all the way 100: I really want to be in relationship with a guy that really cares about me and I care about him. But it is so hard to date now. Man, some of  y’all dudes have been giving me gas! Lol I over it and I am not settling anymore.  Since I have been single I have learned tons of things. What I want and need.  Self love. Knowing what I will not accept. In this post we are going to explore how being single really helped me learn a lot about myself. Hopefully this post can helps us change our perspective on being single.

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Face you make when he says you look pretty for big girl….
  1. Just because it does not work out with someone, does not mean you are a bad person. I have a lot of fall attempts when in comes to being in relationship. They use to leave me asking “what wrong with me”. I had one guy that I was super interested in and it seem like I was always chasing him. I could never get a hold of him. I was wondering if it was something wrong me.  Did I do something wrong? Of course my anxiety was speaking to me loudly saying you should have done this or said less of this. I learn over the course of being single that it is nothing wrong me and I had nothing to do with the reason why he went away. I am just enough. I do not need to do more or less. Any guy that wants me will want to continue to get to know me
  2. No means no! I learn to stand up for myself finally especially to guys.  I know exactly what will not stand.  I finally have set some standard in place
  3. Girlfriends are life savers. Being single you learn that having a good friends in your corner keep you from doing stupid things. I learn so much more about myself when I have discussion with my closest girlfriends. I think I will be a better person for that special someone when the time is right.
  4. Online dating sucks. This is no shade to anyone that enjoy online dating, or who have found their partner online. My experience with it has suck eggs. I felt like everyone on there, that are interested in me, only wants to hook up. Then people lost interest so fast. I rather meet people in person.
  5. Self Discovery- I know what I want.  I have a lot more time to learn myself and work on myself. What I am passionate about?  What I want I want and need? What I wont accept? I value myself so much more, and the way I treat myself will show the my next guy how to treat me
  6. Don’t keep people around just because your lonely- No settling.  I have settle in some trash ass relationship just to spare myself from being lonely. In my opinion, this is when I made some terrible mistakes. Don’t let loneliness cloud your judgement.  Please do not make the mistake for settling for someone that you know deep down they are not right for you. I gave myself time to work on self for that right person.
  7. I suck at communication. I am not good at communication. I blame it on my anxiety. Over thinking and not asking enough questions. Over the time of being single I learned that I need to get better at communication my thoughts.
  8. I am sexy. I don’t not need a man’s validation. When I was younger, the only way I felt beautiful was from a guy telling me I was pretty. Even then it was half ass. Your pretty for a dark skin girl  or pretty for a big girl… WHAT !? The only validation I need is my own. I learned to love & appreciate myself more while being single.
  9. My life does not begin when I find the right person. My life is great right now, it does not start when a man enter it. My life is full for fun, creativity, and great friends and family fill it up. God made me special all on my own. My life will still continue with our without a man present in it.
  10. Maintaining a Relationship is hard. Social media can really trick you out here. Everyone relationship on line looks so good, they only show you want they want you to see. Behind the mask it is hard work and it not always peaches and cream. Being on my own is way easier than being a relationship.

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Special Thanks to  Nicole & Daniela Photography!  They always come through for me!

IG: @nicole_daniela_studio | Website: www.NicoleDanielaPhoto.com


With that being said, being single is not all that bad. Stay tuned. We are going to dive in deeper on the next post in “Single Life Series”.

What are you thoughts on being single ? What have your learn as a single person?

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Chapter 2… February Goals

Chapter 2… February Goals

I know I know… February is when you are going to start fresh?! Right?! I have been seeing this meme going around social media where a lot of people are claiming to start there New Years in February.  I guess January was tough. Hmmm, I know for myself January was kinda hard sis. However, I am so thankful for all the goals I was able to cross off my list. All the doors that open up for me. Another birthday I was able to see and celebrate. I made it through, here we are now at the month love. Wow time really has gone by so fast.

February I have a lot to look forward to. It is the first day of BLACK HISTORY MONTH!  To be frank, Black history is celebrated every day. It is a special month because it is a time to acknowledge the history, excellence, and enjoy how far we have come.

On top of celebrating I find it is very important to remember self. I know for me a get a little down in because I am a single woman. Can I not celebrate valentines because I’m single? So, a little self love and self care goes a long way. I try to find ways to keep my spirits up. Of course Valentines Day is right around the corner and I dread seeing all the post on social media. I guess I can share my thoughts on love on the new podcast! Yes I said podcast!! I am thrilled to announce the brand new ”The Gals Club” Podcast ! I am one out four co-host! IMPORTANT: The first episode will premiere on Feb 7th at 7 pm, every Thursday, every week! Going LIVE on Anueyoumedia.com. Also download the SMD Live app to listen as well. Will be up on the Apple Podcast app soon!

Fashion Note

New York Fashion Week is on its way, and I cannot wait to see all the new things that are coming to the runway. (Feb 8- Feb16th) Already the magazines are giving us the inside scoop on Spring fashion. According to February’s issue of Harper’s Bazaar & InStyle magazines that studded bags, ruffles, plaids, neutrals, dark floral prints, etc. I also noticed that acid wash denim might be making a come back! Yess ! If you want me to create a spring fashion cheat sheet, let me know in the comment section!

This years spring/ summer colors, according to Pantone,  different hues of beige, navy, and browns. Neutral shades are definitely in for this spring season. On the colorful side of things neon colors, marigold. magenta, orange, & cobalt blue. You can also get away with pastel colors. Textiles and patterns: Crochet, fishnet, tie dye print, and artisan pieces. The trend that I am loving is animal print. Snakeskin is on my to do fashion list!

I am super excited this month to step outside my comfort zone a bit. Since love is going to all through the air it is only right that I play with some reds, and pinks in my wardrobe. Lastly what has been my go too in my wardrobe has been blazers! I must say the blazers are the power player last month! Keep a watch out for my Instagram… a few of best blazers are going to be making preview or two.

Blog Note

During this month I want to talk about being single coming from a single person perspective. Ha We are going to dive into my love life, and fish through my thoughts. So all next week is for the single folks! Those that are in relationships, of course, Y’all can read it too! We don’t discriminate here. I can’t forget about fashion. I know a few of my readers are going to be doing some special things for valentines day. You I am going to help y’all out… Showing Y’all how to dress for any occasion, up or down. I plan to take myself out, so yeah I am getting dressed up for it! Hmm, feel like a beauty post is coming too! Definitely, planning on patronizing a few black own businesses in the process.

I currently don’t have any brand partnerships or collaboration at the moment. So I have a lot of great content coming to the blog. So stay tuned. Also don’t hesitate to follow me on Instagram and Facebook. I make a lot of great announcement on my social media platforms.

Personal Note/ Goals

I made a lot of changes for the better of self in January. I am keeping the same energy from January and bring it with me this month.

  1. Drink more water
  2. Eat more fruits and vegetables
  3. Save money for airfare for NYC trip
  4. Pay off my dentist bill & my mother back
  5. Continue to keep going with my blogging plans & stay organize
  6. Think positive

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What are you looking forward to in February?

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Thank you so much for reading and don’t hesitate to like, comment and subscribe to my blog. Let me know what you wanna see in the future on the blog ! I am here for y’all!

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