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The stereotype when women come together is that we are always divided.  Trying to find any reason to claw out each other eyes. I also heard that we don’t root for one another when other wins. As a black woman I know it all to well. It is a huge stigma against black women I know yall believe because you see  it all on TV.. reality TV tell women that we will rather see yall drag each other to make a quick buck.  Do I really need to name the shows… come on now you probably watching one of them right now ! I’m not going to lie to you sis I am guilty as charge. I keep up with the shows too. Women against women sells! However, in all honestly I am over it! I am over seeing women fighting each over men. Or women not rooting for one another because of their own insecurities. I simply over the jealously, and unhealthy competitiveness . Please do not get caught up in that nonsense.   We need to stand up for our sis. Have her back !  Be a true friend because it is hard out here trying to navigate these …

Enjoying the Simple Thing in Life So here is the story and how I got to a happy place from a pineapple. So 5 days prior to all of this happiness in these pictures I learn that I only had few dollars left in my bank account. I was so hurt because I still needed to pay a couple a bills and the due date was right around the corner. I honestly did not know what to do. I called my mom crying on the phone because I knew I messed up ! I was having to much fun and  not watching my money. So my money was official “funny”.  I had to ask my parents for the money … Noooooo!!!  I hate asking my parents for money because I feel like I can’t handle my business without coming to them.  For the past few of days I have been counting  my money… making sure I don’t overdraft my account.  Anywho, I plan to get my financial back together. I been getting great tips for the Broke Millennial book. Also, I plan to create another savings account (nest egg). So when hard time hit I am not drastically impacted.  Let …

Have you heard the phrase… “Doubt kills more dream than failure ever will” ? Yeah I came across this quote on Pinterest and it really got me thinking about self doubt and how easy we can fall to it. Doubt can make you lack confidence in your abilities to accomplish something.  It hold you back from doing great things.  We all were given potential to do something great with our lives. However we still doubt ourselves. Why do you doubt ourselves in the first place ? Fear that we can’t sustain. Habitual doubter – It’s habit – sidenote: it take 21 days to break a habit. We lack the skills or the experiences Not putting the past behind us We believe what others day Surround by people who doubt themselves Comfort Zone/ Complacent All these things can make you doubt yourself. Doubt your potential and then it can kill your dream ! So listen we do not have time for the dream killing or the dream killers. Doubt definitely kills dreams more than failure. Doubt will have you thinking all negative thought on why something can not happen for you. Listen: Believe in yourself… Im going to say it again. …

5 Ways to Hold Yourself Accountable Accountability: Calling yourself out ! Me: Alayna! Myself: Huh lol  Me: Yeah you.. come to the carpet ! We need to talk ! Myself: *sigh* Okay  Accountability works the other way to you know. You can’t always hold others accountable for what they do… you have start look at yourself and what you do too. Before I wrote out my goals for March I reflected on the month of February. I noticed that I did not reach any of my personal goals nor was I consistent on my blog. I was thinking and I was coming up with some many excuses as to why I did not achieve my goals or work on my blog enough ! None of it was making sense. As I was pointing  fingers at other things in regards to why I was not being consistent on my blog or reaching my goals… I had three fingers point back at me. It was on me !  I let myself down, I was being lazy, I was not using my time wisely . It was all on me! I had to hold myself accountable for  my actions and choices. Tough pill …

Do you need a new wardrobe?.. I know I do. I have been struggling. My goal this month was to upgrade my fashion. Project Fashion Style Up. But I don’t have any extra money to spend on my wardrobe. Overtime has been cut sooo I have wear what I already got hun…..  So what do I do ? What do we do friend lol. I could give up SHOPPING,  but I’m not a quitter FASHION ON A BUDGET TIPS Tips for Fashion fam with the small pockets. My money ain’t long sis.. Im broke man! What are the secrets to looking look fashion forward with a budget. The struggle is real.  So here are some the tips that I think can help my sisters with short pockets and extend their coins.  You ready.. take a look.   Set a Budget: Like your everyday finance you have to set a budget. Clothes is not up high on the list. So first figure how much money you have to spend on clothes. What you have left over.  So figure out what need. Get 100 buck in cash if that what you have to spend extra and stick to your list of clothes that you …

Baby Steps Are Good Steps Baby Steps: Small/ realistic/ attainable goal Yes I am back with another struggle blogger chronicle. This something that I really struggle with . Today I am taking about baby steps. No not the steps that your baby took. I am talking about the the small goals. The goals that are easy to meet.  Life really can have you in a rat race all the time. You feel you always have to be moving fast, or reach for big goal. Have you ever thought to yourself that a goal can’t be met because you haven’t taken the necessary baby steps to make it to the big goal. What I am saying you can not go from 0 to 1000 in one day. Yes millennials we have seen so many of our counterparts becoming over night success. Question is are they really overnight success? Did you see all the work they had to put in to get to the big goal ? Think about that question for a minute. Yes you only seen the glow up right. I have to think about this all the time as a blogger.  Why do we want everything now ? As …

Yeah you !! What are you thankful for ? And really think about this questions before you answer it. This is the time for you to not complain but to embrace all the things that you are thankful for. I am thankful for these things. For Life: I am so thankful to be alive and breathing. Everyday is blessing ! My Parent: My mother and my father are the best beings in my world and thankful to have them both. Real talk, not many people can say they have strong relationship with their parents or their parents, or one of their parent have went on. So when I find myself getting frustrated or taking them for granted I stop that shit. I thank God all the time for them. LOL: I am thankful for all “real LOL moment”. Those moments that you laugh so loud. The laughs that make you laugh box hurt lol Good Health- I can say this year I have some battles with my blood pressure, and anxiety this year. I am thankful for these small challenges because I know I can overcome all of them. They make me stronger. The good news is that my blood …

So the weekend after last I was in Eastern Market taking a few pictures. I ran across Detroit Hustles Harder Store. I heard a lot about this brand however I never stumble upon the store. I know I know… How can you be a Detroit Native and not know where the Detroit stores are. “I don’t have the answer sway”. All I know is that I finally stumble upon this hidden gem.  I love the feel of the store. It had a industrial/ hipster feel to it. I love how cozy the shop made me feel. I love city like anything ! When I enter into the store is was party going on in their. It wasn’t really a party, it was bunch of ladies that seem to be out of town turnin up. They has a little champagne and they spending some money ! They were going  live on Facebook and Instagram. I was little afraid to go into because I thought it was private party. However, I had my sidekick… mommy… and she enter in the store with out hesitation. LOL My momma is G ! What does Detroit Hustles  Harder means to me? As a Detroit Native …

Who are you before you started doing whatever to impress that crowd? Who were you before he got all up in your head? Do you even remember who you are ?  Girl I know the struggle I’m trying to put all my pieces back together. Lost in the sauce I’ve been there. When they say be yourself its easier said then done. I am here to say it possible. That what I am currently doing. I’m finding myself again. Reason why I was so lost because I taught myself at a young age how to be like other people. Since I was young girl I wanted to be in the “in” crowd. With the popular girls, being the girl that all the guys liked. I really just wanted everyone to like me. My fashion sense always changed and my mind set was all over the place. No matter how hard I tried I was still that weird, awkward, cute, silly, crazy girl that I tried to hide. However all the constant change and trying to stay up on everything left me so confuse. Who am I ? Lord I don’t know. Can you answer it confidently?  Im trying to find …