DROPPIN’ GEMS: Doubt Kills Dreams

DROPPIN’ GEMS: Doubt Kills Dreams

Have you heard the phrase… “Doubt kills more dream than failure ever will” ? Yeah I came across this quote on Pinterest and it really got me thinking about self doubt and how easy we can fall to it. Doubt can make you lack confidence in your abilities to accomplish something.  It hold you back from doing great things.  We all were given potential to do something great with our lives. However we still doubt ourselves.

Why do you doubt ourselves in the first place ?

  1. Fear that we can’t sustain.
  2. Habitual doubter – It’s habit – sidenote: it take 21 days to break a habit.
  3. We lack the skills or the experiences
  4. Not putting the past behind us
  5. We believe what others day
  6. Surround by people who doubt themselves
  7. Comfort Zone/ Complacent

All these things can make you doubt yourself. Doubt your potential and then it can kill your dream ! So listen we do not have time for the dream killing or the dream killers. Doubt definitely kills dreams more than failure. Doubt will have you thinking all negative thought on why something can not happen for you. Listen: Believe in yourself… Im going to say it again. Believe in yourself. You can do anything that you put your mind. That might sound cliche but it the truth.

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How do we stop doubting ourselves

  1. Stay inspired: No matter if you truly believe in what your doing you have to have that little push to keep us going. So do what you have to do to keep you inspire to keep going. Literally it inspiration everywhere you just need to receptive to it.
  2. Stop comparing yourself: I think I have said these few times in different post but you have stop comparing yourself to others and what they are doing. I know it hard because you want to be great too. However time has it on agenda for you. You make yourself feel inadequate.
  3. Be aware when you are being your worst critic: I think you are selling yourself short when you over criticized
  4. Postive affirmations: I like to read positive and motivational quotes to keep in the right head space when I am feeling down.

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“Self Doubt is the anchor that keeps our ships from sailing”.

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On the Fashion Tip:

I feel like I am bring a spring denim look to the table. Of course you already know I have an addiction to graphic tees. It just so me ! Denim can be done anyway. This is a simply everyday look. Why did get this WOMAN graphic tees? Simply I got it because I am woman.

Shop My Look:

Plus “Woman” Graphic Tee// Boohoo – LINK

Special Thanks:

JORDVN X RYVN (Jordan), a Detroit Photographer, who took these amazing photos of me. His work is beautiful and he capture the moment so lovely. Thanks again

Instagram: @hecutsa|Facebook: Jordan X RYVN

Location: Royal Oak, Michigan

So my dearest readers and myself believe in yourself and your dream. Doubt kills dream and we don’t have time for it. Your dream matters. So stop doubting yourself and believe in that dream and make it a reality !

push forward. chase the dream.

Alayna

All That Color… Its April !

All That Color… Its April !

Wow its the day after Easter. Can you believe it was Easter Sunday, April Fools Day, and rent is due all at the same time. Wow !! Last month went my way I can say. I was organize and I noticed how many things I say that accomplish. I learn that accountability is important when it comes to being a blogger and just real life stuff ! So yes,  I knocked all my personal goals out the park last month and I am excited to keep this momentum going in April.  In April Sexual Assault Awareness Month, this something we really need to focus on. Also make sure we address with all women and men, especially with our women of color. So its definitely going to be address on the blog. Lastly the fashun.. oh how I love fashion. I want to take it a step further on with my look.

Fashion Note

My wardrobe consist of denim jeans, graphic tees, black jeggings, and dresses!  Thats really it, my staples to my everyday looks. However I still feel like I am dressing like Alayna the college student. It is time to grow. Again, I keep stressing how much I want to grow up when it comes to fashion. So that is the plan is to grow up. I still want to be myself however just advance my look. On the flip side, I was flipping through the April 2018 InStyle magazine, and I came across a spread about mixing some of the hottest hues caught on the fashion runways. Omg I was so inspired ! So yes we are bring all that color to blog! For the month of a April yes we are still keeping the focus on spring fashion. However I am intrigued by vibrant colors, and a utilitarian look.

Blog Note

For the blog this month I am in the giving spirit. April is the month for paying it forward. so yes I want to offer a few things to you sis (my reader).  So stay tuned on my blog and social media accounts. I guarantee you will see a giveaway,  and a few freebies! On another good note I excite to say that I finally got a chance to collaborate with an awesome brand. I can’t wait to show what I am working on.

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Personal Note/ Goals

On a personal note last month went really well for me. I clean up my room and put a lot of things back in order for myself. I completed my fasting and even lost a little weight. YAY !!

  1. Finish reading “The Hate U Give” . Very awesome novel
  2. Gain more self awareness for my actions and what I say
  3. Face my fear. I am getting my wisdom teeth remove the 1st of May. I am so scared !
  4. Consistency on the blog. Stick to my schedule!
  5. Continue drinking 64oz of water daily
  6. Enhance my look

So let makes this month great sis!

push forward.

Alayna

We All Have to Hold Ourselves Accountable !

We All Have to Hold Ourselves Accountable !

5 Ways to Hold Yourself Accountable

Accountability: Calling yourself out !

Me: Alayna!

Myself: Huh lol 

Me: Yeah you.. come to the carpet ! We need to talk !

Myself: *sigh* Okay 

Accountability works the other way to you know. You can’t always hold others accountable for what they do… you have start look at yourself and what you do too.

Before I wrote out my goals for March I reflected on the month of February. I noticed that I did not reach any of my personal goals nor was I consistent on my blog. I was thinking and I was coming up with some many excuses as to why I did not achieve my goals or work on my blog enough ! None of it was making sense. As I was pointing  fingers at other things in regards to why I was not being consistent on my blog or reaching my goals… I had three fingers point back at me. It was on me !  I let myself down, I was being lazy, I was not using my time wisely . It was all on me! I had to hold myself accountable for  my actions and choices. Tough pill to swallow right . I realize that it time to take myself serious ! Stop sabotaging myself! I was the reason why my growth was stalling.

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GETTING IN MY OWN WAY ! UMMM WELL IT TIME TO GET IT TOGETHER!

What does the phrase mean “holding yourself accountable” ?

Accountability alone is about holding something responsible. Personal responsibility is holding yourself responsible- not someone else.  I am learning that once you become more aware of yourself, and holding yourself accountable that you will  improve dramatically. So be proactive! You have to change your mindset! If you want something you have to go out there and get it. So if you want to flourish in life, start holding yourself accountable for what you do and say. Be more aware of your actions, responsibilities, and goals. (Those are three ways to hold yourself accountable) I have a understanding if I do this I will see a big improvement in my personal life, and professional life.

5 Ways to Hold Yourself Accountable

  1. Be in the right mindset:  I think if you want to hold yourself accountable that you need to be in a positive state of mind. I like creating goals after reading a book that put me in a good mood. So if I feel inspire then I feel compel to create and  do !
  2. Create a to-do list and honor it !: To hold yourself accountable you have to be a little organize. I prefer to create a to do list! The list has to be on me at all times and I have to actively cross things off. So yes write your goals, or what you want to accomplish on some paper.  Make it accessible and honer that list. Cross things off that accomplish.  Sidenote:  Do not start anything new until you knock the things you want to accomplish first!
  3. Spend your time wisely: Make sure you are using all your time dedicated to what you need to do ! Example: I lose out on  time because I am literally scrolling on Instagram. That could be time I am using to write out my blog post for the next day.  Oh man ! Yes you have become more aware of how you are using your time sis! Make it all count.
  4. Have a person that hold you accountable: Get you a buddy (real friend) that will help hold yourself  accountable. A friend that will make you aware of your actions, and what you are doing. Everybody has that one friend that wants to see them grow, so put them to use !
  5. Stop putting things off: A lot of times I put things off because I am scared. Scared of the outcome ! Fear is a b word. If something that you want to do set some goals and do it ! We all gotta do the work! There are no shortcuts in success !
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Go out and be great ! Pull yourself on the carpet and hold your self accountable for your actions and choices, what your responsible for, and your personal goals. I want use to grow sis.

SIDENOTE: The fashion is coming yall !!! I have a couple photoshoots plan and done ! So keep rocking with me!

push foward

Alayna

 

The Truth Will Set You Free

The Truth Will Set You Free

Living your truth

What does the phrase living your truth mean ? Are you who you say your are.? Are you you being your authentic self.

Question is who are you before the world told you who to be ?

Living your truth is being your most authentic self in my opinion… that what it means to me. I think it is important to live your truth because who really wants to spend there lives trapped by living up to expectations and definitions. I know we have done it at  some part of our life.  We have lied about who we are and over it time it gets really really easy. Until you wake one day and feel really incomplete ! Or we always seeking validation from others. I say it time to strip down and bare it all.  However it hard and scary !

The Struggle:

As a nation I think we have push the envelop to far. We so desperately want to liked… no way do want to stand out due to fear. Fear that we have seen from our peer that show the world their true selves.  It not always peaches & cream. If our world can judge people just based of color alone then what else can we use to judge one another.

Yes it is struggle being your true authentic self. I know for it really hard because I built up this life because I wanted to be liked and respected by other. Over the years I learn that not everyone is going to like you. So never seek validation for other people.  Stop taking everything so personal .You have to learn to love yourself unconditionally. Be yourself ! No let me tell you I do not have it all together. I struggle with this everyday ! I am me that all I can be at the end

So I ask who where you before the world told you who to be ? Do you feel complete? Do you seek validation ?

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So keys to living your truth is:

1: Accept yourself! You can only change this by accepting all the good and the bad things that make up you.

2: Take it day by day.

3: Sit back and define you truth ! Have some alone time and get in tune with yourself.

4: Once you understand your truth then you live your life free, proud, and out loud !

So remember the long you continue to pretend to be someone else or hide behind the lives we build you will never know if you reach your full potential. Oprah said this ! SO let all of your lies, definitions, and expectations slide right off of you and be free

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How you know your living your truth ?

1: You don’t feel the need to seek validation!

2: You feel complete !

3: You know your worth!

4: You do not need to depend on other to make you feel goo !

So this is what I going to work on over the year is being more comfortable with myself. Let it all show and not be afraid to let other see it ! I really hope this helps everyone !

 

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