The Year of the Woman & Spring Fashion- Its March !

The Year of the Woman & Spring Fashion- Its March !

I made it yall February was definitely a month that really tested my faith, my patience, all of it.  I had a lot of plans last month and really nothing went the way I wanted it to. So many plans things that I wanted to do but it just did not happen…. and it happens. For March I plan to be really on it ! Positive side to February  I’ve been fasting and I have been doing consistently. Drinking more water ! Also an awesome achievement that I will discuss later on in the month… 

March we have so much to look forward too. Like its Women’s History Month! Definitely going to give you Black Girl Magic this month ! This month I want to focus on getting my home together. Cleaning, Organizing, making my space likable again. So this is definitely going to help me with self care. Nutrition is key. I want to literally feel good this month.  Super excited for…………………………..SPRING TIME FASHION! 

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FASHION NOTE

You got your magazines for the spring fashion! I got all my magazines for the spring fashion and I am all the way here for it. I want to be a bit more daring when it comes to fashun! . Yes InStyle, Essence, Harper Bazaar got me all the way right.  I am so ready to try out some new styles that I normally don’t do. Of course I have to stay true to me but spicy things up never hurt anybody.

Mixed Prints, Transparent looks, Bright colors, pastels ! This is what I want to bring to FashionLayn this month. So I am going to be committed to bring this to you girl ! Also, I think I want to splurge a bit this month. In January I talk about in investment pieces.   I want to invest in a nice pair of jeans that I know are going to last me for a while.

Stay tuned I got a lot of stuff I want to offer and lot of growing up I want to do when it comes to fashion sense. I can not wait to show you how I styled these checker pants in the picture!

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BLOG NOTE:

This month on the blog I really want to focus on spring fashion and it being women’s history month.  So yes womanhood it is…. that going to be the topic of the discuss for the month. So really I need to reach out to my blogger friend and we need to get some collaborations going.  Lol how do my ovaries make you uncomfortable…. LOL no but serious! Since February was so hectic I still plan to highlight black women. In addition, maybe showcase women own business in the city. That always cool to. SO yes that the plan this month and I’m sticking to it.

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PERSONAL NOTE/ GOALS

Personally this month I want to clean up my space. Clean space represents a clear mind and my mind is running all over the place. As I blog more and get more into fashion I learn that having a clean space is key to feeling at home. I haven’t felt like my apartment is my home. So with self care, we are going to discuss cleaning up our shit !  We have to do it sis.  Its one of my goals.

  1. Yes goal one is to clean up my shit.  My shit meaning my home space
  2. Follow through on my actually plan.
  3. Continue my intermittent fast
  4. Continue to patronize black businesses
  5. Apply for a new job.

 

So yes I have a lot of stuff that I want to accomplish this month when it comes myself, fashion, and the blog. I definitely not going to beat myself this month if I do not accomplish everything I set my mind on but I have to hold myself accountable. However, I learned at the end of February that I need to follow through with my plan. No more shortcuts. So lets stay focus and execute on our plan ladies.

push forward and you will see me in my next post.

 

Alayna

Location: Detroit, MI

Photographer: Alayna– ME 🙂

 

 

Move in Silence Like Lasagna

Move in Silence Like Lasagna

The older I get the more I understand the phrase move in silence. It that phrase let you now that you got moves, things being plan, execution, and big news .  All those things that let people know that you got some things brewing. But to often I see people typing the phrase move in silence and not actually abiding by the phrase : moveee in silenceee. rated r shut up GIF You don’t have to tell everybody what you doing sis. Also, too many people typing the phrase and not putting any action to it.   Yeah girl she aint doing nothing she said she was doing.  Lastly, sharing your big news can put a damper on your mood because of the wrong. “Yea girl how she get job I think I am more qualified then her.” Smh  hold your horses sis. LOL sis you don’t have tell everybody everything or that you moving in silence. I feel like if you say  something that open the flood gates for bs.

“plot quietly and humbly.  manifest fruitfully and abundantly.

Why is it super important to move in silence ?

  • It is important to move in silence because in all honesty is you plan fully planned out? Are you ready for the big questions? Are you prepared to execute? If you still in the phrase where you are constructing the idea, I think you should move in silence.  Don’t jump the gun. It necessary to keep this to yourself until you have your plan all figure before you execute. Once you got it all figure out you go ahead type in your caption.. “Im moving in silence LOL”

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  • It is important to move in silence because it open up the flood gates for opinions.   V All opinions are not simple or sweet. Some opinions can be critical and leave you feeling a little attack with what you have going.  Not excited anymore ? So be aware that you idea might not reach everybody and that is okay. To avoid being so vulnerable keep it to yourself until you ready. Once you understand that you go ahead and type in your caption..  “Im moving in silence. LOL”
  • It is important to move in silence because I believe you should and want to protect your creativity. This is similar to number 2 but it true too many opinion can cripple your creativity so I say keep it  to yourself. Once you understand your creativity is precious then you can type in your caption, “ I am moving in silence LOL”

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  • Lastly, It is important to move in silence because you already know the hater gon hate. The envious eyes are upon you when you have good news or big plans. I know you want to tell the world your good news but there are jealous people all around us sis. They just can’t help it they love you but they hoping you fall.  To avoid the mood killers keep it to yourself or tell the people that you know are geniunely rooting for you.  Understand this people are going to hate whether your doing bad or good. So once that is understood go head and type that phrase.. Im moving in silence. LOL

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So yes to all my sister hustling, bossing up, and making moves protect yo shit. Excuse my frankness. But in all seriousness I want yall to succeed and also on your way to success I don’t want you get stifle by talking and not doing or getting tripped up by people.  So yes hunny be excited about what you got going on.   We don’t have time for the killing of the vibes. So continue to vibe, stay in your line, don’t compare, please don’t hate on each other and grow. Focus sis or your plans and make moves! SHEEESH in silence tho  🙂

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move in silence ladies.

push forward.

So I’m Just to Cooool for You… “Right”!

So I’m Just to Cooool for You… “Right”!

I stay in the Friend Zone… Living Single in 2018s kinda of world I’m glad I got my girls !!! LOL .

Listen to me …I have been curved, I have been friend zoned. I have been confused. I have been without a label. Simply I have no idea where my love life is gonna go. SO I am Living Single 🙂 living single GIF

BARE WITH ME… THIS IS ONE MY POST THAT IS OFF TOPIC BUT I FEEL LIKE MY LADIES THAT HAVE A HARD TIME DATING NEED TO KNOW THIS.. SPECIAL SHARE

I am so over trying to date in this day in age. It so hard ! But I am not gonna give up.

I have always been the girl who tried to be down with the guys. I am also super shy.  I would watch sports, play video games all those things to impress the guys.  Dating is a nervous thing for me so I have a tendency of hiding my true feelings,  and my excitement.  I want to show I am really chill. Also I always wait for the guys to take lead. So with all that being said I had to start looking back at myself and see why dating and my love life is at a stand still.  Maybe you are just tooo cool for the guys. Could it be I am actually holding myself back from finding love …. lol I always thought it was just the guys fault lol. I can’t place the blame on all the guys I have come in too contact with.

With all that being said you just play it too cool when in comes to dating or being in relationship.

How can this be… These are the things that I learn from myself that show I play it too cool… Something to think about it !  Have you display some of these thing ?

  • Being too passive can attract the wrong people: Trying to be chill can be actually read as you don’t take anything serious. Well I do take things seriously I just do not wanna over estimate this.
  • Never take any action: I was ashamed and nervous to take my dating to online. At least be willing to try and put yourself out there. So I made it on a dating site. Its okay 🙂
  • Giving off the “Friend Zone” vibes:  I am the girl who really likes the guy, but  he coming to me for advice about another girl. WHY !!! I have been placed in the friend zone a lot. People read friend vibes off of me all the time. So be honest and tell that guy how you feel. Shoot your shot !

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  • Pick up the phone: I love to text ! But my suggestion is to pick up the phone and have a conversation. I really miss this !

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  • “Friend Zone” but he wants the whole chicken… really the thighs and the breast. LOL( Friends with BENEFITS): This one is really not for me! I have been in this situation and I didn’t even know it until I ask “WHAT ARE WE”… He said friends that are just enjoy each other. This situation can get really messy if feelings start to flare.  So make it clear what you want ! and if your feelings change about them let it be known immediately.
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  • Easy Going= Fail!: I don’t know how to speak up somethings, I go with the flow too much. I just want to show that I am easy going… fail ! My friends told me to speak up sometimes about what you want to do. It may show of that you are not interested.

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  • No eye contact: When I am nervous on date I hate making eye contact with the guy. Are you interest or not ? So don’t be afraid to show your interested with your eyes. Give a little eye contact
  • Waiting for them to take the lead: Honestly why I am waiting for guys to let me know how they feel about me ? Lord knows men do not know how to show their emotions!
  • I hate rejection: Because I afraid of rejection I don’t even try ! How is that going to improve your love life. Go ahead and put yourself our there. Are you gonna land in the hospital if he says no? HMMM maybe not lol!

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IN CONCLUSION…

If I want to date more then I definitely going to be a bit more proactive. Of course not gonna give up on men lol.  LOL if you wanna date you can if you don’t not a problem. I just going to be a bit more proactive with dating. Maybe get over my fear in asking guys out.  Work on my shyness and work on be too chill. “I really do care I just don’t want you to know attitude” I’m gonna work on it. I plan to speak up and tell men exactly how I feel and what I want.

 

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Golden Moment for all Woman

Golden Moment for all Woman

and for men…..

I am late to the party. Honestly I normally don’t watch the Golden Globe Awards. It always seem middle age and boring to me. I had to watch Oprah accept the Cecil B DeMille Award. I wasn’t prepared for Oprah to make a remarkable, powerful speech.  Lord she really brought the house down and I am glad that I was able to witness and hear this speech today.  I am the young woman sitting in front of the tv : “cheap seats” absorbing it all being inspire by the movement. My voice is powerful and my truth is my tool. Its one of those speeches that I will carry with me.. I printed it out of course. The movement and Oprah’s speech made me feel comfortable telling my ME TOO story. 

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I remember being at a college party with some friends. It was so crazy I was on my way out  I got pulled in the bathroom by this guy that was at the party. It was an apartment party off of campus.  The guy was there the whole night and he was drunk and I remember not really paying any attention to him.  While in the bathroom he was feeling all on me and kissing all over me. I can remember saying stop and no and in my head I DID NOT want this at all. I remember trying to say calm… don’t make a scene. I was frozen.  Thank GOD my friends were there and they were able to get me out of situation.  Thank GOD nothing else happen.  How did I condition myself to just brush it off. What the hell was I thinking? It took me awhile to really understand but this was sexual assault. It was not right.  I didn’t even realize that actually happen to me.   I think about how many times… too many times I brushed off men making me uncomfortable. Putting me in a bad position.  Just saying men will be men. But enough is enough. Me too & Time is Up.

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Ladies stand up !  LISTEN UP !! I’M TALKING No matter what somebody has to say stand up and speak you truth. You are powerful. Lets make it point to change the norm. This is great day for woman, a great day for change. Understand this we still have a lot of hurdles to get over. But it forces us all, women and men to have the conversation. We need the conversation !! 

OPRAH 2020 ??

Well, lets Oprah live her best life.

speak you truth

push forward.

Alayna